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Thank you everyone. I know this is one of the only places I feel at peace at right now. I know my mom didn't know I was even there, and it wouldn't of matter either, she also has alzeheimer's and doesn't know anyone. I did speak to the social worker today and she said that mom is doing better today and will be moved to another nursing home tomorrow.
My family is real F'd up, so I try to stay away from them to begin with. But this takes the cake. I didn't not make a fool of myself but I wanted to kill someone last night. At least my Aunt who was with me saw her, and told me how she looked.
Love all of you, thanks again
sending prayers and hugs to all of you
My family is real F'd up, so I try to stay away from them to begin with. But this takes the cake. I didn't not make a fool of myself but I wanted to kill someone last night. At least my Aunt who was with me saw her, and told me how she looked.
Love all of you, thanks again
sending prayers and hugs to all of you
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Pam, I'm so sorry...that really is so hurtful, I too would have felt horrible. Your mom knows you love her and your HP knows you are a good, loving, kind person...that's what matters. I'm send ing prayers for your mom and prayers for you that you may find peace again. We are here and we love you! Hugs
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I'm so sorry that your family was so petty to keep you from seeing your Mom during this very critical time. I hope that you'll be able to have pity for them because they are truly pitiful to stoop to such a low. I know that it must've hurt alot to be turned away from your own Mom's room. I hope that you will never let them bring you down, because you know how much you love your Mom and that she loves you. That's the truth that you can stand on.
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Hello everyone,
Just wanted to give you an update. Mom was transferred yesterday, found out when I called hospital to see how she was. Will try to go and see her this weekend, if they will let me in. This time I will call and find out before I drive an hour to be turned away. All of you have been great to me, thank you. I feel you are more of a family to me than my own family is. I know I will always be told the truth here, if I am right or if I am wrong. I also know that I will get the support I need. I just hope that someday I return it back to you.
All of you are wonderful, thank you!!!!!!!!!
Hugs and prayers coming out to you,
Just wanted to give you an update. Mom was transferred yesterday, found out when I called hospital to see how she was. Will try to go and see her this weekend, if they will let me in. This time I will call and find out before I drive an hour to be turned away. All of you have been great to me, thank you. I feel you are more of a family to me than my own family is. I know I will always be told the truth here, if I am right or if I am wrong. I also know that I will get the support I need. I just hope that someday I return it back to you.
All of you are wonderful, thank you!!!!!!!!!
Hugs and prayers coming out to you,
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Originally Posted by pjbs55 
Hello everyone,
I feel you are more of a family to me than my own family is. I know I will always be told the truth here, if I am right or if I am wrong. I also know that I will get the support I need. I just hope that someday I return it back to you.
All of you are wonderful, thank you!!!!!!!!!
Hugs and prayers coming out to you,
I feel you are more of a family to me than my own family is. I know I will always be told the truth here, if I am right or if I am wrong. I also know that I will get the support I need. I just hope that someday I return it back to you.
All of you are wonderful, thank you!!!!!!!!!
Hugs and prayers coming out to you,
Love, SM
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Teke, and secretmom
Thank you for the kind words.
I called the nursing home tonight from work and was told don't bother coming since you will be escorted off the property. They will call the police if I even show up. Called me Dad and told him thanks for showing me how little I mean to them, and that I was right all along I never belonged in that family.
I have a family here so I'm not feeling as alone as I could be.
I am thinking about going to court to get a court order to be allowed to see her, not really sure if it would even be worth it to me anymore.
Love and prayers for all of you
Thank you for the kind words.
I called the nursing home tonight from work and was told don't bother coming since you will be escorted off the property. They will call the police if I even show up. Called me Dad and told him thanks for showing me how little I mean to them, and that I was right all along I never belonged in that family.
I have a family here so I'm not feeling as alone as I could be.
I am thinking about going to court to get a court order to be allowed to see her, not really sure if it would even be worth it to me anymore.
Love and prayers for all of you
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Pam I'm so sorry, I know that one of the worst things in recovery is realizing how difficult relationships have become...and how tough it may be to fix them. But for right now your most important relationship is with yourself...love you - the rest will come.
