Blogs


Notices

Language of Letting Go - November 4

Old 11-04-2007, 03:09 AM
  # 1 (permalink)  
Ann
Nature Girl
Thread Starter
 
Ann's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: By The Lake
Posts: 58,939
Language of Letting Go - November 4

You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go

Anger

Feeling angry - and, sometimes, the act of blaming - is a natural and necessary part of accepting loss and change - of grieving. We can allow ourselves and others to become angry as we move from denial toward acceptance.

As we come to terms with loss and change, we may blame our higher Power, others, or ourselves. The person may be connected to the loss, or he or she may be an innocent bystander. We may hear ourselves say: "If only he would have done that... If I wouldn't have done that... Why didn't God do it differently?"... We know that blame doesn't help. In recovery, the watchwords are self-responsibility and personal accountability, not blame. Ultimately, surrender and self-responsibility are the only concepts that can move us forward, but to get there we may need to allow ourselves to feel angry and to occasionally indulge in some blaming.

It is helpful, in dealing with others, to remember that they, too, may need to go through their angry stage to achieve acceptance. To not allow others, or ourselves, to go through anger and blame may slow down the grief process.

Trust the grief process and ourselves. We won't stay angry forever. But we may need to get mad for a while as we search over what could have been, to finally accept what is.

God, help me learn to accept my own and others' anger as a normal part of achieving acceptance and peace. Within that framework, help me strive for personal accountability.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
Ann is offline  
Old 11-04-2007, 03:12 AM
  # 2 (permalink)  
Ann
Nature Girl
Thread Starter
 
Ann's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: By The Lake
Posts: 58,939
Imagine that, anger as a path to acceptance and peace.

I think it's all part of being aware of our emotions, acknowledging them and learning why we feel that way...and then moving past them using our tools of recovery.

Hugs
Ann is offline  

Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
 
Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off




All times are GMT -7. The time now is 06:40 AM.