Language of Letting Go - August 29
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Language of Letting Go - August 29
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Owning Our Energy
Learn to keep your energy inside.
--From Women, Sex, and Addiction
Charlotte Davis Kasl, Ph.D.
For many reasons, we may have mastered the art of giving away our energy. We may have learned it when we were young because the feelings we had were too overwhelming to feel, and we did not know how to process them.
Much of our obsessing, our intense focus on others, is done to facilitate this "out of body" experience we call codependency.
We obsess, we babble, we become anxious. We try to control, care take, and fuss over others. Our energy spills out of us on to whomever.
Our energy is our energy. Our feelings, thoughts, issues, love, sexuality; our mental, physical, spiritual, sexual, creative, and emotional energy is ours.
We can learn to have healthy boundaries - healthy parameters - around our energy and ourselves. We can learn to keep our energy within ourselves and deal with our issues.
If we are trying to escape from our body, if our energy is spilling out of us in unhealthy ways, we can ask ourselves what is going on, what is hurting us, what we are avoiding, what we need to face, what we need to deal with.
Then, we can do that. We can come back home to live - in ourselves.
Today, I will keep my energy in my body. I will stay focused and within my boundaries. God, help me let go of my need to escape myself. Help me face my issues so I am comfortable living in my body.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
Owning Our Energy
Learn to keep your energy inside.
--From Women, Sex, and Addiction
Charlotte Davis Kasl, Ph.D.
For many reasons, we may have mastered the art of giving away our energy. We may have learned it when we were young because the feelings we had were too overwhelming to feel, and we did not know how to process them.
Much of our obsessing, our intense focus on others, is done to facilitate this "out of body" experience we call codependency.
We obsess, we babble, we become anxious. We try to control, care take, and fuss over others. Our energy spills out of us on to whomever.
Our energy is our energy. Our feelings, thoughts, issues, love, sexuality; our mental, physical, spiritual, sexual, creative, and emotional energy is ours.
We can learn to have healthy boundaries - healthy parameters - around our energy and ourselves. We can learn to keep our energy within ourselves and deal with our issues.
If we are trying to escape from our body, if our energy is spilling out of us in unhealthy ways, we can ask ourselves what is going on, what is hurting us, what we are avoiding, what we need to face, what we need to deal with.
Then, we can do that. We can come back home to live - in ourselves.
Today, I will keep my energy in my body. I will stay focused and within my boundaries. God, help me let go of my need to escape myself. Help me face my issues so I am comfortable living in my body.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
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We obsess, we babble, we become anxious. We try to control, care take, and fuss over others. Our energy spills out of us on to whomever.
Using my energy to take care of myself, makes me a better person not just for myself but for all those around me. Positive energy is when I use it to help me make it through the day with a good attitude and negative energy is when I throw it at something that isn't mine to own.
Just for today I will focus on positive energy, and let it shine.
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Ann,
I agree totally with today's reading. I have found that there are people and places with whom I can exchange positive energy. Those are the encounters where I walk away feeling really good and happy and rejuventated. There are other people and places that drain my energy - sometimes I can feel it being sucked out of me.
Early in recovery, I had to make a conscious decision to not be around the energy drainers. If it was unavoidable, I made an effort to spend extra time with those that gave me positive energy so I would have a really abundant supply. It was one of the ways I learned to take care of myself - if I am not in a good place, I really don't have anything to give anyone else unless I "stock up".
Thanks for your daily posts. I might not always saya thank you, but I appreciate them every day.
Cats
I agree totally with today's reading. I have found that there are people and places with whom I can exchange positive energy. Those are the encounters where I walk away feeling really good and happy and rejuventated. There are other people and places that drain my energy - sometimes I can feel it being sucked out of me.
Early in recovery, I had to make a conscious decision to not be around the energy drainers. If it was unavoidable, I made an effort to spend extra time with those that gave me positive energy so I would have a really abundant supply. It was one of the ways I learned to take care of myself - if I am not in a good place, I really don't have anything to give anyone else unless I "stock up".
Thanks for your daily posts. I might not always saya thank you, but I appreciate them every day.
Cats
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