Step 13
My Cape Is at The Cleaners
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Step 13
Well Gang I’m Back!
Well the deed is done; I filed for divorce after all this time.
I did, and I know you might say I did not have to, send my wife a card on letting her know.
I told her that I waited along time and she never got back to me one way or the other.
I did wish her Father well and hope he was feeling better.
It was strange doing it, and I have to say I feel both sad and weird, so many emotions going through me right now.
So many memories racing through my mind, it’s like my life, as I have known it has stopped.
Thing are going to be different now I think.
Well the deed is done; I filed for divorce after all this time.
I did, and I know you might say I did not have to, send my wife a card on letting her know.
I told her that I waited along time and she never got back to me one way or the other.
I did wish her Father well and hope he was feeling better.
It was strange doing it, and I have to say I feel both sad and weird, so many emotions going through me right now.
So many memories racing through my mind, it’s like my life, as I have known it has stopped.
Thing are going to be different now I think.
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Originally Posted by LaTeeDa
And your new life has just begun............
Mr. C.
Yup...emotions and memories - that's a normal part of it. Feel them as they surface, but don't let them consume you.
Live the present as best you can in order to prepare for a brighter future. It's all in your hands now!
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Mr. C, you took a huge step and you will be getting some "closure" in a sense through this divorce. Good luck with it and congratulations on being strong enough to shut a door so that you may walk through another.
Clancy, I saw the title, Step 13 and cracked up. For those that don't know, in AA "13th stepping" is what is said about older sobriety "preying" on those new to sobriety, flirting with them and worse. I honestly don't know why it happens except to say some are sicker than others. A lot of damage can be done to the newly sober and still confused by the 13th steppers so we with a few times around the ropes try to be on the lookout for this type of behavior.
Anyways, I wasn't exactly sure what I was going to read when I opened this but I was glad to see it wasn't something negative but something positive. Way to go Mr. C!
Kellye
Clancy, I saw the title, Step 13 and cracked up. For those that don't know, in AA "13th stepping" is what is said about older sobriety "preying" on those new to sobriety, flirting with them and worse. I honestly don't know why it happens except to say some are sicker than others. A lot of damage can be done to the newly sober and still confused by the 13th steppers so we with a few times around the ropes try to be on the lookout for this type of behavior.
Anyways, I wasn't exactly sure what I was going to read when I opened this but I was glad to see it wasn't something negative but something positive. Way to go Mr. C!
Kellye
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Hello, Mr. C that 13th step is tough and your emotions will continue to be up and down. You will sometimes question if you have done the right thing, but besides the good memories, you have to remember what all brought you to this point. ( I have had to do this several times-even have a list written down so when I question I can see in writing all the events that led up to this). In a way your old life has stopped ( the madness and drama) and the door is opening to all new sorts of possibilities we all just have to continue forward and not be afraid or uncertain of what lies ahead.
Sorry got on the soapbox or typing this is a good reminder of why I filed and waiting on the court date. In Texas there is a 60 day waiting period.
Anyway, good luck and keep posting.
Doubletime
Sorry got on the soapbox or typing this is a good reminder of why I filed and waiting on the court date. In Texas there is a 60 day waiting period.
Anyway, good luck and keep posting.
Doubletime
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Yes, good luck Mr. C. and your new life is just beginning 
. I just filed myself on Thursday. There are mixed feelings about my filing too, but all in all, my feelings about it are positive. I'm excited that I will be free and able to live my life on my terms again. AH will be free and able to live on his terms. It's really a win/win.
. I just filed myself on Thursday. There are mixed feelings about my filing too, but all in all, my feelings about it are positive. I'm excited that I will be free and able to live my life on my terms again. AH will be free and able to live on his terms. It's really a win/win.
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Mr. C, Ya got my attention on that Step 13, thought you were going to confess that you were involved in the AA "NO,NO" (smile).
Thanks Kellye for explaining the AA "13th stepping", Some would wonder.
Thanks Kellye for explaining the AA "13th stepping", Some would wonder.
My Cape Is at The Cleaners
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Thank you all for writing again to me.
I thought after all this time that it would be an easy step to just send this in.
It was at 1st. I went out tonight, had to it was 95 here and I needed to get out of the house.
The place I went to was kind of slow, but then they played Etta James, singing “At Last”.
I sunk, it was her song to me, and she played it for years for me.
You know I really do not think we stop loving them, not at all.
I feel we learn that we can not be with them, but no, the love is there. The passion, the want and the thoughts of everything we went through.
No after 2 years the hurt still lingers, but it’s easier to move through it. The head moves forward, but the heart stands still, no other way to put it.
I thought after all this time that it would be an easy step to just send this in.
It was at 1st. I went out tonight, had to it was 95 here and I needed to get out of the house.
The place I went to was kind of slow, but then they played Etta James, singing “At Last”.
I sunk, it was her song to me, and she played it for years for me.
You know I really do not think we stop loving them, not at all.
I feel we learn that we can not be with them, but no, the love is there. The passion, the want and the thoughts of everything we went through.
No after 2 years the hurt still lingers, but it’s easier to move through it. The head moves forward, but the heart stands still, no other way to put it.
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