Cynay

Too funny,

But after years of being a codi and now alot of recovery I saw this little heart with a bow and that is what it said on it.

I have been a single mom for mostly 15 years, I have almost killed myself over the years trying to keep my daughter up with the Jones... *chuckles* and be Mom, Dad and Siblings.... Ohhhh did I mention the GUILT... kids are good at pushing buttons.

Needless to say I did not live up to her/anyone else (ex's family) expectations and about 4 years ago I stopped trying so hard.... I saw that Frig manget and just had to have it

pmaslan

I am right there with you Cynay. I was a single mom with my daughter
for 7 years before I married my boys dad. Now with 2 teenage sons
I am a single mom again for the last 9 years....it is amazing how we
all just seem to adjust....but it isn't always easy.

robina

We all need these gentle reminders of how to deal with mother guilt

Cynay

Noooo I think you have it wrong Patty....

That sign is for HER. She is the one that needs to adjust to not having a supermom....

I decided that Im doing just fine, I gave up trying to be supermom and just decided that Im doing the best I can and if that is not good enough and she needs theraphy in the future then I might help her pay for it then *chuckles*

I still have the Mom Guilts, she still pushes my buttons and Im still pretty much a push over most of the time.... Im not just not trying to be perfect anymore.

pmaslan

No mom guilts here ...I know what you meant....
my kids have adjusted .....better have after 9 years..lol
....but I think as a family unit
we all had to do a fair amount of adjusting....
nothing easy about a single parent household....not at all.

ChildlikeFaith

I've been a single mom since 1997 (except for my year long marriage to AH which was pretty much me being a single mom with an extra kid). There have been more times than I can count that I sat down on the floor and bawled my eyes out because I was trying to hard to be supermom.

guyinNC

I am Mr. Mom!! I'm still trying to adjust! LOL

But I love the job!

mfisher

I was a single mom married to an alcoholic for 23 years.

Cynay

You know that is the Saddest part.... if you include the time I was married to her A father I have been a single Mom all her life.

I have made soooooo many mistakes in my life trying to make up to her the lack of everything. Mistakes with men trying/wanting to give her a father, Mistakes with punishments cuz Im trying to be a Dad and feeling guilty for letting her get away with too much.... Im not good at disipline... good heavens ...

Who would have thought that if I had just taken the focus off what I was doing wrong, and placed it on what I was doing right and started taking care of me instead or trying to fix history ..... It would all turn out ok, without all that chaos.

Im with you Child, I cant tell you how many times I have sat on the floor bawling my eyes out and sitting in fear cuz I did not know what to do... I remember when my daughters appendix ruptured.... I could easily have slit my throat for the guilt feelings...

See she was sick, throwing up and I called the Doc, they said a viris was going around and if she was not better by Friday to bring her in (this was Wed) so Friday I ended up taking her in and come to find out her appendix ruptured and she had all that posion in her system.... she was in the hospital for 11 days... It did not help to find out that just the day before her release a little boy was brought in and died from the exact same thing. Guilt is such a horrible burden to carry.

pmaslan

Mothers Day should be a once a month holiday....
we deserve it.......

meli2005

Love that magnet!!!