Some Changes
Acting not reacting
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Join Date: Jun 2004
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Some Changes
My dad (also my boss) hurt my feelings today a little. I have lost some weight (17 lbs) to be exact, and was really excited to wear some jeans I have not fit into in over a year. Also a blazer that I couldnt even button up for the last almost 3 years.
He told me my clothes were a little tight and while he could tell Id lost some weight, I should save the streetwalker wear for the weekend. He then got a little cranky that I havent completed all the work Ive had on my desk for the last couple days.
The streetwalker comment, OK, not very nice, kind of just his since of humor, but hurt my feelings nonetheless bc I thought I looked good today. I got up early, ate breakfast, had my devotional time, and was in a great mood when I arrived at work.
Ive been doing things differently in the last 2 weeks and the changes have vastly improved my life. Im reminded today that even though I am changing, doesnt mean others are, and its not really as important what others think, its important what I think and what God thinks about me.
I am realizing that alot of what makes me who I am is wrapped up in my yearning to please everyone, be the best at everything, and have everyones approval all the time. Dads comments this morning reminded me of growing up and it stung. It stung, but then I snapped out of it. A while back, I would have dwelled on this, been a sarcastic bit** all day long, and gone home cranky.
Nope, not gonna do it. I am over it, I am changing, and I like that I dont have to please everyone all the time. Im happy with myself for today
!
He told me my clothes were a little tight and while he could tell Id lost some weight, I should save the streetwalker wear for the weekend. He then got a little cranky that I havent completed all the work Ive had on my desk for the last couple days.
The streetwalker comment, OK, not very nice, kind of just his since of humor, but hurt my feelings nonetheless bc I thought I looked good today. I got up early, ate breakfast, had my devotional time, and was in a great mood when I arrived at work.
Ive been doing things differently in the last 2 weeks and the changes have vastly improved my life. Im reminded today that even though I am changing, doesnt mean others are, and its not really as important what others think, its important what I think and what God thinks about me.
I am realizing that alot of what makes me who I am is wrapped up in my yearning to please everyone, be the best at everything, and have everyones approval all the time. Dads comments this morning reminded me of growing up and it stung. It stung, but then I snapped out of it. A while back, I would have dwelled on this, been a sarcastic bit** all day long, and gone home cranky.
Nope, not gonna do it. I am over it, I am changing, and I like that I dont have to please everyone all the time. Im happy with myself for today
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Searching and tripping
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If you feel good about yourself, that's all that matters. You're doing it for you, not to please others. Those days of pleasing others are gone, ain't they girlfriend!!!
Good Job!!!
Good Job!!!
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Join Date: Jul 2004
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you just keep shining SE!
*oh, so that's ace - unfortunately i have not been able to keep up with amercian idol but had heard about ace - now i can put a name with a face, and a cute face, at that* LOL
*oh, so that's ace - unfortunately i have not been able to keep up with amercian idol but had heard about ace - now i can put a name with a face, and a cute face, at that* LOL
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And the times I've lost a little weight, family - especially parents - seem to be the first to object... getting used to a new look on us is difficult.
"Streetwalker" ... perhaps you DID look sexy and he has trouble with seeing that in his own daughter? Just a thought.
"Streetwalker" ... perhaps you DID look sexy and he has trouble with seeing that in his own daughter? Just a thought.
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Sarah, Good for you on all counts...
17 lbs is awesome. I am in the same boat so I can totally
appreciate the hard work and dedication it takes.
My Mom (my hot button) lives 500 miles away from me.
Sorry your Dad made that comment to you, sometimes it's
just hard to stop being a parent.....(((Sarah)))
Now on with the day!!!!!!!!
17 lbs is awesome. I am in the same boat so I can totally
appreciate the hard work and dedication it takes.
My Mom (my hot button) lives 500 miles away from me.
Sorry your Dad made that comment to you, sometimes it's
just hard to stop being a parent.....(((Sarah)))
Now on with the day!!!!!!!!
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