Abandoning Character Defects
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Join Date: May 2007
Location: Calif coast
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Abandoning Character Defects
I use to be so good at taking every one else's inventory. That major defect I am proud to say I have abandoned. Now that I only take my own, there are defects I had never acknowledged in an objective way. I actually like having this new insight about myself. Behavior changes have made the relationships in my life richer. For instance I'm a better listener, less critical, willing to follow and not have to lead, less controlling and more able to live in the present staying away from fear doubt & worry. There are still defects to abandon. Have you been able to change after taking your inventory?
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Join Date: Jul 2003
Location: Volcano Country!
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I am working on being less controlling
I am understanding that I cannot change "The Plan"
I am willing to allow my Higher Power a place in my life
I am noticing His small touches
(((hugs)))
I am understanding that I cannot change "The Plan"
I am willing to allow my Higher Power a place in my life
I am noticing His small touches
(((hugs)))
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: dallas texas
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I am working on so many things it's hard to narrow it down. The main ones are to "let go and let God" and like Teke, quit being a doormat. It's a hard, slow process. But I am determined to keep trying.
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Join Date: Mar 2006
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Thanks for this post.
Letting go of trying to control what I can not control is a big one. I also much more aware when I pass judgement and can call myself out on it. Like you I am happy with the self inight I am gaining in this process and do find it makes for better relationships in both my personal and professional life. I particularly like the awareness I have gained that there is no one "right" way. I used to think there was, and of course that way was *my* way.
How peaceful not to always have to fret about being right and try to convince others to do it my way!
Letting go of trying to control what I can not control is a big one. I also much more aware when I pass judgement and can call myself out on it. Like you I am happy with the self inight I am gaining in this process and do find it makes for better relationships in both my personal and professional life. I particularly like the awareness I have gained that there is no one "right" way. I used to think there was, and of course that way was *my* way.
How peaceful not to always have to fret about being right and try to convince others to do it my way!
rozied
Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: PA, USA
Posts: 1,292
I also am wking on not letting others including my own family advantag of me......or not being a door mat.
It is a long hard process. I am wking on it also. Reading the book Co-Dependent No More. How do you know where to draw the line. I guess you cannot do for your adult children what they should be doing for themselves. Even when helping is not hurting you there are many things adults have to do & if you do these things for them they do not learn to stand on their own 2 feet.
It is a long hard process. I am wking on it also. Reading the book Co-Dependent No More. How do you know where to draw the line. I guess you cannot do for your adult children what they should be doing for themselves. Even when helping is not hurting you there are many things adults have to do & if you do these things for them they do not learn to stand on their own 2 feet.
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