Called the Police
On a tear
Join Date: Jul 2003
Location: Volcano Country!
Posts: 3,221
Hey Rose...
One of the things I need to remember when dealing with my kids -
The boundaries "society" or the "police" put on a 15 year old are NOTHING like the boundary he might face at 25 for the same actions.
If he "gets it" this time... he doesn't have to "get it" later.
This could be a wonderful thing that you can look at ten years from now and say, "I am glad I drew that line".
You can do this. (((lotsofincrediblehugs)))
One of the things I need to remember when dealing with my kids -
The boundaries "society" or the "police" put on a 15 year old are NOTHING like the boundary he might face at 25 for the same actions.
If he "gets it" this time... he doesn't have to "get it" later.
This could be a wonderful thing that you can look at ten years from now and say, "I am glad I drew that line".
You can do this. (((lotsofincrediblehugs)))
Power is not having to respond
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Wabbit Hole
Posts: 1,923
Good for you for sticking to your ground, and not tolerating abuse. I have been in similar situations and it always drains the energy and spirit right out of you. IT's a fearful situation. You did good and I am proud of you. Do keep us updated.
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Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: NJ
Posts: 702
Rose,
Sorry I am coming in so late. I will be saying a prayer for you today. You deserve so much more respect than your sons are showing you. Your HP will continue to guide you and give you the strength you need to get through this.
Hugs,
Sorry I am coming in so late. I will be saying a prayer for you today. You deserve so much more respect than your sons are showing you. Your HP will continue to guide you and give you the strength you need to get through this.
Hugs,
Rest peacefully Sonny Boy
Join Date: Nov 2004
Location: Florida, Tennessee
Posts: 840
((Rose))
I don't know what to say, except, I'm concerned about you. Our babies would never do things like that, but they aren't babies any more. They are doing bad things to you. They have grown up, doing grown up bad things. They really need to suffer the grown up consequenses. I know it hurts. I know you can look at them and still see those little boys. I imagine with everything that has happened with your husband and now your sons, it's overwhelming. But the best gift you can give your sons right now is to refuse to take it any more. Your life and your health are at serious risk. Parents are abused every day. I just met a lady that works with older people that have to leave their homes and everything they worked their entire lives for, to get away from the abuse. It's like a woman's shelter, except it's for seniors. Most of the abusers are their kids.
Give them the best gift you can ever give them.....the biggest boot possible. Close the door to the oldest until he can show respect. Prosecute the youngest and have him sent to boot camp. Your job description as a mother does not include taking abuse of any kind. I know you love them, I also know it would hurt you more than it would ever hurt them, but hon, your life has meaning. You deserve to have a life. You deserse to be happy. You deserve to be in your own home safe. You deserve to not have to fight with anyone. You Rose. It's time to think about YOU.
Hugs and Prayers
B
I don't know what to say, except, I'm concerned about you. Our babies would never do things like that, but they aren't babies any more. They are doing bad things to you. They have grown up, doing grown up bad things. They really need to suffer the grown up consequenses. I know it hurts. I know you can look at them and still see those little boys. I imagine with everything that has happened with your husband and now your sons, it's overwhelming. But the best gift you can give your sons right now is to refuse to take it any more. Your life and your health are at serious risk. Parents are abused every day. I just met a lady that works with older people that have to leave their homes and everything they worked their entire lives for, to get away from the abuse. It's like a woman's shelter, except it's for seniors. Most of the abusers are their kids.
Give them the best gift you can ever give them.....the biggest boot possible. Close the door to the oldest until he can show respect. Prosecute the youngest and have him sent to boot camp. Your job description as a mother does not include taking abuse of any kind. I know you love them, I also know it would hurt you more than it would ever hurt them, but hon, your life has meaning. You deserve to have a life. You deserse to be happy. You deserve to be in your own home safe. You deserve to not have to fight with anyone. You Rose. It's time to think about YOU.
Hugs and Prayers
B
Senior Member
Join Date: Nov 2002
Location: Calif
Posts: 1,007
Rose
I agree with Ann and Frankly! I, too, am afraid that one day the oldest boy is going to hit you!
I'm sorry that they lack respect and you would have to resort to kicking them out, but if that's what it is going to take to make them believers, so be it!
Hugs, Devastated
I'm sorry that they lack respect and you would have to resort to kicking them out, but if that's what it is going to take to make them believers, so be it!
Hugs, Devastated
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