You drank two bottles today....No I NEVER!
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You drank two bottles today....No I NEVER!
He started a conversation about his drinking...I replied to a question with
"you're not slowing down, you drank 6 litres of strong white cider in the last 23 hours, slept for three hours and ate one small steak, nothing else"
His reply:-
"I haven't drank two whole bottles (3 litre bottles) in one day, I NEVER drink 2 bottles a day"
Me:-
" You started your first bottle at 2am yesterday, it's now 1am today and you've just finished your second bottle, thats 23 hours"
Him:- "You're just getting confused, I started the first bottle before I had a sleep yesterday, I had a sleep in between the two"
Argh! No matter how much I tried to explain, it's irrelevent whether it's today or yesterday or whether he'd had a small nap etc..he'd still drank 6 litres of strong white cider in 23 hours! But he didn't get it..."I don' dwrinkkk thasccch mucsh, I'm nott evenn pished"
Slurring his words, stinking of fags and booze and then he goes on about his "recovery" and whats best for him and puts his arm around me...I switched off and got up to go look outside at the ducks "quack quack quack"
Ooo am I learning! Although, maybe I shouldn't have even dignified his first question with a response!
"you're not slowing down, you drank 6 litres of strong white cider in the last 23 hours, slept for three hours and ate one small steak, nothing else"
His reply:-
"I haven't drank two whole bottles (3 litre bottles) in one day, I NEVER drink 2 bottles a day"
Me:-
" You started your first bottle at 2am yesterday, it's now 1am today and you've just finished your second bottle, thats 23 hours"
Him:- "You're just getting confused, I started the first bottle before I had a sleep yesterday, I had a sleep in between the two"
Argh! No matter how much I tried to explain, it's irrelevent whether it's today or yesterday or whether he'd had a small nap etc..he'd still drank 6 litres of strong white cider in 23 hours! But he didn't get it..."I don' dwrinkkk thasccch mucsh, I'm nott evenn pished"
Slurring his words, stinking of fags and booze and then he goes on about his "recovery" and whats best for him and puts his arm around me...I switched off and got up to go look outside at the ducks "quack quack quack"
Ooo am I learning! Although, maybe I shouldn't have even dignified his first question with a response!
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MAY GOD BE WITH YOU TO GIVE YOU STRENGTH!!! THERE IS NO REASONING WITH AN ALOCHOLIC:
MY A finally showed up tonight after 2 1/2 days. I cant belive he had the brlls to, but he did. WHo know what he said?????? I'm sorry, please forgive me. I am sooo mad right now, i cant even type. How dare he!?!?!?!?!?!?
M night is NOT over yet, but i am trying to pull my strength together and so far for the past few hours I have said no, I dont forgive you and I will NOT take you back!!!
How dare he call me and just expect for me to answer the phone at a drop because it rings. I called him for 2 days with no response, not knowing if he was even alive. I AM SOOOO MAD!!!!!!!!!!!!
My eyes are still swollen from crying and my face still blotched and burning from my tears. Do you think he cares???? NO.....DO YOU JKNOW WHAT HE HAD THE NERVE TO ASK ME?????? HE ACTUALLY HAD THE NERVE TO ASK ME TO HAVE HIS LAST DRINK WITH HIM BEFORE HE FACES REAL SOBRIETY....WTF???? I have been through this with him a million times....with him there is no real sobriety!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Its amazing how is phone suddenly works now! I have been calling him since Saturday leaving message after message. Not only me but his mom and dad too. And now all of a sudden his phone works? he can suddenly pick up messages. He can miracoulsy make phone calls? WTF
I AM SOOOOO MAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I walked in on him at the bar he was at.....you wanna know happenned??? I ordered a beer...stood up on my bar stool....and raiesed my bottle to my friend KM who just got out of 28 day rehab and can sit here at this bar stool and still enjoy his beer. I raise my bottle to KM my best friend and lover who didnt give a flying F about anything for the past 3 days to even pick up the phone and say "HEY I AM OK", too my best frined and lover the alcoholic. I then dumped my beer over his head and drove home. He has called me several times since, but I wont talk to him.
I know this sounds a little psycho, but such is life when you are dealing with one!!!
Needless to say there were no Al Anon meetings tonight.
GOD PLEASE UNDERSTAND AND FORGIVE MY INSANITY
MY A finally showed up tonight after 2 1/2 days. I cant belive he had the brlls to, but he did. WHo know what he said?????? I'm sorry, please forgive me. I am sooo mad right now, i cant even type. How dare he!?!?!?!?!?!?
M night is NOT over yet, but i am trying to pull my strength together and so far for the past few hours I have said no, I dont forgive you and I will NOT take you back!!!
How dare he call me and just expect for me to answer the phone at a drop because it rings. I called him for 2 days with no response, not knowing if he was even alive. I AM SOOOO MAD!!!!!!!!!!!!
My eyes are still swollen from crying and my face still blotched and burning from my tears. Do you think he cares???? NO.....DO YOU JKNOW WHAT HE HAD THE NERVE TO ASK ME?????? HE ACTUALLY HAD THE NERVE TO ASK ME TO HAVE HIS LAST DRINK WITH HIM BEFORE HE FACES REAL SOBRIETY....WTF???? I have been through this with him a million times....with him there is no real sobriety!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Its amazing how is phone suddenly works now! I have been calling him since Saturday leaving message after message. Not only me but his mom and dad too. And now all of a sudden his phone works? he can suddenly pick up messages. He can miracoulsy make phone calls? WTF
I AM SOOOOO MAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I walked in on him at the bar he was at.....you wanna know happenned??? I ordered a beer...stood up on my bar stool....and raiesed my bottle to my friend KM who just got out of 28 day rehab and can sit here at this bar stool and still enjoy his beer. I raise my bottle to KM my best friend and lover who didnt give a flying F about anything for the past 3 days to even pick up the phone and say "HEY I AM OK", too my best frined and lover the alcoholic. I then dumped my beer over his head and drove home. He has called me several times since, but I wont talk to him.
