It's Been A While
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Join Date: Jul 2004
Location: Danville,Va
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It's Been A While
about three years I expect. I've never forgotten you guys and have often lurked here whenever the madness got very bad.
Last time I was here I was waiting for my AD to give birth to her son. She did, and my first grandchild was born addicted to methadone. After a three week hospital stay for the poor little guy and intervention of social services we brought them both home to stay with us.
So began life with my AS(who was already living here) and my AD who didn't want to be a mom. After months of using,stealing,lying,disappearing for days at a time and generally making chaos of our lives and her son's life she finally left for good. My husband and I gained custody of our grandson who you might have guessed has his own set of problems. My AS couldn't allow his sister to create all the hell so he had to give his best and he is gone also,thank God!!
They are not totally out of our lives of course. That would be to easy for the rest of us. They are continually calling and complaining about everything. All I know is we can't possibly live with those two again. Just thinking of them makes me numb.
Just wanted you guys to know that I'm still here. No answers for anything. Just here.
Last time I was here I was waiting for my AD to give birth to her son. She did, and my first grandchild was born addicted to methadone. After a three week hospital stay for the poor little guy and intervention of social services we brought them both home to stay with us.
So began life with my AS(who was already living here) and my AD who didn't want to be a mom. After months of using,stealing,lying,disappearing for days at a time and generally making chaos of our lives and her son's life she finally left for good. My husband and I gained custody of our grandson who you might have guessed has his own set of problems. My AS couldn't allow his sister to create all the hell so he had to give his best and he is gone also,thank God!!
They are not totally out of our lives of course. That would be to easy for the rest of us. They are continually calling and complaining about everything. All I know is we can't possibly live with those two again. Just thinking of them makes me numb.
Just wanted you guys to know that I'm still here. No answers for anything. Just here.
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Wabbit Hole
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Nice to meet you ladyjane.
I have my granddaughter and his mother living with me because my son in in prison. It's hard, but we make it. Your little guy is in very capable hands. You're his blessing. We love them to pieces and wouldn't let anything happen to them.
Take care.
I have my granddaughter and his mother living with me because my son in in prison. It's hard, but we make it. Your little guy is in very capable hands. You're his blessing. We love them to pieces and wouldn't let anything happen to them.
Take care.
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Join Date: Jun 2006
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(((Lady)))
Welcome back. Probably a lot of new faces since you were here last. I'm currently the custodial grandmother to my 12 year old grandson. It's heartbreaking, this journey, but we make it shoulder to shoulder with our family on SR!!!
Thank God for this site and the angels lurking here. Welcome back and hope you stay awhile
NSW
Welcome back. Probably a lot of new faces since you were here last. I'm currently the custodial grandmother to my 12 year old grandson. It's heartbreaking, this journey, but we make it shoulder to shoulder with our family on SR!!!
Thank God for this site and the angels lurking here. Welcome back and hope you stay awhile
NSW
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Join Date: Dec 2003
Location: twilight zone,usa
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welcome back lady jane, we r here 24/7. i am sure you are much better off with the addicts out of your house.i am sure your grandson is also.keep coming back,there is lots of support here. i am saying prayers for you & your family.
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Thanks for all the praise, folks. Truth is, I've done my share of crying, pleading, begging and trying to manipulate their lives to no avail. Now I'm just tired. Just listening to them makes me tired. I dread their phone calls and visits and wished we lived far, far away.
Now instead of wondering what they're doing and what they might need, I let them wonder what we're doing and I'm sure a thought never crosses their minds that we might need something. I try to focus on Andy and the rest of my family who are still here and worthy of my thoughts.
Now instead of wondering what they're doing and what they might need, I let them wonder what we're doing and I'm sure a thought never crosses their minds that we might need something. I try to focus on Andy and the rest of my family who are still here and worthy of my thoughts.
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Join Date: Mar 2002
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Welcome back, Ladyjane, I'm so glad you joined us again although sorry for your circumstances. How blessed your little grandchild is to have you in his life.
I haven't heard a word from my son in 3 years, nor do I have any idea where he is, although I have thoughts of how he is and it isn't good. The only thing that has helped me find peace and maintain my balance through all this is to say a prayer each morning and ask God to take care of my son, and then trust that He will and live my life as it was intended to be lived...happy and at peace.
