so, right now, it is what it is...
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so, right now, it is what it is...
and i am at peace with my decision...
i talked to my sister and lil guys dad last nite til 2 in the morning - they wanted to come pick up lil guys on saturday -after three months of almost no contact and two weeks (i thought it was on ly one week but app. it's two) of treatment - i told them that i didn't go through three months of hell, putting my marriage and family on the line, to do whats best for their kids and protect them, for them to think that they can be sober for two weeks and come fu&^ it all up - i will NEVER go through anything like this again - it's been hard - i told them that they need to have a plan - a real plan - jobs, housing, what they will do if they relapse (ie; who they will call, etc) budgets, and in that plan they better really think about what is best for their kids - and then we can talk about them getting their kids - that i won't let them come here, see the kids and leave me to pick up the pieces - i've put enough broken pieces back together these past three months to feel like humpty dumpty's orthopedic surgeon (i still kept my charming sense of humor
) ...
so that's where were at - they agreed that they have to think of what's best for the kids - and that they need some sort of real plan - and when i feel - in my heart and in my head - ok with what they show me (though their words and actions) we can talk about them picking up the kids...
thanks everybody - for sharing your experience and your heart - tonight i go to my favorite meeting with some of my favorite people - today is a good day...
love,
s
i talked to my sister and lil guys dad last nite til 2 in the morning - they wanted to come pick up lil guys on saturday -after three months of almost no contact and two weeks (i thought it was on ly one week but app. it's two) of treatment - i told them that i didn't go through three months of hell, putting my marriage and family on the line, to do whats best for their kids and protect them, for them to think that they can be sober for two weeks and come fu&^ it all up - i will NEVER go through anything like this again - it's been hard - i told them that they need to have a plan - a real plan - jobs, housing, what they will do if they relapse (ie; who they will call, etc) budgets, and in that plan they better really think about what is best for their kids - and then we can talk about them getting their kids - that i won't let them come here, see the kids and leave me to pick up the pieces - i've put enough broken pieces back together these past three months to feel like humpty dumpty's orthopedic surgeon (i still kept my charming sense of humor
) ...so that's where were at - they agreed that they have to think of what's best for the kids - and that they need some sort of real plan - and when i feel - in my heart and in my head - ok with what they show me (though their words and actions) we can talk about them picking up the kids...
thanks everybody - for sharing your experience and your heart - tonight i go to my favorite meeting with some of my favorite people - today is a good day...
love,
s
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Wonderful Itis. Im so very happy you made boundaries and stuck to it. Im also very happy that the mom and dad were willing to go with what you placed for boundaries. To me that was very good sign of recovery.
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Your plan sounds like a good one. I think what you are doing for those kids is great, they need someone to look out for them. I'm also glad that your sis seems to understand that, and that you are ok with the decisions made.
Keep up the great work, I think you truly are those kids' gaurdian angel!
Keep up the great work, I think you truly are those kids' gaurdian angel!
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so that's where were at - they agreed that they have to think of what's best for the kids - and that they need some sort of real plan - and when i feel - in my heart and in my head - ok with what they show me (though their words and actions) we can talk about them picking up the kids...
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