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Old 07-12-2007, 10:29 PM
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MAN hormones flying around in here today. Well my mom and I had a good time at the casino and I actually won 50 I think. Then I came in second at poker tonight, then my wonderful caring fiance won a piece of the lottery nothing huge but hey a win non the less!!!! WOW I guess the 6mos of bad luck I had to put up with finally paid off. For now watch I'll get hit by a bus tomorrow.

Loves are u talking about my ins cause I did do that this week I mean they raised my payment a 100bucks how can u do that to me!!!! Get this my DMV report showed 3 DWI's WTF so I am guessing somehow my sis and I got confused at the DMV or something who knows (bad luck streak). So I said cancel it then and turned in my plates today. (of course after that they call and say oops) Now I have to go re-register my car I cant win.... Oh by the way I got my period again for the 10th time this month thank u very much!!! WHO THE HELL's idea was it to take me off the depo since I have been on it for so long. I SWEAR if they dont do something fast I cannot guarantee anyones safety around me. Other than that I am just a peach to be around!!!

I am doing nothing tomorrow I swear I will lay on the couch well once I decide to put the cushions back on it and do nothing!!! Oh wait I think I might go shopping on Scott of course.

Live u know there are other things u and hubby can do that is a GREAT stress reliever. Also have him test his testosterone cause those meds do cause that sometimes Scotts been on them for a bit too.

Loves I have heard about texans, if what I heard is right I can see why u need a piece of Noah cake tonight!!! I crack myself up well I am the only one in here. I guess I'm off to bed.

Oh teke I think Live might be on to something. I would call the child support place and see when the last check was mailed and if it was cashed. Yep something is wierd there.

Talk to everyone later have a good night.
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Old 07-12-2007, 10:57 PM
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I am up and will be quite late as I took a late nap today and it is that TIME.

It's usually not so quite around here at night?????

The morphine really messes with hubby in more ways than that one.
He needed to get some sleep and go to bed early.
And he just plain doesn't feel well.

I will take an esxtra chill pill and make up for it next week, when I temporarily gain my sanity.

I had that problem for awhile a couple of years ago of having too frequent periods.
Now I am regular again....but it is messing my mind...the frequency didn't even have pms...only the of sh!t...again! And never having enough hygiene products.
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The Clerks office is legally mandated to mail them out within a certain period of time.
In Indiana it is 24 hours. (child support). If he is not working off the books see how far behind he has to be to get his wages garnished.
The system is getting pretty tough on deadbeat dads.
In Indiana, they will require them to get a job and lock them up on the weekends until it is paid up.
Or if they won't work pay, they go to jail. At first I didn't understand the logic of that one...but since I have seen it work as an incentive.
There is usually a child support advocacy program that will handle it for you.
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Old 07-12-2007, 11:28 PM
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loves..........................is okachobee (spelling sux) near or in Martin county?

I'm looking for a nice beach to go to for the night...........down that way any suggestions?

Jupiter? St Lucie? somewhere like that ?
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Old 07-13-2007, 07:37 AM
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Anvil is Fife, WA near Seattle
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Old 07-13-2007, 07:48 AM
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Well...........does anyone know if swollen ankles can cause you to violently throw up over and over again?? I feel like crap!! had to call into work..........so I won't get my paycheck till Monday. good thing I'm not a spender huh??
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Thanks I was trying to confirm a client's location. Other office members kept sayng Seattle but postmaster told me Fife.
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Old 07-13-2007, 07:50 AM
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Stress, salt and water retention cause swollen ankles.
Vomiting can be caused by stress, dehydration or stomach flu
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Old 07-13-2007, 07:54 AM
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Good Morning all -
So Anvil - he's fishing so you get fresh fish for supper tonight?? Hope so for you!!
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Old 07-13-2007, 07:56 AM
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I agree with anvil loves. Well do I ever not agree with her? I see this is the place to be today. I keep staring at those dishes they need to be done but.... I will wait til the child I asked who may I add "borrowed" (stole) 25 bucks from one of her friends that I had to pay back does them!! Still furious about that long story though. So she does ALL the work for a bit thats all.

Well off the throw in a load of laundry so I can get dressed and ready for the day. Scotts turning in the lottery ticket after work so I better be dressed and ready to go!! Or maybe not.
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Loves - maybe you got overheated yesterday waiting in traffic - the heat & humidity will do strange stuff to you -

Can you take some dramamine? Sometimes taking that will help settle your stomach so you can keep fluids in your body - sounds a little like heat exhaustion - but I'm not dr - like ya'll in Florida - here in Louisiana we have to watch that heat/humidity combo - it will get you fast!!
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Originally Posted by liesagain View Post
loves..........................is okachobee (spelling sux) near or in Martin county?

