marle

My daughter has said something similar, Anvil. She likes to get f*cked up. And the last time she relapsed she cried and asked me if this time everything would be okay with us. I think that she meant could she use again and still have her life. Well it didn't happen because as you know addiction does not allow that. Hugs, Marle

calabash

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What are you so afraid of that you cannot face life without drugs?[/QUOTE]

This here question is the one I needed to answer before I was able to get clean and start recovery.

Life on lifes terms.........

I still struggle with that, but it is easier clean than high!

sunkensky

1. Did you think I wouldn't notice?
2. Did you think you were invisible?
3. Why did you need to escape me?
4. What did you need to escape when you had everything we could offer you?
5.How could you steal from your family?
6. How did you find fellow addicts in a completely new town?
7. Why are you so sad?
8. Where do you go and with who?
9. Why were you surprised when the family wouldn't let you back in?
10. Why can't you let go of the past?
11. Why can't you let go of your anger?
12. Why can't you love yourself?
13. Why can't you love your kids?
14. Why can't you love anyone?
15. Why did you come back?
16. Were you planning to steal from us the whole time?
17. Was it all lies?
18. Where are you now?
19. Are you even still alive?
20. Why do you hate yourself?

cinderellawkids

DO you really thing this can continue?
Why is it you havent eaten in a week, but youve still been drinking? (You say its interesting how that happens and its a problem, what do you mean by that?)
Why do you ask me if Ive left the marriage or if Im still here when you straighten your life out?
Do you really believe, without a job you will ahve the power back on Friday, and do you even know where to pay it?
Who am I, do you know?

laketime

i dont think there are answers, or if there are they are so differed and varied depending on the individual. my as had an intresting quote today when i was telling him no about something, he said "ive started this tornado and now i can't get out of the way" i think he wants to live a normal life or so called normal life whatever that is, like his other two brothers and family. the thing is the tornado's got him, and its just not painful enough for him right now to get out of the way. i know in my heart he wants to, the drugs and the girl are just too important right now. i can't rescue him from the tornado. i want to, but he has to want to. now who could get answers about a crazy situation like that. if he would quit, i wouldnt care about answers, just the future, like big sis says, the future is spotless, i pray for the future not answers from the past.

mahoney

Do you really think I'm that stupid as to think you are in that much physical pain that you constantly need painkillers?????

duet_4-8

For the last 15 years, I would have asked "If I am so horrible to live with that you have to do drugs, then why don't you just leave me so your life won't be so bad and you can be sober and responsible?"

Oh, and now that I have filed for divorce and we have been seperated almost three months...
"Now that you are free of your bitter, angry, unforgiving wife that drove you to drugs, how come you won't leave me alone???"

duet_4-8

you crack me up cinder!

dixied

here goes (and these are from my heart)
1. How long have you been using?
2. Why in God's name did you ever pick up this?
3. Why did you hurt everyone that loves you?
4. Do you ever think about how your life "could have" been?
5. You say you have no friends......do you wonder why?
6. You say you aren't happy at where you are in your profession........do you wonder why?
7. How do you plan to repay us for everything you have stolen from us?
8. What was so bad about your life that you chose crack?
9. Were you on crack the day you got married? Looking back at the video I think so.
10. Are you going to cause trouble when you realize you'll get no inheritance? You've had yours.......please don't badger your sisters trying to ask for more when we're gone.
Of course, even if he told me the answers I'd probably not believe him. I don't know if I ever will. He's my son but my even though I forgive him my feelings toward him have changed dramatically. And it has taken a lot for me to admit that. my best, dixie

lightseeker

wow - thanks for your honesty.....take care - Donna

notsleepingwell

1. Do you really think you will be alive to see your son graduate from high school?
2. When you look for another vein and can't find one because of the scarring, doesn't that scare the s__t outta you?
3. When you end up sleeping in the parks, do you miss the warm bed and wonderful apartment you used to have
4. Do you remember when you were growing up and wouldn't be caught dead in 2nd hand clothes, and now think nothing of buying someone else's shoes that don't fit at a thrift store?
5. When you have to walk everywhere because you've lost your car to someone?, Do you miss the life you used to have?
6. Do you remember birthdays and holidays with your family, or do you even know what month this is??
7. Do you not call because you are ashamed? or too high?
8. Do you feel guilt or nothing at all?!
9. Do you honestly think when you decide to stop things will magically be as they were?
10. Do you like these people you now hang out with??

Nitelite

Do you think I am not going to kick you out?
Don't you want to keep your job?
Aren't you going to miss your cats? (I know, but still....)
Wouldn't you rather go back and finish that 7 months of college?
Why do you blame everyone else?
Don't you miss your "old" life?
How stupid are you, anyway?

unsure of

Do you understand what i have been throught?

Why is this so hard for me when i'm not the addict?

why dId I care when you didn't?

HOw long is this going to take before things with us move forward? (i got my answer this weekend)

why you?

WHy? WHY?WHY?WHY?WHY?WHY? WHY? WHY WHY? WHY? WHY? WHY? WHY?