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liesagain 07-23-2007 09:40 PM

need advise fast.......I am scared to death
 
Ah went back out again tonight, he was so low yesterday he said he just wanted to die

that he thought he did while using......he was drooling and passed out......
now hes out again with the company hes working for truck

I know theres GPS on that truck and I thought if I called them they could at least send the police that would be better than him Od'ing or killing himself

but what if he runs or freaks out and the police kill him or something I couldnt libve with that but if I do nothing and he dies................
oh what do I do........how many times will he make it thru this?

liesagain 07-23-2007 09:41 PM

please......if you believe in prayer please pray for him not to die............

and if you dont believe in prayer..........keep him in your thoughts for him not to die...........

I am so sick of this I just cannot do this another second

splendra 07-23-2007 09:44 PM

So (((lies))))

Is he out driving while high???

liesagain 07-23-2007 09:49 PM

yes I think so hes in fort lauderdale where he went for treatment he relapsed yesterday and then went back told everyone set up a plan to get back on track and went out again tonight........

liesagain 07-23-2007 09:49 PM

I'm 3 1/2 hours north of where he is

ladyamalthea 07-23-2007 09:50 PM

*hugs*

I wish there was more that I could say to help right now... I would say it couldn't hurt to call the police. I don't know what they would do, but at least then you could feel like you did all you could.

Then again, it sounds like maybe you would benefit from trying to not do so much for him? I know how much you want to help, but you have already said you cannot do this another second. This is just my thoughts, so take it for what it's worth, but maybe you would benefit more from trying to help him less? Detaching can be a wonderful thing in this kind of situation... not abandoning, just simply putting yourself first.

Either way, just know you both are in my prayers tonight.

*hugs*

splendra 07-23-2007 09:50 PM

Would it make you feel better to call the law on him?

liesagain 07-23-2007 09:52 PM

I couldnt really call the police but i could call the company and report that hes out in their truck they have GPS and could find it.......and him I guess but I am afraid that if he sees the police and hes high he could cause then to kill him or something

splendra 07-23-2007 09:55 PM

Something I have found about the As in my life is that they are amazingly resilient. If he is threatening suicide call the law....

ladyamalthea 07-23-2007 09:59 PM

I agree with splendra. As do tend to be resilient from what I've seen. If nothing else, calling the police may help you to sleep better because they can tell you 1) whether or not there is any kind of record of anything having already happened and 2) that they are on the lookout for him just in case.

*hugs*

liesagain 07-23-2007 10:01 PM

he didnt threaten sucide today.......today he said he was better clearly he wasnt he went back out for drugs............but yesterday after he relapsed he said he while he was using and coming down wanted to die......and that at one point he thought he did die.....he said he passed out drooling

maddie82 07-23-2007 10:13 PM

I feel like I'm getting in on this pretty late...is everything ok, have you heard from him? When I was still living with my Abf I did call the police and sent them over to our house because he was threatening suicide. If you have not already, I would say go for it. At least you'll know you've done what you can

Lovestoomuch 07-23-2007 10:14 PM

((lies))
I'm sending prayers your way. Remember.....he's in HP's hands honey.

Done_With_It 07-23-2007 10:15 PM

I would personally call the police say he's suicidal, high, and using in a company truck.
What happens from there I would try not to worry about, you did all you can and more. That's me.. Whatever you choose will be the right one for you. (((...)))

liesagain 07-23-2007 10:17 PM

I have no idea where he is excpet fort lauderdale and that is a very big area I couldnt really call the police I could try to get thru to the company he works for and they may be able to get his location by the GPS and they could send the police

Mertzie 07-23-2007 10:19 PM


Originally Posted by liesagain (Post 1422670)
I am afraid that if he sees the police and hes high he could cause then to kill him or something


(((lies))) I'm so sorry that your AH is putting you through such chaos. I'm afraid I don't have any experience in this area, so I'm not really sure what you mean. Is he violent when he's high? I think that if you are really scared that he could hurt himself or others, then maybe call the police if you think that's something you need to do. Hugs to you. I'll keep him in my thoughts and prayers.

Momsrainbow 07-23-2007 10:42 PM

Been there done that-call the police-it is out of your control or most definately contact the trucking company he is working for. Doubtful the police will be of much help but the company he works for will be. Prayers and HUGS!!!!

liesagain 07-23-2007 10:59 PM

thank you everyone........his sister called the company they didnt call back

It is out of our hand s but it doesnt make it hurt less........

ladyamalthea 07-23-2007 11:04 PM

No, there is very little that could reasonably make it hurt less... just try to take comfort in the fact that you've done what you could.

*hugs and prayers*

maddie82 07-23-2007 11:11 PM

lady amalthea is right, you did what you could. Odds are he'll turn up just fine and be shocked that you could've possibly been so worried...


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