Minx1969

so for all that have been following my unemployment/job search saga - i'm starting to make progress again on finding a job.

I'm a candidate for a compliance consultant (Sarbannes Oxley stuff) job at a company. I also got a call today from a recruiter for a similar type job.

I also had lunch with a friend of mine and the person at her recruiting company who is the account manager for the Countrywide account which is five minutes from home..he agreed to take my resume over to the managers he knows and try to pimp me out..

so things are looking up...I'm not completely through my savings but I'm going to take a home equity loan out if needed..

I had about a week melt down then got back up and I'm working at it..

Also starting to work on my alternative career..

One day at a time.

pmaslan

and that's all you can do at the moment....
Hang in there as I have said before, when it's meant
to be it will happen.
Hey what did you have for lunch anyway.....hope you
were watchin' them calories....lol

GettingFree

Hey Minx,

I so understand the cycle of feeling discouraged then reapplying and digging in. It makes sense when there are frequent reminders that say, "Nope, you have another disappointment to handle; or another decision; or another change to adapt to." Not to mention handling the other parts of life (like realtionships!).

I'm so glad for you that you have more work options coming at you. I think that's sometimes the thing that's easy to forget -- there are ALWAYS options. (She says, reminding herself!.)

One of these options will be a great fit for you.

best
gf

JessicaNAJ

Hang in there. Things will work out for you.

Jazzman

It will work out Minx. You'll get what you need just like the song goes.

I need an alternative career...

Once I was on a trip to the Bahamas and there were three guys in really old beat up boats running a parasail business. They had a wooden platform anchored 200 yards out from the beach and ferry customers from the beach to the platform. Tourists would stand up and get strapped into the parasail and whoosh! They had two boats constantly picking up and dropping off customers, and the other ferrying more back and forth from the beach. I counted about 50 customers in one hour and they charged $50.00 each ride. These guys had gold chains, gold earrings, gold teeth...

When I was in Bora Bora this guy named Oolie had a jet ski tour guide gig where he would pickup customers at the resorts, (the resorts provided the jet skis) and give them a tour of the island, stopping at an underwater coral garden where you would snorkel around for a bit, then return to the hotel. He charged $250 per couple and booked 4 tours a day 5 days a week.

I joke w/ my good buds about leaving all this behind one day and starting a parasail/jet ski tour guide/ coffee/espresso hut business on some beach some day...

I have 5 more years to go then I'm an empty nester.....

Cynay

Ohhhhhh empty nester!!!! Im resemble that soon.

Minix I have seen your resume... Holy Cow, what are you not qualified for?????

No wonder its taking awhile to find something, It has to be a pretty posh job to live up to that resume. Dont worry, the right one will come along.

minnie

(((Minx))) I have every faith in you, petal.

Make sure your start date is July though, yes?

DesertEyes

Heya Minx, glad to hear your doing well today

I'm in the middle of a job search too, made more interesting by a few gaps in my history due to heart surgery and other such distractions. What trips me up is some old childhood "tapes" from my toxic family. I dunno how they got started, but somewhere along the way I got my self-esteem and my physical safety and the concept of being judged all tangled up in the same pot.

When I sit before a panel of interviewers something fails inside of me and my "feeling world" disconects from my "reality world". I _feel_ as if my very life is in danger if I am not approved of, exactly the way I felt when in the presence of my "toxic" parents. The reality is quite different. Those poor folks across the table are tired, fretting cuz they're falling behind on their work, afraid to look stupid before their co-workers, scared they'll get blamed if an idiot gets hired, and they're not even dressed as good as I am.

It's hard for me to reconnect my "feeling world" with my "reality world" when it gets unplugged. Sometimes I have to get on my knees and pray, sometimes I call a friend on the program. This morning I was sitting in a waiting room before an interview, with all my emotions a tangle. I pulled out my palm top and pretended that I was reading something and just prayed, but not for me. I prayed for all the people I know who are having troubles in life, here on SR and in my f2f meets. Funny how that works for me, in a couple minutes the fear just vanished.

Now I had my reality in touch with my feelings, and I walked into the interview fully aware that nobody is judging nobody. We're all just looking for someone we can get along with. For all I know they may have their own emotions in a pot as they sit across from me. It turned out to be a nice interview. They were sweating bullets cuz some high mucky muck was sitting in the corner evaluating them and their interviewing skills. I was calm, cool and enjoyed the chat with them. Dunno if I'll get the job, but if I don't it doesn't really matter cuz I got another interview on Monday, and a bunch other places to send my resume. I may have to get a temporary job at one of the local casinos (yuk!!!) 'till I get hired somewhere decent. But that will just be temporary, like everything else in life.

In the meantime, I get to meet all these people who don't look as good as I do in my fancy interview suit

Mike

megamysterioso

Hey- nothing wrong with having friends pull some strings in your favor when needed. I wish you all the best of luck in this job search and I too will be joining in the job hunt shortly. I had a SUCKY day on the job front today- further affirmation that my days are numbered in my current position. Good luck to you Minx. A great opportunity will present itself so be prepared.

Minx1969

Thanks Patty..I was good..I had greek salad with chix/ dressing on the side.

Yeah GF..totally indentify with that..have to remember the options..there are a lot of them!

Jess - thanks!

Jazz - I just want to go and be a scuba master on some small island in the middle of nowwhere..live in a grass hut..become golden brown..

Cynay - aww..thanks.

Minnie - no worries mate..of course I'm still free...

Mike - good luck with your job interviews..I'm not even feeling "guilty" anymore about the 6 month lapse in my resume..Like C says I have a pretty good resume.

Mega - good luck with your job search as well..it's a stressful time..especially with all you are going through

GettingFree

Wow Mike, I completely identify with this. I hate interviews, even though I know objectively I do okay in them. But the whirl of feelings anticipating them can be pretty uncomfortable. I know, too, that I'm a capable, confident, competent woman. But anticipating an interview -- or speaking gig,etc -- I do feel like that child.

I like your approach of switching the tables, and getting a real take on the reality of the others in the room. We tend to see everyone else but us as being supremely in control and having it all together. I think we tend to bestow them with all kinds of power as well. It's like they grow to 15-ft giants, when in reality, they themselves may be feeling only 3 ft -- like in this instance with someone senior perched as an observor on the sidelines. Poor them. I've done my share of interviewing as well, including group interviews, but having someone sitting in judgement would be feel very uncomfortable.

Good luck with the search. You've got a great approach going in I can learn from.

gf

Minx1969

I have a phone interview on Monday..which will probably lead to a in person interview..

Interviews don't scare me..I know I interview well..

now performance over the long term..that's scary..