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Old 06-03-2007, 01:04 PM
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Old 06-03-2007, 01:08 PM
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Lost Parent, My 10/yo daughter thinks that her dad is an alcoholic. Her father
asked for that. He does not want her to know that he is a drug addict.

I agreed to that because there is such a stigma with having a parent on drugs and
she knew a couple people in school whose parents divorced due to alcohol.

I know that when she is older that I will tell her the truth.

Her counselor knows that he is a crack addict but says he has a drinking problem.
I think she might let the cat out of the bag because she keeps saying "using".
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Old 06-03-2007, 01:10 PM
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Raerae - This is my dark secret too. My parents know though. It's not something
the people I know would understand.
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Old 06-03-2007, 01:13 PM
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Rozied - My father is a gambler also. He quit for one year - forced by mom.

He is 69 y/o now and he goes 2/x a week to the gambling boats. He tells my
daughter he is going to work. He plays poker. I think his health slowed him down.
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Old 06-03-2007, 01:15 PM
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Last Ditch Effort - My baby step is not calling him. He called today and left a
message and I'm not returning his call. Not calling - one day or 5 minutes at a
time.
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Old 06-03-2007, 01:18 PM
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Marle - I am trying to protect her from his addiction. It's hard in my heart
because we all love each other. But...I am trying to protect her.

His family is trying to talk me out of cutting him out of her life.
They tell me that he'll always be her dad. They have suggested that I let her
see him once and awhile.
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Old 06-03-2007, 01:23 PM
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Marle - I am trying to protect her the best that I know how. It's hard when we
all love each other.

His family does not want me to cut her out of his life. They tell me that he will
always be her dad. And that I should let them see each other once in awhile

Her counselor says no contact until he has 1 year or recovery under his belt.
Or let her see him only when he's straight.
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Old 06-03-2007, 02:56 PM
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Raerae, You are a strong one. I haven't experienced the stealing, etc.

Just the standing up.

Gee, I needed that, thanks! I've been struggling a lot lately with feeling so foolish and weak for allowing myself to be in that situation for so long.
I have been so angry with myself lately. But i remind myself that I learned a lot in the process.

It sounds like your doing the right things, your child's counselor seems to have good advice.

You are strong, too, and don't forget it!!!!
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Old 06-03-2007, 10:15 PM
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Raerae. No, I don't think you're foolish. Just human. They can be quite
charming, can't they? And we can see the good in them. And deep in our
hearts there is that hope that they will quit. Just human, Raerae.

Wouldn't it be neat if we had a crystal ball?
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