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Old 04-21-2007, 12:31 PM
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i can't move

i'm stuck. i know it's not hopeless. i'm just stuck. please - a few simple recovery reminders?

thank you, k
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Old 04-21-2007, 12:39 PM
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Go out and do something nice for yourself and know that you deserve it.
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Old 04-21-2007, 12:43 PM
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hang in there PC....I know that space very well.

You're exactly where your suppose to be.

Just do what is in front of you,
simple things such as cleaning out a junk draw.
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Old 04-21-2007, 12:44 PM
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The difference between today and tommorrow is about 24 hours.

Take a deep breath, you're going to get through this, I promise.

Hig huge hugs,
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Old 04-21-2007, 12:50 PM
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Here's a reminder: You are alive and deserve the good life that your HP gave you. I've been in your place more than once when I thought I could not survive one more minute. Guess what? I did!

Moose is so right! It will be ok!

Hugs, Devastated
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Old 04-21-2007, 12:58 PM
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Plan something fun just for you. Something you can do right now or in next few hours. Something fun, even if it's reading a magazine or calling a friend to go visit (to get me out of my obsessing), or planting a new geranium...anything to get you out of your OWN head.

Remember, NOTHING LASTS FOREVER. Move a muscle, change a mood.
Call a recovery friend.

Lordy have mercy, I'm trying so hard to help you cause I know how it feels.

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Old 04-21-2007, 01:11 PM
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I always remind myself of this. I can't, He can. Helps me to know that I am not alone in my pain. Sometimes a good cry helps me too. I will listen to some sad song, have my cry and then move on. Sometimes it takes me a while, but with time, I seem to be able to let go of the worry and the pain. I do hope you find a way to get better. Being stuck for a while is okay too. Just be gentle with yourself. You had so much hope and now you must be realistic again. I know how much that hurts. Time. Hugs, Marle
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Old 04-21-2007, 01:14 PM
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Take a deep breath. Imagine. Blink once or twice. Know that tomorrow is a few hours away.
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Old 04-21-2007, 01:23 PM
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"This too will pass."

oh...and also please read my sig line
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Old 04-21-2007, 01:26 PM
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if you can fix it,fix it
if you can't then just let go....

patient acceptance...

(easier said than done...sigh)
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Old 04-21-2007, 03:05 PM
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i'm trying over here. thank you, k
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Old 04-21-2007, 03:24 PM
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Ok, I have to share my favorite piece of information that I recieved here from Ann. It has gotten me through more than a couple "stuck" and miserable positions, I can tell you.

-The difference between a bad day and a good day is a couple of days!

It may sound simple but once you read it, absorb it and realize that it's true - it's true! Getting stuck is normal for all of us. "Staying" stuck is what you don't want!

This too shall pass.

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Old 04-21-2007, 03:24 PM
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sorry that you are in a low spot....I'm trying to remember "let go or get dragged".

Hope that the sun starts shining soon.

Love, Donna
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Old 04-21-2007, 03:28 PM
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(((k))) My counsler told me to hold my hands out in fromt of me, palms up. Close my eyes & just breath. Nice & easy, just breath. You will find yourself less tense with yours hands out like that, you aren't clenching anything.

Today I am kind of playing a mind game with myself. My stepdaughter is movng in for awhile next week. ( The youngest, not the married pregnant one) So I have things to do to get her room ready. But I have still been triying to think, ok is today day 5 for AD to be clean? Did she use? Just some of the things my mind can do all by it's self sometimes. SO I am shooting for 30 minuets at a time I am not allowing myself to go there. I get something going, and do not allow myself to guess. Just stay in the moment for 30 minutes. It may sound dumb, but it has helped today. I look forward to a face to face meeting tomorrow morning. Hang in there, we're gonna be ok. Hugs.
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Old 04-21-2007, 03:48 PM
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mainly most important is "YOU ARE POWERLESS". do something you have been wanting to do.hugs.
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Old 04-21-2007, 05:19 PM
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"Progress, not perfection" and "Pain is enevitable, but misery is an option" are 2 slogans I find myself returning to when I am getting stuck.

Another good when I read on a church billboard was "Don't put in a period where God has put a comma". I like that one 'cause it reminds me that I can't see the future and don't know what is in store for me. Could be bad, but there is an equal chance that it could be great.


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Old 04-21-2007, 05:37 PM
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I feel for you--so sorry this is a bad day for you--for me it is always DISTRACTION--whatever type you like but nothing that has anything to do with the A.
Read a book--go to a movie--take a nice bath and go to bed--tomorrow will be a new day
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Old 04-21-2007, 07:30 PM
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Her's one I always have to ask myself.
How Important is it?
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Old 04-21-2007, 08:31 PM
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Hope you are feeling a bit better. If not tonight, then perhaps tomorrow will be better. We all go through these rough spots. I allow myself to be there for 24 hours; then I make myself get up and do something to take my mind off of my sorrows. I like to garden, so I have planted a few flowers this week and they make me smile. Even days after my 24 hr blue day, they remind me that I made it through another rough day and I can do it again.
I think I shall have many flowers planted this year! lol

Hope you feel better soon
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