susieque5

Two years today I tossed my exAH to the curb, together 4 1/2 years.married 1 1/2. The divorce was final in April. Reading some of these posts, I was very fortunate. I had no clue my exAH was into drugs...he would start an argument, disappear for the night, and come home in the morning telling me he was gambling at the local casino all night...naive me, I believed every word. He also worked out of town a lot with money missing and a good story, etc.

The best thing he did for me was disappear for 5 days and admit he was doing crack..also found evidence in his truck there was another woman with him. I gave him one more chance and took that opportunity to make sure I was not on any of his credit cards (got letters from the creditors to that effect), opened a separate bank account, etc.The creditors hounded me for the first year (because I have good credit) but were unable to prove I was involved in any of his debt.

After I kicked him out, he went on a 1 year binge with a 18-year old crack wh***(he was 55 at the time), ran up $100,000 in debt with credit cards, and many more details. His 73-year old mother rescued him from the streets (she's also a liar and manipulator) and I haven't heard from him since last Christmas...he called when my family was at dinner and I told him "May God help you".

I cannot believe how much peace I have found away from the chaos. My lesson to all of you is to CYA...yiour ABF/AH's problem could escalate and you could find yourself in big financial trouble. I have dated a few times and ran...they all seemed so needy!!

This site saved my life. I was so devastated that I could be so stupid!! I am a mature adult with a college degree and I was taken iin and didn't see what was going on for SOOO long! I bless all of you for your help and compassion when I was a basket case. I do lurk but don't post much because I want to tell so many people to RUN...the odds of your situation getting better are so slim.

Again, thank you for helping me through my really tough time.
Hugs,
Susie

Lovestoomuch

I wondered where you went to!! I'll tell you something Susieque. You helped me out A LOT over the period of time I was dealing with my ex who you know was also a crack addict and I'm forever greatful for having you by my side. I'm happy for you that you finally have some peace. You deserve it and much more.

Wascally Wabbit

You were indeed fortunate, and smart! you didn't let him ruin your future by getting you onto his credit cards like my ex did. It's a living nightmare too. I am getting all his bills still, after 2 years! They are coming after me.
But, I do have peace that I didn't have while I was living in the chaos.
If I have to weigh it out, the peace is far more worth it than staying with a drug addict.
Good luck to you. It sounds like you have it together pretty good.

rose

Thanks for posting!!! I truly believe this place save me too! A place where I can come a pour my heart out. I shiver to think of what my life would have been like today had I still been living with it. Dealing with 2 sons in their teens now is bad enough I can't imagine throughing a active crack addict into the middle of it.

So glad to hear you are doing well!

Rose

raerae6

I am happy to hear you are doing well!!! I haven't had time top read everything on here lately, but it looks like there are a lot of hair-raising stories of addicts messing up people's lives.

I used to live with a crack addict. i am so glad to be out as well. My life had become a living hell, and still it was hard for me to part woth him, but I am so glad I did!!!!!!!!!

I hope that anyone who is with someone in active addiction reads all of these and gets out. Do it now!!!

hope213

(((((susie))))) i am happy you have your life together & everything is working out so well for you.thank you for the post.you sound as if you have learned a hard lesson 7 you will do well with your life.

dollydo

Susie,

So good to hear from you, and that you are in a good place.

Ann

I too am happy that you found your own peace away from the chaos.

Don't be a stranger, maybe a newcomer needs to hear your story. Success stories are not about whether or not our addicts get clean, they are about us finding a better path and happiness along the way.

Hugs