I still have my moments but my life today is no longer one lived in the darkness of sadness and fear. I love my life, find beauty in every day and live in the light as much as possible.
Your daughter and son will be in my prayers also, asking that they find a better path soon.
Again, I'm glad to have you walk with us again.
Hugs
I haven't heard a word from my son in 3 years, nor do I have any idea where he is, although I have thoughts of how he is and it isn't good. The only thing that has helped me find peace and maintain my balance through all this is to say a prayer each morning and ask God to take care of my son, and then trust that He will and live my life as it was intended to be lived...happy and at peace.
I still have my moments but my life today is no longer one lived in the darkness of sadness and fear. I love my life, find beauty in every day and live in the light as much as possible.
Your daughter and son will be in my prayers also, asking that they find a better path soon.
Again, I'm glad to have you walk with us again.
Hugs
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Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: punta gorda florida
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Hi Lady...I am in the same position. I have guardianship of my 1 1/2 year old grandson. I have had a few tough weeks. Coming here helps. Today, my mom has the baby, I am in a motorcycle wedding, matron of honor and am escorting the bride[my best friend], to the beach where we will be met by another motorcycle group all dressed in blue. I am excited...I havent heard or seen my daughter for 3 days and it is nice. I can think again. Sometimes I think I am a chaos sponge, I feel it...You can always IM me if you need to just vent...I understand...Marian
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((((LadyJane))))
I'm sorry there is so much sorrow and pain for you right now.
Yet, I'm glad you could make it back to us.
Your grandchild is very lucky to have you in his life.
How old are your children, btw? My son is the addict in my life. He's 25.
I have a 5 yo great-nephew that my sister is raising due to her son's addiction.
It's heartbreaking, no doubt.
I've not been blessed with grandchildren yet, but grateful that my son has, at least, been responsible in some area of his life. He just calls that luck.
Stick around and walk the road a while with us.
Sending up prayers for you and your family,
Linda
I'm sorry there is so much sorrow and pain for you right now.
Yet, I'm glad you could make it back to us.
Your grandchild is very lucky to have you in his life.
How old are your children, btw? My son is the addict in my life. He's 25.
I have a 5 yo great-nephew that my sister is raising due to her son's addiction.
It's heartbreaking, no doubt.
I've not been blessed with grandchildren yet, but grateful that my son has, at least, been responsible in some area of his life. He just calls that luck.
Stick around and walk the road a while with us.
Sending up prayers for you and your family,
Linda
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Hi Bookmiser, I have 5 children. My as is 33. According to him it's our fault he's like he is and we made his life hell. He lived with us until he was past 30! My ad is 26. She's been hell on wheels since she was 15. I also have a 28 year old son, very sucessful. A 22 year old daughter and an 18 year old daughter. People tell me 3 out of 5 ain't bad, but mom's don't like to hear it.
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Wow! You've definitely had your hands full.
3 outta 5? Isn't that the number of dentist who recommend Trident?
I also have a daughter who's living in Pittsburgh with her gf. She seems happy
and well adjusted. My son has blamed me for certain "issues" that have come up in his life. When he does that, I hang up the phone. lol
Lately, we've been discussing his mental health. I asked him to be evaluated.
He hasn't used his doc (drug of choice) in a long time. Drank for a while and has been doing really good lately staying clean.
I really believe though, that his drug addiction stemmed from something else first.
Bi-polar, adhd, depression, ect. He'll go when he's ready, I guess.
I let go a while ago. Slip up once in a while, but hey, progress, not perfection, right?
Sending up prayers,
Linda
3 outta 5? Isn't that the number of dentist who recommend Trident?
I also have a daughter who's living in Pittsburgh with her gf. She seems happy
and well adjusted. My son has blamed me for certain "issues" that have come up in his life. When he does that, I hang up the phone. lol
Lately, we've been discussing his mental health. I asked him to be evaluated.
He hasn't used his doc (drug of choice) in a long time. Drank for a while and has been doing really good lately staying clean.
I really believe though, that his drug addiction stemmed from something else first.
Bi-polar, adhd, depression, ect. He'll go when he's ready, I guess.
I let go a while ago. Slip up once in a while, but hey, progress, not perfection, right?
Sending up prayers,
Linda
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