I'm so glad, I'm so glad, I'm glad I'm glad I'm glad
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I'm so glad, I'm so glad, I'm glad I'm glad I'm glad
(Cream)
On Monday, our son left to spend a few days with a bunch of old college friends. A bunch of musicians. We knew he was going to crash...he showed all the signs. Hubby especially knew it. As he said, been there, done that. He called yesterday and said everything was fine and he was having a good visit but sounded a little funny. I told hubby not to even go there after the call. I didn't want to hear it.
This afternoon, about 10 minutes after he left to come home he called and kept saying, "I was so f-ed up back then...I was so horribly f-ed up" I never want to drink again...I can never drink again." He started crying. Said the friends house he stayed, the guy smoked weed all the time and kept saying, "I need it and that B didn't understand". Laughable, in a way since he's recovering. This guys life revolves around sleeping, partying and occasional gigs. B said the phone rang constantly for them to go and party and he couldn't make himself go. It was hard enough being around while M was smoking, but going to a party where everything was there was more than he could handle and refused to go.
He saw pictures of himself with friends at school...freshman vs senior. Said it sickened him to see how he changed. He looked like an old man and he was only 22 back than.
Living in the boonies, there are few musicians around and he felt he needed to take this trip so he could be with his kind of people. He misses the interaction with other musicians. But he saw what their lives were about now and realized that wasn't him anymore.
Which brings me to the fact I was humbled by my 25 year old son today. When I had my doubts about the trip and his sobriety, he proved me wrong and I am so unbelieveably grateful to eat crow.
We can never underestimate the power of a person who desperately wants sobriety. I've seen it here and experienced it first hand with my son. What a blessed gift!!!
On Monday, our son left to spend a few days with a bunch of old college friends. A bunch of musicians. We knew he was going to crash...he showed all the signs. Hubby especially knew it. As he said, been there, done that. He called yesterday and said everything was fine and he was having a good visit but sounded a little funny. I told hubby not to even go there after the call. I didn't want to hear it.
This afternoon, about 10 minutes after he left to come home he called and kept saying, "I was so f-ed up back then...I was so horribly f-ed up" I never want to drink again...I can never drink again." He started crying. Said the friends house he stayed, the guy smoked weed all the time and kept saying, "I need it and that B didn't understand". Laughable, in a way since he's recovering. This guys life revolves around sleeping, partying and occasional gigs. B said the phone rang constantly for them to go and party and he couldn't make himself go. It was hard enough being around while M was smoking, but going to a party where everything was there was more than he could handle and refused to go.
He saw pictures of himself with friends at school...freshman vs senior. Said it sickened him to see how he changed. He looked like an old man and he was only 22 back than.
Living in the boonies, there are few musicians around and he felt he needed to take this trip so he could be with his kind of people. He misses the interaction with other musicians. But he saw what their lives were about now and realized that wasn't him anymore.
Which brings me to the fact I was humbled by my 25 year old son today. When I had my doubts about the trip and his sobriety, he proved me wrong and I am so unbelieveably grateful to eat crow.
We can never underestimate the power of a person who desperately wants sobriety. I've seen it here and experienced it first hand with my son. What a blessed gift!!!
yea - i love that song and Cream and now when i hear the song i can remember your happy post! bet that's the best darn crow ya ever tasted!
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You still got that dodgey crystal ball haven't you??
Right!!
Go and get it. Now you have two choices - send it back and request your funds are returned because it's cr@p! orrrrrr.... tuck it under your chin, sort of crouch backwards, then go for the biggest shot putt throw of your life!!
Good news Kathy!!
Right!!
Go and get it. Now you have two choices - send it back and request your funds are returned because it's cr@p! orrrrrr.... tuck it under your chin, sort of crouch backwards, then go for the biggest shot putt throw of your life!!
Good news Kathy!!
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Thank YOU for sharing this with all of us here. I think we all know how it feels to stress, worry, be depressed, etc about another person's addiction. And reading your story just made me happy. To know that someone out there wants a better life so much that he survived a very tempting situation that could have been disasterous. What a true blessing. I don't even know your son, but I know that I'm so very proud of him for having proved himself (most of all to himself) as well as finally seeing the light so to speak to see the person he used to be and choosing to want a better life.
I get frustrated with my ah for always saying the right things, but lacking the effort of changing things or doing things that he should do to back up his words. It was very refreshing for me to read that your son did just that!!!
(You can't see me, but I'm smiling for your son!)
I get frustrated with my ah for always saying the right things, but lacking the effort of changing things or doing things that he should do to back up his words. It was very refreshing for me to read that your son did just that!!!
(You can't see me, but I'm smiling for your son!)
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Thanks everyone...it felt so good to be able to write something upbeat and positive.
Now, if I can get son to get semi dry-drunk father to work his program, life would be really good.
Now, if I can get son to get semi dry-drunk father to work his program, life would be really good.
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