Lovestoomuch

Depends..............how cute is he??

raerae6

Tall, thin, cute face, brn eyes, long curly thick black hair....it was the hair that got me the first time around...the hair is truely outstanding!!! LOL

I used to get perms back in the day to get my hair like that...never looked quite the same as a his, though!

I always had a 'fro 'til it tamed down...

Lovestoomuch

ugh.........I remember the days of that devil of a perm. What was I thinking?

Back in the day of the big hair bands I would have thrown my panties at him.
but now............I like short hair on men. That's what happens when you're old like me lol.

raerae6

I'm kinda over the long-haired musician thing now, though. Next time i want....I don't know, a sargeant...somebody responsible!!!!

(he doesn't have BIG hair, though..it really is nice...you could make wigs out of that s**t....maybe i should scalp him...???

Lovestoomuch

SaTiT

I was sober for 11 years then relapsed. Then after having 2 being sober
for two years again. Started working my program again. So I wasn't
new to the anger issue or didn't know how to rid of it.

I was stupid angery at her for 2-3 months the last time we seperated,
but I would always had contact with her.

As long as she was using..it wasn't going to work.

So when there was finally no contacts..i got some sleep.lol
and much needed rest...started eating right and had sometype
of a normal or heatly environment.

So when she finally sobered up..just being around her, I get
triggers and forever being reminded of all the wreackage and
how much we lost..I had to really, really work my program.
But with her being clean and sober..there was progress because
it's a totally differnent ball game...becuase there's actually
communication..communication. I wouldn't say, I get angery at
her 24 hrs a day at that stage but everyonce in a while, I'll get
mad..mostly it was becuase she was still behaving in old behaviors
and I needed to get reminded not to reacted in my old behaviors...
mind you..I had a lot of recovery under my belt and it wasn't rossie.
I was just awear enough that it wasn't going to happen over night
so I didn't have an expectation of her being cured or being a total
angle just becuase she got clean and sober...
However it's like apple and oranges if she's not using.

Also at the sametime I was working on my unresolved childhood
anger, or aldult anger... My father is an active alcoholic.
So that crazy codi/alki madness of a dance trigger all of that
anger i had. but once i worked on some of the major roots
cuase of my anger...i wasn't so anger anymore...
It was a wierd feeling go get well after..i felt free or relased from
all of the anger I had my whole life

I don't belive time heals anything..becuase i stayed angery at my
ex-wife for years..but if I work my program I'll get rid of my anger
but that also takes a little bit of time.

in other words..give yourself a break and don't put a time limit
on yourself, but strive to get well. We all have our own pace

raerae6

[QUOTE:SaTiT]
in other words..give yourself a break and don't put a time limit
on yourself, but strive to get well. We all have our own pace [QUOTE]

Thanks!

It sounds like you are doing well!!!
Life throws alot at us huh?

TexasDumb

Ya'll are too much!

I am going to sleep with one eye open.....