I'm looking for a nice beach to go to for the night...........down that way any suggestions?

Jupiter? St Lucie? somewhere like that ?

Okeechobee?? LOL

Martin County is just East of us, but as far as nice beaches??.....Ummmm not so much. Jupiter has a nice beach, but that's in Palm Beach County.

Hutchinson Island has a really nice beach, but I'm not too sure if that's Martin County or Indian River County. If you do get to Hutchinson Island you have got to to to "Shuckers on the Beach" They have THE best seafood and little foofoo drinks they put in fancy plastic glasses you can take outside and go for a walk on the beach while your meal is being prepared. It's the best..........and so relaxing.
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Old 07-13-2007, 08:03 AM
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Originally Posted by Japic05 View Post
Loves - maybe you got overheated yesterday waiting in traffic - the heat & humidity will do strange stuff to you -

Can you take some dramamine? Sometimes taking that will help settle your stomach so you can keep fluids in your body - sounds a little like heat exhaustion - but I'm not dr - like ya'll in Florida - here in Louisiana we have to watch that heat/humidity combo - it will get you fast!!

I actually never really thought about the heat thing. It was hot as heck!! My ankles NEVER swell up like they did. The only time they did was when I was prego, and there's really no chance of that. I've been to Louisiana.......I know how you feel LOL.
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Old 07-13-2007, 08:06 AM
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Ok, so whew, no one was on and up and about like I was about 2 or 3 this morning. . .but I'm at work now and I might add. . .just now. Great place so glad they are ok with me being late every frickin day!!! Story of my life also. . .always late.

So. . .Anvil. . .yes 3yr old is a perfect angel for EVERYONE I mean EVERYONE else except me. She has this horrible horrible thing with going to bed and going to sleep I mean I know kids do this but, EVERY FRICKIN night it's the same sometimes I work for 2 hours or more trying to get her down and finally when she does go to sleep around 10 or so it's way to late so we start the whole thing over again in the morning. She doesn't want to let me get her dressed, she can scream at the top of her lungs for long periods of time, again I'm sure this does not amaze anyone, she will kick me, hit me, tell me NO and of course since I'm so well rested, yeah right, it's hard to not do the following. . .give her ultimatums, tell her to go sit in the other room until she is done with her fit, ignore her, forcibly dress her, give her a swat on the rear end, or yell at her or all of the above. NOTHING WORKS, I try to give her a time out and she just gets up out of the chair and walks off. A straight jacket in the size of 4T should be ready to pick up anyday.

Ok, the boyfriend is an alcoholic yes. I don't know if he's an X yet or not, actually he is a returning X. I mean we have done this off and on for the past 28 yrs. Lived together a few times and have seen each other between his wives and between my husbands, GOD that's sick in itself right there huh? ANYWAYS. . .we did not see each other this last time apart for like 12 yrs or so. He calls outta the clear blue, has found God and has a different aura (sp) about him. Still gonna drink every now & then. . .ok whatever. As we get re-acquainted, he's filling me in on his life. . .has struck up a friendship with one of his ex's with whom he always had serious trouble even talking civil to. There is an adult daughter involved who is pregnant right now. Here's his first grandchild coming too right? ANYWAYS, I sure got sick of hearing about their little "friendly" relationship, thought it odd how much he felt he needed to share that with me, someone who is extremely scared, insecure and full of worry about how to trust someone with my heart again right???? So. . .I, after a couple of months of the 150% full head first dive in with him again, tried to express my concern over her. I felt that she may be holding out for something more. . .so I merely said when are you gonna tell her there's nothing and he said. . .when the time is right. . .that's when I started telling all ya'll my plight. Got some really good advice on the topic too I might add. . .last Thursday I said that I was not going to let my boundary be crossed anymore and let it go at that. He got defensive, didn't see him Friday night cuz no. . .incidentally. . .we do NOT live together. After church, he went with Gracie & I, on Sunday. . .he came clean and told me what I really "knew" all along, yes they had done the nasty, BUT of course there's a but don't you know. . .it was last year, it made him sick, there was drinking involved, and all that bla bla bla. So. . .yes I was hurt, she lives over 400 miles away now or so. Then, of course a few times over the past 2 months I have "known" he was drinking. Again, instant insecurity because I just KNOW it's over, I can't have a relationship with an active alcoholic! Sunday he canceled coming over for dinner and when he called to tell me he was slurring his words etc etc. Monday he comes by and he had the "look", you know the one, slow to turn and look, slurred speech, red eyes. And of course my attitude surely couldn't STOP from shining through and I finally told him I can NOT communicate with someone who drinks. Again, the defensiveness and just all around cockiness that comes with it made my stomach turn, but I felt good that I was standing up for ME again. NOW. . .last night he calls and after all week about talking about going to meetings and gonna do this deal wants this to work bla bla bla. I'm sure I had a different tone, mind you I had just gotten home and raked up two yards of wet muddy garbage that my psycho dogs decided to play with, dealing with trying to keep Gracie OUT of it, and I finally come in and wash the mud off of me he calls and goes on about how tired he is. GIMME A BREAK, so you're tired, oh poor baby, sorry, but you had like a week or two before this week where you didn't hit a lick right? ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH and all of this while my hormones are doing their wicked dance through my body. . . .There you have it in a nutshell or is that bombshell? Sorry its' so long
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you need to slow down, put your feet up and let your body restore itself, woman. ain't kidding. don't make me come down there!!!!!

