I wonder
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I wonder
I usually posts in the friends and family of alcoholics.....yet everytime I come here I wonder if I should be here instead--seems like there are more parents here and mostly married on the other posts---would you mind if I came here as well?
I am the mother of a 27 years old man(?)--he was addicted to crack at 15 and kicked that--then became addicted to alcohol--BAD---it has been an absolute nightmare as a parent (a single one too),,,Finally after 13 years of rehabs/jail etc....he is in recovery.7 months sober now--like a miricle!!!!
But I could use some support from other parents as well.........
I am the mother of a 27 years old man(?)--he was addicted to crack at 15 and kicked that--then became addicted to alcohol--BAD---it has been an absolute nightmare as a parent (a single one too),,,Finally after 13 years of rehabs/jail etc....he is in recovery.7 months sober now--like a miricle!!!!
But I could use some support from other parents as well.........
Peace Hope Love
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Midwest
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I am new to this online forum, and have found HUGE comfort in what I am able to read online. Clearly many of the people have been here a while; they know one another and they speak from the heart. In meetings I am always amazed at the honesty - what I say about my addicts(yes plural), and more importantly - as the primary enabler of this bunch - what I have said about myself. I am equally amazed and impressed with the sharing I find here, as blown away by the wisdom they are willing to share. Please keep coming back..like they say 'it works if you work it beacuse you are worth it'.
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Sometimes I think the kids have easier access to drugs... so they're first introduction to addiction is via illegal drugs. Our husbands are generally older, and from a generation where it was easier to get booze...which introduced them to the alcohol side of addiction.
There are some differences for them (access, legality, social acceptability), but for US, most of the issues are very much the same.
Glad to see you here. ((Hugs)) ....PS... it is ok to visit back and forth - as much as you like!
There are some differences for them (access, legality, social acceptability), but for US, most of the issues are very much the same.
Glad to see you here. ((Hugs)) ....PS... it is ok to visit back and forth - as much as you like!
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Join Date: Jul 2003
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Hi Sunflower,
My son started out as an alcoholic and progressed into drug addiction. I've been on both forums since I came here. I'm very happy to hear that your son has been clean and sober for the last 7 months. That's a gift from God for sure. Your good news encourages us all in hope for our loved ones too. I'm so glad that you came over here to share your ESH with us too.
My son started out as an alcoholic and progressed into drug addiction. I've been on both forums since I came here. I'm very happy to hear that your son has been clean and sober for the last 7 months. That's a gift from God for sure. Your good news encourages us all in hope for our loved ones too. I'm so glad that you came over here to share your ESH with us too.
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Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: PA, USA
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Hi Sunfower, I am very glad to hear your son has been in recovery for 7 months. Your sharing gives other parents hope. This forum is made up of many good people that share from their hearts........welcome !!!
Love,
Diane
Love,
Diane
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(((((Sunflower))))
Of course you're welcome on this forum - everyone is welcome here, just as we were all welcome to the Friends and Family of Alcoholics forum when this forum was down.
I'm not one of the moms here, but believe me there are plenty of moms here with amazing ESH...welcome to FFSA.
Of course you're welcome on this forum - everyone is welcome here, just as we were all welcome to the Friends and Family of Alcoholics forum when this forum was down.
I'm not one of the moms here, but believe me there are plenty of moms here with amazing ESH...welcome to FFSA.
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Sunflower, I'm so glad you are posting here...The program is for us so doc to me makes little difference. Our pain is the same whether drugs or alcohol and I believe as NA says that alcohol is a drug
I'm another mom...lost one child to the disease and have a daughter in recovery from binge drinking...but there was drug abuse mixed in too. I think cocaine is often a choice for alcoholics in time since it tends to allow them to drink more and still keep going (just my opinion) I get lots of strength and hope from all the members who post here and in my Naranon group. Hugs and a big belated welcome! I'm so glad your child is working recovery and you can enjoy seeing the son you know again!
I'm another mom...lost one child to the disease and have a daughter in recovery from binge drinking...but there was drug abuse mixed in too. I think cocaine is often a choice for alcoholics in time since it tends to allow them to drink more and still keep going (just my opinion) I get lots of strength and hope from all the members who post here and in my Naranon group. Hugs and a big belated welcome! I'm so glad your child is working recovery and you can enjoy seeing the son you know again!
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Sunflower -
I completely agree with everyone before me! We're glad to have you. This is about us so it really doesn't matter what brought us here - whether it's a gambling, sex, crack, heroin, xanax, alcohol, pot addiction. Living with someone in active addiction, no matter what it is, makes us sick too.
That's awesome about your son's 7 months...way to go. My RAH never made it in recovery until he realized and accepted that he can't drink - ever. It always led him right back to his doc.
Welcome -we're glad that you are with us! Love, Donna
I completely agree with everyone before me! We're glad to have you. This is about us so it really doesn't matter what brought us here - whether it's a gambling, sex, crack, heroin, xanax, alcohol, pot addiction. Living with someone in active addiction, no matter what it is, makes us sick too.
That's awesome about your son's 7 months...way to go. My RAH never made it in recovery until he realized and accepted that he can't drink - ever. It always led him right back to his doc.
Welcome -we're glad that you are with us! Love, Donna
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Happy to hear about your son too. I've been posting on both too. My son is a drug addict and my husband is having some binge drinking issues. Isn't life grand! His drinking has been going on for quite some time, but I wasn't sure if he would be considered an alcoholic. After reading many posts, I do believe he's heading in that direction. My son's been out of the house for 3 months. Miss him terribly. He says he's clean, but I haven't seen him to really know for sure.
Hope your son keeps up the good work. Hugs.
Hope your son keeps up the good work. Hugs.
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Sunflower....an addict is an addict, doesn't matter their DOC. I personally love reading your posts and hope you post more often.
My son has 4 + mo. sober now, so we are sorta in the same place. I continue to come around and post, though, since I think it's so important for parents to hear that recovery IS possible for our addicts. There is always hope, no matter how dark it seems.
Love, Barb
btw, did your RAS turn into a completely different person sober? We are still getting to know our son...he amazes me on a daily basis. :-)
My son has 4 + mo. sober now, so we are sorta in the same place. I continue to come around and post, though, since I think it's so important for parents to hear that recovery IS possible for our addicts. There is always hope, no matter how dark it seems.
Love, Barb
btw, did your RAS turn into a completely different person sober? We are still getting to know our son...he amazes me on a daily basis. :-)
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What a nice Welcome from so many of you!! I appreciate it!
(secret mom) just for you--my AS is a totally different person now--he has gained a much needed 60 pounds (he is 6ft4')--I see him again when I look in his eyes-a real transformation has taken place and to me it is almost still unbelievable.I never ever thought it could/would happen. 13 years of a nightmare---7 months of relief...still some rough edges to work out. He is going for a job on Monday--please say a prayer for him!
(secret mom) just for you--my AS is a totally different person now--he has gained a much needed 60 pounds (he is 6ft4')--I see him again when I look in his eyes-a real transformation has taken place and to me it is almost still unbelievable.I never ever thought it could/would happen. 13 years of a nightmare---7 months of relief...still some rough edges to work out. He is going for a job on Monday--please say a prayer for him!
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