Frog_2hop

For so long I have felt guilty and trivial complaining about all the little things so I held them all in, trying to just let those bounce off me, heaven knows there is enough big crisis events to complain about when married to an addict.....but lately I've realized allllllllllllll the constant little things are like the drip..... drip..... drip...... from water torture and I'm not trivial to set boundaries to protect myself from it. I am becoming more and more aware of the damage that had had on my everyday thinking and the roadblocks it puts in my healing. Whew, each time I reach an aha I feel soooo much better.

Ann

Frog, it sounds like recovery is sinking in for you. As that happens and we take the focus off the addict and begin looking within, we discover things about ourselves that we didn't notice before, like the dripping, and we have an "aha" moment that lets us move forward again.

We can't change the addict, but we no longer have to live as a "reaction' to their pain. We can live well and be happy, we alone hold the key.

I'm so glad it is beginning to "click" for you, and let me promise you that it just keeps getting better and better.

Hugs

greeteachday

Recognizing it is such a huge part of recovery. Vent away here, let it out so you can let it go. So glad that you are starting to feel better! Hugs

hope213

you are getting stronger in your recovery, as you do it will get better & better. way to go....

teke

i'm glad you are feeling better too, still praying for you and yours

BigSis

(((Frog_2hop))) Keep paddlin' ...you're getting there!