I know it. I think this confirms it's almost time to go back...........I'm going back to bed. Thanks guys. Have fun. I'm gonna see what I can dream up LOL.
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Old 07-13-2007, 08:14 AM
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Wow Connie good for u for sticking up for yourself!! Keep that up now u hear. U dont need that in your life anyways. No tips for the kid though. Nanny 911? Maybe its just a carry over from the terrible 2's.
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((Cook))

Hate you & the 3yr old are having such a tough time - probably don't need to tell you she is picking up on your stress level too.

My daughter, K, is 13 wks pregnant, has 4yr and 2yr old girls, seperated from her husband and had emergency surgery Monday (appendix) My Mom & I are helping as much as possible - but the girls are having a tough time especially the 2 yr. old - Bella is really acting out - Some of the same stuff - the hitting, screaming, destructive behaviors - I know it is because she is so upset because about the changes in her little life.

I'll definitely keep you in my prayers - hopefully both of you can have some relaxing time this weekend.
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Old 07-13-2007, 08:25 AM
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You know it's really obvious to me too that a LOT of our relationship history and all has revolved around the bedroom. I know shocked me too when I realized it. . .hahaha. I'm older and dare I say wiser now and things have changed. I have always fantasized about a life with this man til the end, and to hear him tell it. . .so has he. . .in '94, he was living about 350 miles away and we were flying in and out to see each other. . .it was then he told me I was the love of his life. At that time he had been down there for about 7 yrs. The next yr '95 he moved home, I was sober, he was not then. . .it didn't work for very long that time either. A few weeks ago at dinner he told me he moved back in '95 to marry me. I about choked on my food! I had no idea he ever thought that sort of stuff with me! So. . .yes we have discussed a future together and I can visualize a picture perfect world with him. BUT. . .I know there is a ton of work to be done first. I really want to re-wind and start over very slow and stay out of the bedroom with him for a while, think that will work????? I think for me once I'm in the euphoria of the intimacy part, well all the negative stuff evaporates. I am into reality these days and want to work on me to make mine better than ever.
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Old 07-13-2007, 08:27 AM
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Thanks Japic, and you know she really doesn't like me having anyone else around. It was JUST her and me for 3 1/2 yrs. I never saw anyone, no dates no nothing!!!! So now she can't even stand for me to be on the phone with him. He's wonderful with her and she has fun with him playing around and stuff. She's just so jealous of me having to divert my attention elsewhere!!!
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Old 07-13-2007, 08:33 AM
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For my AH & I taking away the "bedroom" relationship for a while did help - We actually spent 15 months apart in the beginning of his sobriety.

Did not start dating again until after 6 months sobriety. Physical relationship resumed slowly & cautiously.

It's been 3 yrs since we've been back together - the first 2 of those three yrs were pretty good - This last year has slowly, but surely been a downhill slide - As always the disease is continually calling back - and some answer that call - I am sad to say he is one of them. The last 6 months relapse has been my least favorite word in the world. Ok - that's not entirely true - relapse is my second least, denial is my very least.

Yeah - just keep working on you is about all you can do - if he is sober and wanting a better life - time will show it.

I don't regret getting back with my AH. I know without a doubt it was my HP's will for our lives at the time. I learned many things during that time and I am learning many more today.
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