How to Avoid Crisis in the midst of trouble
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How to Avoid Crisis in the midst of trouble
I am aware that us codies, like to make mountains out of molehills and encourage drama and crisis.
Im struggling with remaining calm and not losing it, when I feel like this, usually I would do just that.
This man has rang my phone off the hook (at work) this afternoon and evening....from the pay phone across the street from my house. His mother has called, his brother has called. I am set to be deposed at 7am for a lawsuit in the morning, and have some major IRS problems.
I felt the best thing for me to do was not go home from work, and come to my parents house and regroup.
So, usually in this scenario I would flip out. Im not flipping, but could really use some guidance here.
I am not sure how to be upset about the recent developments, without making extra drama.
Does anyone have any insight as to how remain calm, while not underplaying the significance of the situation?
Im struggling with remaining calm and not losing it, when I feel like this, usually I would do just that.
This man has rang my phone off the hook (at work) this afternoon and evening....from the pay phone across the street from my house. His mother has called, his brother has called. I am set to be deposed at 7am for a lawsuit in the morning, and have some major IRS problems.
I felt the best thing for me to do was not go home from work, and come to my parents house and regroup.
So, usually in this scenario I would flip out. Im not flipping, but could really use some guidance here.
I am not sure how to be upset about the recent developments, without making extra drama.
Does anyone have any insight as to how remain calm, while not underplaying the significance of the situation?
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I hate to seem like a drama queen, but I really need some direction. Im a little concerned, seeing as he is calling me on my cell phone from MY house, that he does not have keys to, since I changed the lock.
I would really like to call the police bc I think that is the only way to end this drama, and his downward spiral, but I could really use some help here?
Geez, Im not as strong I thought.
I would really like to call the police bc I think that is the only way to end this drama, and his downward spiral, but I could really use some help here?
Geez, Im not as strong I thought.
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Yes, he is calling my cell phone from my home phone. I felt like it was best to go to my parents and get my head around things before I made any decisions.
Im calling the police.
Thanks ladies.
Im calling the police.
Thanks ladies.
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OK, I called and gave them his name and DOB and my address, where I think he is. They said it wouldnt be quick, but they would go get him tonight. This man needs some help. He is killing himself and dragging me into the depths of his insanity. I try so hard not to get dragged into it, but going into my house, after I had the locks changed so that I dont want to go home? Its the insanity of this disease.
Ill keep you posted, but thank you. I needed some confirmation.
Ill keep you posted, but thank you. I needed some confirmation.
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Ok
The Sheriffs office just called asking if they had permission to break in my door to get him.
I said yes.
This sucks. Why does he do this?
Im leaving my parents and going to a friends house to sleep, so I will let you all know the situation in the am!
Love you all,
Sarah
I said yes.
This sucks. Why does he do this?
Im leaving my parents and going to a friends house to sleep, so I will let you all know the situation in the am!
Love you all,
Sarah
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Dan is in custody. I have a front door that is split half,according to the police. There was nothing else I could do.
Please, listen to me.
It doesnt get better. When this disease meets its end, this is where it goes. People die, or go to jail, or get out in a room with padded walls.
Be very very careful.
Sarah
Please, listen to me.
It doesnt get better. When this disease meets its end, this is where it goes. People die, or go to jail, or get out in a room with padded walls.
Be very very careful.
Sarah
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Sometimes taking an action to end the drama is the way to deal with things.
We need to look at it as taking care of ourselves and not them.
If he is calling from inside your house and you had the locks changed, does that not warrant calling the police?
If he is calling you over and over is it not harassment and stalking?
Ngaire
We need to look at it as taking care of ourselves and not them.
If he is calling from inside your house and you had the locks changed, does that not warrant calling the police?
If he is calling you over and over is it not harassment and stalking?
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Its great that your ex is in jail. Sounds kinda creepy to me. Will you be getting a restraining order to keep him from doing this again? I know dont want to scare ya, but he scares me. He needs help. I know, I know more drama. Something for you to think about. Good luck and hope you will sleep good tonight knowing that he is where he belongs.
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