Language of Letting Go - November 1
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Language of Letting Go - November 1
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Transformation through Grief
We're striving for acceptance in recovery - acceptance of our past, other people, our present circumstances, and ourselves. Acceptance brings peace, healing, and freedom - the freedom to take care of ourselves.
Acceptance is not a one step process. Before we achieve acceptance, we go toward it in stages of denial, anger, negotiating, and sadness. We call these stages the grief process. Grief can be frustrating. It can be confusing. We may vacillate between sadness and denial. Our behaviors may vacillate. Others may not understand us. We may neither understand our own behavior nor ourselves while we're grieving our losses. Then one day, things become clear. The fog lifts, and we see that we have been struggling to face and accept a particular reality.
Don't worry. If we are taking steps to take care of ourselves, we will move through this process at exactly the right pace. Be understanding with yourself and others for the very human way we go through transition.
Today, I will accept the way I go through change. I will accept the grief process, and its stages, as the way people accept loss and change.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
Transformation through Grief
We're striving for acceptance in recovery - acceptance of our past, other people, our present circumstances, and ourselves. Acceptance brings peace, healing, and freedom - the freedom to take care of ourselves.
Acceptance is not a one step process. Before we achieve acceptance, we go toward it in stages of denial, anger, negotiating, and sadness. We call these stages the grief process. Grief can be frustrating. It can be confusing. We may vacillate between sadness and denial. Our behaviors may vacillate. Others may not understand us. We may neither understand our own behavior nor ourselves while we're grieving our losses. Then one day, things become clear. The fog lifts, and we see that we have been struggling to face and accept a particular reality.
Don't worry. If we are taking steps to take care of ourselves, we will move through this process at exactly the right pace. Be understanding with yourself and others for the very human way we go through transition.
Today, I will accept the way I go through change. I will accept the grief process, and its stages, as the way people accept loss and change.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
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One of the darkest periods of my recovery was when I finally had to accept that my son may die in his disease. I had to go through a grief process to get past this pain and it was much harder and much more painful than I thought it would be...but it did end and the light shone once more. I have never given up hope, but I no longer use hope as an expectation and today it has a special place in my heart, right next to faith.
I was told that the only way to get past the pain was to walk through it and found that so true. I know now that I never have to revisit that dark place again.
I think we all grieve the loss of what was, what might have been and the person we knew before addiction. It's a natural process but that doesn't make it any easier.
By sticking very close to our support, working our program and praying a lot, we get through it, and having gone through it we grow.
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I was told that the only way to get past the pain was to walk through it and found that so true. I know now that I never have to revisit that dark place again.
I think we all grieve the loss of what was, what might have been and the person we knew before addiction. It's a natural process but that doesn't make it any easier.
By sticking very close to our support, working our program and praying a lot, we get through it, and having gone through it we grow.
Hugs
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