Language of Letting Go - July 2
Language of Letting Go - July 2
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Who Knows Best?
Others do not know what's best for us.
We do not know what's best for others.
It is our job to determine what's best for ourselves.
"I know what you need." . . . "I know what you should do." . . . "Now listen, this is what I think you should be working on right now."
These are audacious statements, beliefs that take us away from how we operate on a spiritual plane of life. Each of us is given the ability to be able to discern and detect our own path, on a daily basis. This is not always easy. We may have to struggle to reach that quiet, still place.
Giving advice, making decisions for others, mapping out their strategy, is not our job. Nor is it their job to direct us. Even if we have a clean contract with someone to help us - such as in a sponsorship relationship - we cannot trust that others always know what is best for us. We are responsible for listening to the information that comes to us. We are responsible for asking for guidance and direction. But it is our responsibility to sift and sort through information, and then listen to ourselves about what is best for us. Nobody can know that but ourselves.
A great gift we can give to others is to be able to trust in them - that they have their own source of guidance and wisdom, that they have the ability to discern what is best for them and the right to find that path by making mistakes and learning.
To trust ourselves to be able to discover - through that same imperfect process of struggle, trial, and error - is a great gift we can give ourselves.
Today, I will remember that we are each given the gift of being able to discover what is best for ourselves. God, help me trust that gift.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
Who Knows Best?
Others do not know what's best for us.
We do not know what's best for others.
It is our job to determine what's best for ourselves.
"I know what you need." . . . "I know what you should do." . . . "Now listen, this is what I think you should be working on right now."
These are audacious statements, beliefs that take us away from how we operate on a spiritual plane of life. Each of us is given the ability to be able to discern and detect our own path, on a daily basis. This is not always easy. We may have to struggle to reach that quiet, still place.
Giving advice, making decisions for others, mapping out their strategy, is not our job. Nor is it their job to direct us. Even if we have a clean contract with someone to help us - such as in a sponsorship relationship - we cannot trust that others always know what is best for us. We are responsible for listening to the information that comes to us. We are responsible for asking for guidance and direction. But it is our responsibility to sift and sort through information, and then listen to ourselves about what is best for us. Nobody can know that but ourselves.
A great gift we can give to others is to be able to trust in them - that they have their own source of guidance and wisdom, that they have the ability to discern what is best for them and the right to find that path by making mistakes and learning.
To trust ourselves to be able to discover - through that same imperfect process of struggle, trial, and error - is a great gift we can give ourselves.
Today, I will remember that we are each given the gift of being able to discover what is best for ourselves. God, help me trust that gift.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
quote :Today, I will remember that we are each given the gift of being able to discover what is best for ourselves. God, help me trust that gift.
i needed to hear this. my daughter, in my opinion, is on her way to making a bad mistake. i need to let it go,need to let her go.it is her life,& i need to know that she has to live her life in order to grow.she is my pride & joy & she has always done the right things.i must trust her to do what is right for her.thank you,Ann for this post.
i needed to hear this. my daughter, in my opinion, is on her way to making a bad mistake. i need to let it go,need to let her go.it is her life,& i need to know that she has to live her life in order to grow.she is my pride & joy & she has always done the right things.i must trust her to do what is right for her.thank you,Ann for this post.
Ouch!!! I hear myself in that reading, not as the one who feels overwhelmed by what others think I "should" be doing...but as the person who tells others what "they" should be doing.
I am guilty indeed of this and just for today I will try very hard to stop trying to guide each person I meet but instead just watch where my own feet and heart are taking me.
Yikes, I am about as imperfect as they come. Well, they say "more will be revealed..." and I guess if I look in the mirror I will see the person I really need to work on...me.
Hugs
I am guilty indeed of this and just for today I will try very hard to stop trying to guide each person I meet but instead just watch where my own feet and heart are taking me.
Yikes, I am about as imperfect as they come. Well, they say "more will be revealed..." and I guess if I look in the mirror I will see the person I really need to work on...me.
Hugs
I am guilty indeed of this and just for today I will try very hard to stop trying to guide each person I meet but instead just watch where my own feet and heart are taking me.
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