heartbroken616

I am so sick it all. Yesterday I took the children to go on their visit. When I arrived I found him sleeping head down on the table with a beer can by his side. He has once again chosen something over his kids. Then I come to find out that he blames others for him not getting a visit. I wrote him a letter. I want to scream & shout & slap him silly. How dare he do this to his kids. A party was the plan for the day, with the game on and relatives all around. Yet the kids came back home with me. How many times can I do this? How many times can I see these kids let down. When will it ever end? I am just so angry, dissappointed and frustrated with his selfishness and inability to make a good choice He is no type of role model I want my kids to look up to.:wtf2

Ann

I'm sorry for this sad situation and like you, I think it is saddest of all for children who don't understand that it's not about them but about a terrible sickness that is bigger than all the love they can give.

I believe the addict blames everything and everyone except themselves because they hate the person they have become and are not prepared to accept responsibility for their actions or their life. Blame and shame are just part of the darkness of addiction.

What helped me was finding meetings for me, that helped me regain my balance and understand a little better the demon of addiction that I was dealing with. Addiction is truly a family disease and we all need help and support to find a better and healthier way to live.

My prayers go out for all of you, that you may find your own peace and acceptance of that which you cannot change.

Hugs

lil516

What a sad post...

I am so sorry the children are going through this...I work with young children and know how they can internalize this kind of pain/rejection

I know you must have a full plate but please be aware of changes in your children's behavior etc....

they really do need guidance sorting out their feelings....alateen (depending on their ages) or a good counselor (perhaps through school) might be a good idea...

please know you and your children are in my prayers....

hope213

it ends when you end it. i am so sorry the kids had to go thruogh this & you too. it is so sad for them to think they are going to a party & then this. it just isn't right.hugs to you & your children & prayers for u all.

caileesnana

:sorry

Sorry you and the kids are having to go through this. You can stop it though, he wont' until he is ready.

Prayers for you and yours,
susan
:praying

katie44

Oh the blame game, they are never at fault. Your poor kids if only they knew the impact they were having on them. Unfortunately there addiction is always about them and everything is secondary in there lives. Alanon is a wonderful program. My heart goes out to you and your children. Look after yourself and your children.

Wascally Wabbit

Next time, do what I did, and take a photo.

duet_4-8

Yep-I've done this too. "A picture is worth a thousand words" as they say. In some cases it is also able to stop a thousand words of quacking......