MissFaye

My son was asked to leave treatment...he made it 2 weeks, barely. (noncompliance) I am beside myself right now. He's got to show up for court now in August to let them know he didn't finish it. (even tho it wasn't court ordered - purely voluntary) He would have made the judge happy and they were going to drop the minor consumption charges, but not now! (looking at some jail time) Unless he can get back into an outpatient program. So again, another bad decision made on his part.

I am so tired of all of this.

mallowcup

He knows the consequences. I hate that these programs are not court ordered. where is the sense in it? These folks are addicted, they don't have the ability to comply. Choices yes, after the physical addiction is dealt with. Not all programs are all that great either. His treatment should have been manditory, it should have never included the option of noncompliance. Keep looking, I have every faith your son will recover, He can with the right help.

robina

He has not yet found his own reasons for stopping the addiction.

Loving detachment on your part will help the situation a lot.

Keep working on your program.

God bless

denny57

Sorry to hear that, MissFaye. Hard as it is, keep the focus on you; your son will find his own path.

MissFaye

Thanks, I really need to remember that. Gosh, it's so hard working with the detachment. I wish there was an easy solution, rather than being a long painful process.

I agree, it should have been court ordered. Along with that, they were so close to diagnosing him with more mental health issues, along with the depression. Arggh! He shouldn't have had a choice.

robina

Never give up hope.

My daughter has mental health issues, in addition to being an alcoholic.

There is help available when he is ready and willing to take it. You can make sure he is aware of therapists, counsellors, doctors, programs, and of course, AA. I'm not suggesting that you drive him around to meetings, but at the very least, make sure he knows about all the help that is available to him...

and then let him go,
into the loving arms of his higher power...
and trust that his higher power will take good care of him.


Think about it - some harsh consequences (jail time) might be what it takes to make him want to get better.

God bless you and him (and a very Happy Mother's Day, too)

mallowcup

I find it easier to detach when I make myself remember it is the best way of helping. I guess I've brainwashed myself into thinking that not detaching is really enabling.

MissFaye

Very sweet of you (((( robina ))))

Thank you. It really helps to get through such things
and I really would "lose my mind" if I couldn't come to
this board for even a little input and support.

xoxo