I did it.. But, its hard

Old 08-21-2007, 08:37 AM
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I did it.. But, its hard

Well, as most of you know I was looking for a house. Me and the girls moved over the weekend. I have spoke to my ah. And he makes me feel so guilty. But, I am sticking to my path. It hurts alot. and I am nervous but, I know I am going to be okay. And now if he stays sober or not is his choice. I told him this isn't what I wanted but I wasn't going to enable him any more. I would help him if he wants to be sober but thats it. everyone keep me in your prayer please.. He has told me all kinds of things. Promising the moon.. BUt, I told him no drugs for at least 6 months and then we can talk about things...
Thanks everyone for all the support I get here.
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sending lots of hugs and prayers your way.
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Old 08-21-2007, 08:51 AM
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Sending my prayers for you and your family. I know it is hard but protecting your kids is the most important things and good for you that you are doing just that. Take care. Hugs, Marle
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Old 08-21-2007, 08:57 AM
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your girls are lucky to have such a caring mom, and i am glad you are taking care of yourself. blessings, k
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Ditto to what was said above. You hang in there honey!! You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
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Old 08-21-2007, 10:30 AM
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Good for you! Keep your head up.
you and yours are in my prayers,
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Old 08-21-2007, 10:39 AM
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You're a wonderful mom and a strong woman. Wow!!!! Gosh, I know how hard it is...I promise that it WILL get easier with time if you are both protective and tender with yourself.

Congratulations for doing what was right -- and for recognizing the "promise you the moon" for what it is.....empty promises from an addict who's desperate to have his enabler back so he doesn't have to seek recovery. They'll get real creative with those promises...addicts are very resourceful manipulators...take care.

Hugs, prayers, wisdom and strength to you, your kids, and your AH.

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Old 08-21-2007, 11:51 AM
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Just wanted to add my congrats to the others...because doing the right thing can be very hard in the beginning.......but if you stick to your boundaries, have as little contact as possible....who knows by the end of 6 months, you may like your peaceful life so much, you may not want to go back, whether he is sober or not.....

Wishing you a healthy, peaceful journey to recovery.....
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Old 08-31-2007, 09:55 AM
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I should have listened to the little contact. which I did at first then I talked to him..
I feel so bad..But, I know I am doing the right thing... spoke to hos mom this morning. SHe had left a message for him. She wants to have him picked up... But jail is not rehab. I have to let her do what she feel she needs to though. He told me crying of course he didnt want to lose his family. I just told him that was his choice. Be sober and we can work on everything ele. So I will see.. but, I refuse to let him come around us on drugs... I have lived my last days like that.
Thanks for listening...
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Old 08-31-2007, 03:07 PM
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Oh the promises addicts make and NEVER deliver on. Keep that in mind.
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I'll be praying for you.
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Old 09-01-2007, 03:00 PM
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Good for you sweety, I'll be praying for you & your children.

PS It does get easier with time..........lots of time!!!
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Glad you made the change! I will keep you and the children in my prayers.
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Old 09-01-2007, 04:41 PM
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you do not have anything to feel guilty for. you are taking care of yourself & your children. i am glad you got the house, now you can have the peace you deserve. prayers for u, the girls & your husband.
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