I know this sounds a little psycho, but such is life when you are dealing with one!!!
Needless to say there were no Al Anon meetings tonight.
GOD PLEASE UNDERSTAND AND FORGIVE MY INSANITY
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No you shouldn't have entertained his question with that kind of a response. I've found that it's best to say absolutely nothing and if you are pushed to respond, just say something like, "I'll believe it when I see it."
What does does it really matter anyway? What is 2 full bottles in 23 hours versus 2 full bottles within 25 hours??????????? It doesn't matter! The point is that he is not sober and it is painfully obvious to you how drunk he is. That is all that matters. That bantering back and forth will get you absolutely nowhere. There is no reasoning with or arguing with a drunk PERIOD.
I am really surprised that you are still with him considering those internet incidents. I honestly don't know how you feel that stuff is/was acceptable. I have my own stuff I deal with too though where I am asked the same question, so I have no room to talk!
I wish you the best.
What does does it really matter anyway? What is 2 full bottles in 23 hours versus 2 full bottles within 25 hours??????????? It doesn't matter! The point is that he is not sober and it is painfully obvious to you how drunk he is. That is all that matters. That bantering back and forth will get you absolutely nowhere. There is no reasoning with or arguing with a drunk PERIOD.
I am really surprised that you are still with him considering those internet incidents. I honestly don't know how you feel that stuff is/was acceptable. I have my own stuff I deal with too though where I am asked the same question, so I have no room to talk!
I wish you the best.
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There really is no reasoning with an alcoholic. Yesterday after I got home from work, my H asked if I would go get him some beer. I said no. So he got up and left for it. About an hour later, I called to see what happened. He said he was at the mini mart. Yeah, for an hour. I know it's bordering psycho too, but I decided to do a drive-by at that woman's house I saw him visiting last month. He wasn't there. So I headed back home. He was sitting in his car, engine still running. I said, "where did you go?" He said, "I haven't gone anywhere. I've been here the whole time." WHAT? You have to be kidding me. I said, "But you left while I was here!" He said, "No I didn't. I haven't gone anywhere." I said, "But your car is facing the other direction now." He kept saying I was crazy. That's when I realized how stupid I was being for pursuing it! Whatever!!! I left and spent the evening doing things I love to do.
The point, again, is that there is no reasoning with an A. He could justify it in his head all day long that he had not drank that much in 1 day.
The point, again, is that there is no reasoning with an A. He could justify it in his head all day long that he had not drank that much in 1 day.
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Originally Posted by megamysterioso
No you shouldn't have entertained his question with that kind of a response. I've found that it's best to say absolutely nothing and if you are pushed to respond, just say something like, "I'll believe it when I see it."
What does does it really matter anyway? What is 2 full bottles in 23 hours versus 2 full bottles within 25 hours??????????? It doesn't matter! The point is that he is not sober and it is painfully obvious to you how drunk he is. That is all that matters. That bantering back and forth will get you absolutely nowhere. There is no reasoning with or arguing with a drunk PERIOD.
I am really surprised that you are still with him considering those internet incidents. I honestly don't know how you feel that stuff is/was acceptable. I have my own stuff I deal with too though where I am asked the same question, so I have no room to talk!
I wish you the best.
What does does it really matter anyway? What is 2 full bottles in 23 hours versus 2 full bottles within 25 hours??????????? It doesn't matter! The point is that he is not sober and it is painfully obvious to you how drunk he is. That is all that matters. That bantering back and forth will get you absolutely nowhere. There is no reasoning with or arguing with a drunk PERIOD.
I am really surprised that you are still with him considering those internet incidents. I honestly don't know how you feel that stuff is/was acceptable. I have my own stuff I deal with too though where I am asked the same question, so I have no room to talk!
I wish you the best.
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That's wonderful Missus! 
You need time away from him. Pursue your plans and you will be fine. The "sick" moments are there always lurking around, but you sound like you're doing great at conquering those! Keep it up and stay strong.
You need time away from him. Pursue your plans and you will be fine. The "sick" moments are there always lurking around, but you sound like you're doing great at conquering those! Keep it up and stay strong.
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Originally Posted by megamysterioso
You need time away from him.
Think he can sense somethings different, I'm not reaching out to him like I used to..physical contact is nil unless he asks for a kiss, he gets into bed for a cuddle, I get out within 2 minutes. Think he thinks I'm being a cow, I never wanted it to be this way and deep down I still love him to bits, I just don't like him very much anymore.
He's talking about getting help, phoned his mum and asked her to sort a clinic out for him (even that annoyed me, do it yourself!!) but the clinic he went to stay at last time won't take him because he's not living in their catchment area (he moved over 100 miles to live with me) so then it was "I don't wanna go anywhere else, it won't be the same" (even though we have an in patient clinic less than 2 miles from our home)
At least this time I didn't believe a word he said, it's all for effect..and those ducks started making a racket again! Plus if he really wanted help it wouldn't matter what clinic he went to as long as it did the job, he just doesn't realise that yet and probably never will.
And yes, he's still doing the same old thing whilst I'm out or asleep, chatting to girls on the internet and watching porn...well, he can do that at his mothers house with no nagging from me because I'm sooo out of it! (Soon!!)
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