not even 24 hours...
not even 24 hours...
Well, Trevor got out of prison on Thursday. He was there for a year and a half. :>)
He came by school with his dad to pick up his clothes and things he had left behind. His dad was bringing him shopping, then to the 1/2 way house. He didn't have any time to spend with me, though we had planned to go to dinner. By Friday he was high.
Bill knew by Sunday, but, didn't bother to let me know.
I just called the place, and gave my new phone number. I left a message, asking Trevor to call me when he got in. Of course, I didn't know he was off and running, cuz his father couldn't be bothered to let me know. So, if he does show up, they are going to give him my new number.
I don't want him to have it.
Bill said he would give Trevor a roof over his head if he called during a decent hour. Trevor called last night at 1:30, stoned, asking for a ride, and Bill told him no. (He lives in CT now; Trev was in RI).
So, Trevor just won't learn. Neither will Bill...
I am trying to decide if I should call the 1/2 way house and ask the guy to rip up my number.... :>(
Shalom!
He came by school with his dad to pick up his clothes and things he had left behind. His dad was bringing him shopping, then to the 1/2 way house. He didn't have any time to spend with me, though we had planned to go to dinner. By Friday he was high.
Bill knew by Sunday, but, didn't bother to let me know.
I just called the place, and gave my new phone number. I left a message, asking Trevor to call me when he got in. Of course, I didn't know he was off and running, cuz his father couldn't be bothered to let me know. So, if he does show up, they are going to give him my new number.
I don't want him to have it.
Bill said he would give Trevor a roof over his head if he called during a decent hour. Trevor called last night at 1:30, stoned, asking for a ride, and Bill told him no. (He lives in CT now; Trev was in RI).
So, Trevor just won't learn. Neither will Bill...
I am trying to decide if I should call the 1/2 way house and ask the guy to rip up my number.... :>(
Shalom!
hello history teach. my name is kimmie and i now have a son who is doing 4 yrs in prison for his addiction. he probably will only do half that time. i want him to do enough to learn his lesson. but i know how you must feel and my prayers are with you. your not alone my friend. we are not responsible for what our kids do. i am learning that today...
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My husband went to jail for 2 months after robbing pharmacies. He was addicted to oxycontin at the time. He got out of jail, and the first day out, he started using heroin in the halfway house where his parents took him. I sometimes wonder what is going on in these places--he has since told me that everyone there was either using heroin or crack.
He was in a low place when he got out of jail, unsure of what was going to happen with our relationship and unsure of whether or not he was going to go to prison. He started using because he was feeling low and pretty sorry about/for himself. It's hard to know what the right thing to do is in these situations.
It sounds like you're strong, though, and taking care of yourself, which is all we can do!
He was in a low place when he got out of jail, unsure of what was going to happen with our relationship and unsure of whether or not he was going to go to prison. He started using because he was feeling low and pretty sorry about/for himself. It's hard to know what the right thing to do is in these situations.
It sounds like you're strong, though, and taking care of yourself, which is all we can do!
So sorry to hear this teach.. I was, and will continue to pray for Trevor..
Hopefully it won't take long before he has enough of the crap, and comes to
his senses.. A year and a half is a long time in life to be sitting, to just come out and start again right away.. If he didn't change his friends, and places, then that makes it sooo hard.. I would think in prison, and in the half way house he was learning the correct way to live, and once that seed is planted, I truly believe that helps.. It's just not the same as the beginning of using,, when we just didn't know what we know after some treatment, and/or meetings, this stays in us after we relapse, and I know my relapses just got shorter, and shorter.. Really the guilt got to me.. I knew there was a better way to live,, and that just didn't go away..
I will be praying for Trevor...
Hang in there..
Love,
Becky
Hopefully it won't take long before he has enough of the crap, and comes to
his senses.. A year and a half is a long time in life to be sitting, to just come out and start again right away.. If he didn't change his friends, and places, then that makes it sooo hard.. I would think in prison, and in the half way house he was learning the correct way to live, and once that seed is planted, I truly believe that helps.. It's just not the same as the beginning of using,, when we just didn't know what we know after some treatment, and/or meetings, this stays in us after we relapse, and I know my relapses just got shorter, and shorter.. Really the guilt got to me.. I knew there was a better way to live,, and that just didn't go away..
I will be praying for Trevor...
Hang in there..
Love,
Becky
I am just so saddened by this news.
Take care of yourself. We are here to listen and to love you.
Praying for you.
Praying for Trevor.
Praying for the whole thing to turn toward the light.
Take care of yourself. We are here to listen and to love you.
Praying for you.
Praying for Trevor.
Praying for the whole thing to turn toward the light.
Teach, I am sorry. I know that you were keeping your expectations low, but it must still hurt like heck that he is back using. I guess he is just not ready. Take care of yourself. Hugs, Marle
aawwwww, Teach.
I'm so sorry to hear your news. I know you had your heart set on a good
starting point for him. I'm sure, when he was preparing to get out, he too, had good intentions. Until...
That beast, the drugs, called him in.
I hate them so much!
I know how you feel.
Just want you to know, I love you, and pray for you and your family.
Hang in there and vent at your next meeting- big time.
With love and understanding,
I'm so sorry to hear your news. I know you had your heart set on a good
starting point for him. I'm sure, when he was preparing to get out, he too, had good intentions. Until...
That beast, the drugs, called him in.
I hate them so much!
I know how you feel.
Just want you to know, I love you, and pray for you and your family.
Hang in there and vent at your next meeting- big time.
With love and understanding,
sorry teach, i guess he had to test the waters again. my rah did the same thing afters 2 yrs in prison, wasn't long before he was in more trouble and back again. i believe that even though he went back out, he still knows what its like to be sober and will soon figure out thats not the life he wants, i pray that he does anyway. i pray he'll find his way soon. keeping you all in my prayers.
oh teach, you just don't know how sorry i am for you & for trevor.i am so,so sorry.i know exactly how you feel. you don't really expect anything to be different but you have that deep hope. just take care of yourself.there is nothing you can do. i guess trevor is not or has not been on his meds? hugs to you & prayers for the both of you & bill too.
(((Teach))) I know this wasn't a huge surprise but I also know how much it hurts. I'm really really sorry he couldn't wait.
I'm sending out lots of prayers for both you and Trevor and special hugs just for you.
I'm sending out lots of prayers for both you and Trevor and special hugs just for you.
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