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(((((((Diane)))))))))
I know this is hard for you. D*mn! I know it. My son was in for 6 months.
When he first went in, all I did was cry when I visited.
He told me things that were going on inside so I would bail him out.
It took every ounce of strength I had not to.
He soon adjusted. Started playing cards, watching the games in the "tv room" and buying snacks with the little bit of money I could send once in a while.
He stopped shooting heroin into his veins by being locked up.
He's been clean from heroin for 14 months now.
I am grateful for my son's time in jail. I think he is too.
Don't feel sorry for him, sweetie. This could be his rock bottom.
All said with love and understanding,
Linda
I know this is hard for you. D*mn! I know it. My son was in for 6 months.
When he first went in, all I did was cry when I visited.
He told me things that were going on inside so I would bail him out.
It took every ounce of strength I had not to.
He soon adjusted. Started playing cards, watching the games in the "tv room" and buying snacks with the little bit of money I could send once in a while.
He stopped shooting heroin into his veins by being locked up.
He's been clean from heroin for 14 months now.
I am grateful for my son's time in jail. I think he is too.
Don't feel sorry for him, sweetie. This could be his rock bottom.
All said with love and understanding,
Linda
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Join Date: Nov 2003
Location: Port Charlotte, Florida
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((rozied)))
I speak from experience, here. The first and second time my oldest was sent to prison, I kind of treated it like he was away at college, or at least living at the country club. Sending him money for his books, and sending him care packages, and all that "motherly" kind of stuff.
Well, the third time was a charm for me. Nothin, nada, zip.
All I sent was stamp embossed envelopes, and paper.
This time out, he has remained sober.
Coincidence? Perhaps, but maybe treating them as though they ARE in prison helps a bit.
He doesn't need a t.v. it's available in the activity/sitting room.
He can write a letter to the guy at Oxford house, just mail him the address.
Hugs,
I speak from experience, here. The first and second time my oldest was sent to prison, I kind of treated it like he was away at college, or at least living at the country club. Sending him money for his books, and sending him care packages, and all that "motherly" kind of stuff.
Well, the third time was a charm for me. Nothin, nada, zip.
All I sent was stamp embossed envelopes, and paper.
This time out, he has remained sober.
Coincidence? Perhaps, but maybe treating them as though they ARE in prison helps a bit.
He doesn't need a t.v. it's available in the activity/sitting room.
He can write a letter to the guy at Oxford house, just mail him the address.
Hugs,
rozied
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Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: PA, USA
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Thank you ALL, So many wonderful people answered my plea for help I won't take the time to mention you all by name but I read each & every answer.
You r all correct. I am not getting involved. Even my ex husband who called me again this morning told me not to.
If anyone ever doubts the existence of a HP let them ask me. Nothing but a Supreme HP could have sent him bk into our lives when my sons needed him so much. He does answer prayer & in His time not ours. My ex is saying things to me I would have given anything to hear 33 yrs ago. It is so good to have someone that obviously cares about his sons & is finally not too sick with Addiction to think clearly. Oh what I would have given 33 yrs ago for this BUT it is a real blessing now & who am I to question my HP's timing. I have someone to share the load I have carried by myself since they were born 40 yrs ago.
Thank you all,
Love & Prayers,
Diane
You r all correct. I am not getting involved. Even my ex husband who called me again this morning told me not to.
If anyone ever doubts the existence of a HP let them ask me. Nothing but a Supreme HP could have sent him bk into our lives when my sons needed him so much. He does answer prayer & in His time not ours. My ex is saying things to me I would have given anything to hear 33 yrs ago. It is so good to have someone that obviously cares about his sons & is finally not too sick with Addiction to think clearly. Oh what I would have given 33 yrs ago for this BUT it is a real blessing now & who am I to question my HP's timing. I have someone to share the load I have carried by myself since they were born 40 yrs ago.
Thank you all,
Love & Prayers,
Diane
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