I Did It!!!
rozied
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I Did It!!!
To Everyone Who Answered My Post This AM,
He just called me for the 4th time but this time I said NO.
I told him there was no way I was doing it, that he doesn't call me when he needs help with his addiction, and that he should find another way but don't call me anymore cuz I won't change my mind.
I feel good, not guilt ridden as when I waffle, I feel empowered & you know he hasn't even called back.
BigSis you made it so much easier by what you just posted to me. I can't thank you enough.
Love,
Diane
He just called me for the 4th time but this time I said NO.
I told him there was no way I was doing it, that he doesn't call me when he needs help with his addiction, and that he should find another way but don't call me anymore cuz I won't change my mind.
I feel good, not guilt ridden as when I waffle, I feel empowered & you know he hasn't even called back.
BigSis you made it so much easier by what you just posted to me. I can't thank you enough.
Love,
Diane
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Diane,
Good for you, you just gave him a big gift. The gift to learm for himself. He will someday thank you for this. You also gave yourself a gift, the gift of love, and power. I am glad you are happy with your choice as you should be.
Hugs,
Good for you, you just gave him a big gift. The gift to learm for himself. He will someday thank you for this. You also gave yourself a gift, the gift of love, and power. I am glad you are happy with your choice as you should be.
Hugs,
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Rozied, I've missed you, I haven't seen you on here for a while. I was too late on your other thread, but I am so glad you stood firm. That was asking a lot of you.
I am so hoping that your son is going to get on the right path. We are getting older by the minute and we need to have peace in our lives. Before we die it would be such a comfort to know that our kids are well. Hang in there hon! You are really strong.
Luv..........Lois
I am so hoping that your son is going to get on the right path. We are getting older by the minute and we need to have peace in our lives. Before we die it would be such a comfort to know that our kids are well. Hang in there hon! You are really strong.
Luv..........Lois
rozied
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You know it was very scary having to say no. I have found myself in the past dodging his phone calls etc but this last time whn the phone rang I told myself enough is enough. I grabbed the phone & just told him NO. I also told him not to call me anymore about it.
I think having his dad to talk to has really helped me. He was addicted for 30 yrs to gambling then drugs. He finally called me after 30+yrs to tell me he has been clean & sober for almost 5 yrs. He calls alot & has given me alot of support & really helped me to see that cutting him loose was the only way to go.
When in the past I have said yes when I really didn't want to it always left me feeling upset & very unsettled. Today when I said no I felt good.
Thanks everyone for your help.
Love,
Diane
I think having his dad to talk to has really helped me. He was addicted for 30 yrs to gambling then drugs. He finally called me after 30+yrs to tell me he has been clean & sober for almost 5 yrs. He calls alot & has given me alot of support & really helped me to see that cutting him loose was the only way to go.
When in the past I have said yes when I really didn't want to it always left me feeling upset & very unsettled. Today when I said no I felt good.
Thanks everyone for your help.
Love,
Diane
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(((((Rozied)))))
Sorry I couldn't be here to give you my support today.
Sounds like ya did fine without me. lol
I read your other thread and thought, Man! That guy really needs to be told no and rather directly, I might add.
Then I read this thread and wow! You did it. You told him no. He stopped calling.
I bet those clothes wound up not being as important as he made them out to be, huh?
Sounds just like my son. Do for me! Give to me! You owe me!
I don't owe you a darn thing, mister!
Your a grown man and when you start acting like one, you might get a little more respect because of it. So grow up!
That was my favorite speech. I keep it on hand for such occasions.
Way to go! You are the bomb mom tonight.
Love and prayers for continued strength from me to you tonight.
Linda
Sorry I couldn't be here to give you my support today.
Sounds like ya did fine without me. lol
I read your other thread and thought, Man! That guy really needs to be told no and rather directly, I might add.
Then I read this thread and wow! You did it. You told him no. He stopped calling.
I bet those clothes wound up not being as important as he made them out to be, huh?
Sounds just like my son. Do for me! Give to me! You owe me!
I don't owe you a darn thing, mister!
Your a grown man and when you start acting like one, you might get a little more respect because of it. So grow up!
That was my favorite speech. I keep it on hand for such occasions.
Way to go! You are the bomb mom tonight.
Love and prayers for continued strength from me to you tonight.
Linda
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