obsessed

My 18 year old AD moved back home about being in a crack house for close to 2 months. Came Thursday with a police escort to get her clothes because her grandfather called to tell her to get home so we could talk about what was going on. She had been attending classes at our local community college and we were concerned about her grades. I told her when she came back in June that she was not going to move in my home and rest up, gain some weight and go again and that is exactly what has happened.

greeteachday

I'm sorry for the pain you are feeling - it is so hard...No matter how firm our recovery roots, it hurts when they go back out. Hang tightly to your boundaries and be extra gentle with yourself. Hugs

rahsue

mother of a 22 yr old heroin addict here...... sorry you're going through this.
It's hard watching our children screw up their lives while we sit back and wait for an epiphany.

good luck with your recovery

sneakers

Iam not a mother yet, buy my mother kept me in prayer and know I have five years and four months of soberity.

God is able to do more then we can think or ask.

Your friend,
Sneakers :praying

rahsue

sneakers, WOW. I am very proud of you!!!!!!!

mooselips

((((obsessed))))
Probably one of the hardest things we do, is having to detach ourselves from the drama...

My heart hurts for you...

Sneakers...that is WONDERFUL! I'm happy for you!

BigSis

As the mom of 2 addicts and a 3 year double winner who attend Alanon, I can tell you that I have seen some INCREDIBLE miracles.

But what I also know is that they happen way past when WE think they should happen. And under circumstances we could never imagine.

The day before my daughter got clean, she spent the night in a drug house. I was swimming in despair... this was following her 4th inpatient rehab, and she had seemed receptive to the idea of recovery. Once again, I felt desperation and hopelessness descend....


And then she got clean. I didn't believe it. I didn't get my hopes up. I had seen too many good days followed by the bad. I had no idea this was her time. None whatsoever. All those other times when I had hoped "this was it" had never materialized. And suddenly it dawned on me about 6 months into this just how long she had been clean.

Today, she has well over 2 years, a magical one-year old boy, with another coming in January.

There is always hope.... ((((hugs)))))

caileesnana

Another mom here, I am so sorry for you pain, it hurts like hell!:sorry

you can't change or control what she does or doesn't do. Prayer is all w/ have, that and hope! People recover every day, when they want to. Read the sticky's again, they help me when things like this have happened. Each time I read them, I understand or see something differently.

Love her, that's all you can do. There is a new book by the same title that I recommend.

Prayers for you and your daughter,
susan
:praying

obsessed

Thank you all so very much for all the words of encouragement!! They all mean so very much to me!! I realize that I have always tried to make her world perfect and it has not worked before and wont work this time either. It is her decision to do this not mine but I would try again to make it perfect while my own world is crumbling again. Gotta go to work now and try to function as normally as I can at this point!! Hugs to you all!! Deanna

Spiritual Seeker

It seems from many of the stories I hear + witness that our young grown children don't usually quit until there are legal consequences. I know that nothing I do or say makes much of a difference other to to keep the connection alive until that time. Sending my son to rehab twice at my suggestion arrested the pace for awhile. I keep hope and faith alive. I work my program The rest is not up to me...it took me awhile to see that but now I know that most things are not up to me.
Walking side by side with you here.

hope213

welcome !!! i am the mom of an addict son.you did exactly right not letting your daughter stay with you if she is not stayiong clean.it is hard to detach from our addict children but we are helping them when we refuse to help them. keep coming back.prayers,