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nevergivingup 06-17-2007 09:11 AM

OMG!! I'm gonna throw up!!
 
Okay, I just applied to be pre-qualified for a mortgage. I'm soooo nervous!!!! The goal was to have all the money together for the down payment by August. This month has been a bit of a roadbump, but I'm managing it. Am I doing the right thing????? Why am I soooo nervous????????

Lovestoomuch 06-17-2007 09:17 AM

I think you're doing the right thing!!! You're nervous because it's a big step. Now.......when you get this house, where exactly will my room be?? LOL

nevergivingup 06-17-2007 09:20 AM

I told you, there's 3 bedrooms.... we only need 2! And, there's an apartment in the basement!!!!!

hope213 06-17-2007 09:45 AM

it is a big step buying a home.i think you are doing the right thing.it is beautiful.the begining of the begining.prayers, hope

nevergivingup 06-17-2007 09:48 AM

Awwww.... thank you hope!!!! I'm just not sure how people know when they're ready!!

outonalimb 06-17-2007 10:00 AM

NGU...

I think this is SO EXCITING!

I went thru this last summer. I closed on my house last June and the whole mortgage process had my stomach in knots because I had so many 'issues' related to exah's drug use and our damaged credit.

All I can tell ya is that things will work out when they are meant to. I hit a few roadblocks along the way too but eventually, the mortgage went thru and I found just the right home. I am so happy here. Its so nice to have a little slice of heaven thats ALL YOURS!

I'm sending my biggest prayers that things work out as they should and that you get the home of your dreams. Is that the house your looking at in your avatar??? Its SO CUTE!!

Good luck NGU!!!

Ann 06-17-2007 10:08 AM

It's a big move to buy a house, but it's also a good investment. My thoughts are to stick to a mortgage with a payment you could afford even in a bad month. That may mean buying a smaller house, but in the end you will suffer less paying for it.

And making your payments weekly or twice a month will signifiicantly reduce the time it takes to pay it off.

And doesn't every codie have a spare bedroom and an apartment in the basement? :D

Hugs from your resident accountant. :brain

nevergivingup 06-17-2007 10:17 AM

I picked that house because I absolutely love it, and because there's an apartment that I can rent out in it. Which, would help for those rough months. The way I figured it, the mortgage and the utilities would come out to about 30% of my monthly income (w/o the renter). I've paid off almost all of my debts. I have the bankruptcy from 2 years ago still on my credit so my interest rates would be a little high. I'm waiting to see what numbers come back from the mortgage companies and then decide if I need a relative to co-sign on the mortgage for me to bring the interest rates down. But, they said since my income is high and I have no debt, I should be okay. It still just makes me nervous!!!!!

And, it has an office in it, and cute backyard, an attic, a nice garage, and the spare room could be J's playroom! And, I like the area and the school district. Which would mean that I can stop paying for private school for J!!!

marle 06-17-2007 11:00 AM

Maybe you could look at it as a good nervous excitement thingy you have going on. That is a big positive step. Sounds like you can afford it and it is beautiful. Go for it girl. Think of where you would be ten years from now if you don't. And think of where you will be if you do. Hugs, Marle

havehope 06-17-2007 11:12 AM

Of course you are nervous, that is a big step! But it sounds like you have done your homework and if it feels right , then go for it! The house is beautiful and sounds great! Good luck with all of the paperwork and stuff. Take a deep breath along the way too!!
Keep us posted!
Terri

Elana 06-17-2007 11:12 AM

It is ALWAYS scary to take on a huge debt. I am on my.. third house.. and entering into a mortgage should never be taken lightly.

mooselips 06-17-2007 01:39 PM

WOW! How exciting is this?
Is it like that feeling when you're on the very edge of the roller coaster looking down?

Buying a house is a BIG step, but it's what grownups do! ha ha

Let us know how it goes...

By the way, you house will be well equipped for any emergency, with an Accountant, and an R.N.
By the way...my favorite color is BLUE...(hint...hint)


Hugs,

liesagain 06-17-2007 01:46 PM

the picture........is that the house?

liesagain 06-17-2007 01:47 PM

will keep my fingers crossed for you.................try to relax.............and see how it turns out!! Big step and a good step for you and your son!

Elana 06-17-2007 02:21 PM

Is there enough room in the Back yard for a barn and 20 milking cows? :)

rose 06-17-2007 02:31 PM

Wow...you go girl! Whatever the outcome you are taking huge positive steps!
Trying is what it is all about, one foot in front of the other...Onward and Upward...YES!

Rose

pjbs55 06-17-2007 02:33 PM

Good luck. I hope you get the house without too much trouble. At least J will have someplace to play and still be safe.
Hugs and prayers coming your way.

cmc 06-17-2007 05:51 PM

Wowie! I'm so happy for you! It sounds perfect. Do the cat's get a room too? ;)

Lovestoomuch 06-17-2007 05:55 PM


Originally Posted by cmc (Post 1375204)
Do the cat's get a room too? ;)

Holy mind readers!! I was just going to ask that very same question!! I think Julio needs his own place with a room just for his bottle cap collection.:biggrin:

nevergivingup 06-17-2007 06:34 PM

I think Julio will be the cow in the backyard! Perhaps I'll build him his very own barn!!!!! Oh, and the house isn't that far from a cemetary! You all know how much he loves dead people!

That's the house I want, but I'm not completely attached to it. I wanted to get pre-qualified for a mortgage and then go house hunting. But, I do really, really, really like that house (and yes, it's the one in the picture!!!).


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