Rehab?
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Dan, I didn't go to rehab and I know many people who didn't. But I also know many who did. It depends on the individual, the level of addiction, the circumstances. Sometimes rehab is needed to provide a safe environment for the person to detox and allow the mind to begin to clear. Plus they are kept busy with meetings, groups etc. so they get a lot of recovery in a short amount of time (IF they really want it).
Rehab is NOT a requisite for recovery any more than relapse is even though some would have you believe that. Anyway, that's just my .02.
Hope this helps,
Kellye
Rehab is NOT a requisite for recovery any more than relapse is even though some would have you believe that. Anyway, that's just my .02.
Hope this helps,
Kellye
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In my case, rehab made things worse. Not necessarly their fault however. My wife went.....ended up having and affair with drunk she met while in treatment. That ended our marriage. Her fault, her choice. But the guy was/is a preditor, and she was vernerable.
I would suggest a all female rehab if possible. JMHO
I would suggest a all female rehab if possible. JMHO
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Dan there are many options, inpatient, outpatient. If you researched local rehab centers you would find out all about programs offered. Why do you ask? Has there been a change or are you just curious?
My ex attended this place, one of the best on the east coast. Only 28 day program she completed. They have a great program.
http://www.fathermartinsashley.com/
No scum lurking there
My ex attended this place, one of the best on the east coast. Only 28 day program she completed. They have a great program.
http://www.fathermartinsashley.com/
No scum lurking there
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From everything I have read here and elsewhere, and those I know who have recovered, I would say the only requirement is the *desire* to recover. They have to want it, and want it more than anything else. Having said that, rehab, AA, and numerous other options are out there to help those who want to help themselves.
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This was my experience. I have heard, from several sources, that rehab romances are not uncommon. The treatment center try to warn their patients to avoid such entanglements. And my case, the OM was a preditor. This is not excusing my wifes behavoir, but he knew from being in group with her what to say, what she wanted to hear.
Why take the chance if you can avoid it. I wish we had.
Why take the chance if you can avoid it. I wish we had.
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Originally Posted by guyinNC
In my case, rehab made things worse. Not necessarly their fault however. My wife went.....ended up having and affair with drunk she met while in treatment. That ended our marriage. Her fault, her choice. But the guy was/is a preditor, and she was vernerable.
I would suggest a all female rehab if possible. JMHO
I would suggest a all female rehab if possible. JMHO
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You are probably right Jazz.
Her addiction was her problem. However, it I could go back in time, I would go for an all womens treatment center.
Still her choice, her consequences. Just giving my advice and what I would have done differently.
Her addiction was her problem. However, it I could go back in time, I would go for an all womens treatment center.
Still her choice, her consequences. Just giving my advice and what I would have done differently.
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Originally Posted by guyinNC
And my case, the OM was a preditor. This is not excusing my wifes behavoir, but he knew from being in group with her what to say, what she wanted to hear.
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My husband did rehab twice for drug abuse, now he is a alcoholic.. However I was a meth user for 4yrs, found out i was pregnat and just stopped, I hane been clean for 16yrs. I guess what I'm trying to say is if you want it you do it. Treament center or not.
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Yes, Dan, there are resources out there, a variety of different methods if you want to change. What works for one may not work for another. But I do think the will to change must come from within.... and you must be willing to keep trying and be persistant.
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I am just wondering if......
Originally Posted by dan1958
I would think that there would be a lot of scum lerking around those places! Sorry NC
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Yes Dan, I think you are right!
Its not easy, always a struggle.
And every minute without drinking
is a victory for the alcoholics.
There are so many awesome folks who have time under their belt,
work hard every day, and are an example of how, it really'can work if you work it.
As an additional piece of info.
All the inpatient rehabs I know of have firm rules against
fraternizing, or becoming involved in a physical relationship
with anyone, while in the program.
It does happen and I have seen it. When D was in rehab, I went to see him almost every evening and on the weekends. I spent a fair amount of time with the other people there as well.
So, it does happen Dan, but is not encouraged nor tolerated.
Its not easy, always a struggle.
And every minute without drinking
is a victory for the alcoholics.
There are so many awesome folks who have time under their belt,
work hard every day, and are an example of how, it really'can work if you work it.
As an additional piece of info.
All the inpatient rehabs I know of have firm rules against
fraternizing, or becoming involved in a physical relationship
with anyone, while in the program.
It does happen and I have seen it. When D was in rehab, I went to see him almost every evening and on the weekends. I spent a fair amount of time with the other people there as well.
So, it does happen Dan, but is not encouraged nor tolerated.
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My hubby did a 30 day in house rehab and our son is doing AA. When hubby was there, there were people who were there because of legal problems...court ordered stuff. Very down and out alcoholics and addicts who had no homes, family or lives other than booze and drugs. I got along famously with them. I talked with them, made goodies and took them in and they were the most gracious and appreciative people I'd ever met.
Then, there were others who were from well off families... And I'm talking about BIG people whose names you would recognize, and not to be considered "scum". Their families visited, and treated the rest of us like we were scum because they thought they were better.
Bottom line. Once clean and sober, they were all dynamic, loving and caring people who were grateful for any kind of attention and courtesy.
Then, there were others who were from well off families... And I'm talking about BIG people whose names you would recognize, and not to be considered "scum". Their families visited, and treated the rest of us like we were scum because they thought they were better.
Bottom line. Once clean and sober, they were all dynamic, loving and caring people who were grateful for any kind of attention and courtesy.
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