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Pam. I'm so sorry...I'm glad you called so you at least didn't have to go through that in person again. I find this incomprehensible...I have no words.
I have an older brother who chose to "disown" the family for reasons I never understood. He never came to funerals for my mom, brother, daughter, etc. and never responded when i have tried to reach out. I know I can do no more and it feels like I lost another sibling.
Knowing how difficult just that is and how it can hurt, I can't imagine your pain. I'm glad you have family here to come to. I'm still praying for you and your mom and for your children too. Big hugs
I have an older brother who chose to "disown" the family for reasons I never understood. He never came to funerals for my mom, brother, daughter, etc. and never responded when i have tried to reach out. I know I can do no more and it feels like I lost another sibling.
Knowing how difficult just that is and how it can hurt, I can't imagine your pain. I'm glad you have family here to come to. I'm still praying for you and your mom and for your children too. Big hugs
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I'm so sorry
I cannot imagine how I would have reacted in that situation. You have every right to feel what you are feeling right now.
My heartfelt prayers are coming your way tonight. I am also going to say a special prayer for your Mother.
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My heartfelt prayers are coming your way tonight. I am also going to say a special prayer for your Mother.
ss
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pam!!
im sorry for this things to hapne toyou,, itsmust be very heartbraking.
i hope that things will get bettera nd your mom will feel better!!
just the best thing ithink is pray !! things will bebetter!!
prayers go toyouand your family! and thank u for the updates.
im sorry for this things to hapne toyou,, itsmust be very heartbraking.
i hope that things will get bettera nd your mom will feel better!!
just the best thing ithink is pray !! things will bebetter!!
prayers go toyouand your family! and thank u for the updates.
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Pam
I'm sorry your family is still acting so..so...so.....self centered and childlike!!
I hope they come to realize they are not helping the situation or your Mom. Just pray about it and know that we praying for you also. Hang in there - I'm sure your Mom knows you care regardless of how your family acts.
Hugs!
I'm sorry your family is still acting so..so...so.....self centered and childlike!!
I hope they come to realize they are not helping the situation or your Mom. Just pray about it and know that we praying for you also. Hang in there - I'm sure your Mom knows you care regardless of how your family acts.
Hugs!
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Prayers Please
Pam.
We have not met, but a holy anger rises in me when I read
this thread. Whoever is stopping you from seeing your
mom at a time like this is wrong. My eldest daughter
threw me out of my mom's last May. I got clean and went
to see Mother in June. I fell into her arms and we cried and
cried. She would not allow me to ask forgiveness, she said
that she had already forgiven me when my car left the driveway
the month before and wished I had returned. You see,
it was the attitude and scorn of my daughter, not my
mom that was keeping me away. I was afraid that my whole
family hated me, even my mom.
Pam, if you have the strength and have anyone who will go with
you and support you through this, get a court order. To just be there.
If it doesn't happen, you tried.
My heart goes out to you. It is amazing what "family"
members do to one another, how cruel they can be, how blind they
can be to what is truly important.
(My eldest daughter's saying is "family, family, family")
Prayers, prayers.
Love,
Sherry
We have not met, but a holy anger rises in me when I read
this thread. Whoever is stopping you from seeing your
mom at a time like this is wrong. My eldest daughter
threw me out of my mom's last May. I got clean and went
to see Mother in June. I fell into her arms and we cried and
cried. She would not allow me to ask forgiveness, she said
that she had already forgiven me when my car left the driveway
the month before and wished I had returned. You see,
it was the attitude and scorn of my daughter, not my
mom that was keeping me away. I was afraid that my whole
family hated me, even my mom.
Pam, if you have the strength and have anyone who will go with
you and support you through this, get a court order. To just be there.
If it doesn't happen, you tried.
My heart goes out to you. It is amazing what "family"
members do to one another, how cruel they can be, how blind they
can be to what is truly important.
(My eldest daughter's saying is "family, family, family")
Prayers, prayers.
Love,
Sherry
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