Now I know why the Holidays are the worst
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Now I know why the Holidays are the worst
of all times of the year for some people. I used it be a real Christmas person...you know the type...Thanksgiving cooking in the kitchen and the livingroom already a vertual winter wonderland. And now..at the ripe old age of 44, I am bah humbugging it worse than Scrooge. There are no decorations in the front room this year. I have downsized to the point that I don't even HAVE a front room...I have a livingroom that is too small for a tree even if I WANTED one..which I dont. There is no money for gifts even if I had someone that I wanted to give them too....which i dont. My boys are all over the place...I actually saw my wild child Sean for about 45 WHOLE MINUTES on Thanksgiving...I feel SO blessed that he deigned to come see me for a whole almost hour. Geezzz louise.....just made my whole day.
Let me say this again.............BAH HUMBUG!!!
Let me say this again.............BAH HUMBUG!!!
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this will be a tough christmas for me but i am bound and determined to start new traditions this year. i am going to put up a small tree and focus on the many blessings that i overlooked while in the chaos. i will also focus on the real meaning of the holidays and also the many real gifts i can give and receive...love, peace and recovery.
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I'm not going to let a disease scrooge up my holidays. My new traditions are to share a nice dinner with other friends who are fresh in recovery. We had a great tx'ing dinner, and a wonderful time at the convention. This week I'm going shopping for a little tree that doesn't drop needles, so I don't have to clean up after it. (Am done cleaning up after others :-)
Holidays are in the heart. Not other people's heart. _My_ heart.
Mike :-)
Holidays are in the heart. Not other people's heart. _My_ heart.
Mike :-)
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Now Mom, don't make us all re-enact "A Christmas Carol", okay?
(If we do, I get to be the Ghost of Christmas Present).
A little tree, tabletop...you know?
You'd be surprised how jolly a few Christmas lights can make you.
The only gift you need to worry about is the gift of Christmas spirit to yourself.
I'm serious Mom.
You don't want a bunch of Codies in their jammies doing lines from Dickens in your bedroom all night, do you?
(If we do, I get to be the Ghost of Christmas Present).
A little tree, tabletop...you know?
You'd be surprised how jolly a few Christmas lights can make you.
The only gift you need to worry about is the gift of Christmas spirit to yourself.
I'm serious Mom.
You don't want a bunch of Codies in their jammies doing lines from Dickens in your bedroom all night, do you?
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This has to be the most skint christmas I've ever had - like truly wondering what the hell to do for pressies!! As a solution we decided (well more me) to buy all the gifts second hand, starting about a month ago. I'VE LOVED IT!!! I can't remember a year when I've bought so many daft, ace, funny, REAL presents - from the midlife crisis game to an antique spade.
Sod the shops - find the nearest junk sale, charity shop, or anywhere our madly wasteful culture gets rid of what it doesn't want.
It doesn't get past all the chrimbo blues but it's brightened the hell out of my shopping and I can't wait to give them.
I think I have two more people to get for then all that's left is wondering what my mum will buy for D this year to surpass last year's bottle of whiskey (yes she does know!!).
Ho Hum.... Drawbridge goes up on the day!
Sod the shops - find the nearest junk sale, charity shop, or anywhere our madly wasteful culture gets rid of what it doesn't want.
It doesn't get past all the chrimbo blues but it's brightened the hell out of my shopping and I can't wait to give them.
I think I have two more people to get for then all that's left is wondering what my mum will buy for D this year to surpass last year's bottle of whiskey (yes she does know!!).
Ho Hum.... Drawbridge goes up on the day!
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sheesh, why the heck _wait_ for all the fun and toys of Xmas???? I'm of a mind to just do Xmas all year long, just change the base color each month. Red and white for december, blue and yellow for January....
Mike :-)
[ if one month of Xmas is good, more should be better ]
Mike :-)
[ if one month of Xmas is good, more should be better ]
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Originally Posted by Gabe
... Watch it Mike, that sounds like addictspeak to me. 
Originally Posted by minnie
... Sorry Mike, but that's alcoholic thinking at its finest!...
Mike :saeek:
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I've spent the last 4 holidays season alone.
The first year without a x-mas tree was hard, hell I got a tree when I was single.
I spent thanks giving alone, while she went off gambling for a couple
of days, this year. I don't look forward to x-max or new years,again.
My mother is burrying my gradmother at the moment
Yet, there was a time in my life when I thought everyday was x-max.
Well...she's off to the casino again. I'm not in the best of moods
at the moment. My brain is just going off and my emotions are rampid.
I found myself begging her not to go again.
I'm hoping this would be my bottom, again.
I promised myself that I would no longer live through another year
of this insanity when the same thing happened last year.
I'm so numb at the moment and I'm not even the one doing the addiction.
I'm so dsyfuntional. I walk off my job of 13 years around 90 days ago.
I could no longer function as a human-being or as a worker. The constant
chaos into the moring hours every night, after night.
I have not a dime to my name. I have no where to go.
Yet I feel like vomitting sitting home alone.
She slashed the tires to my car.
I have so much stuff (things). I don't know what i'm going to
do with it.
God...i pray so hard. I don't know what to do anymore.
God, please just help me pack.
I havn't even the power to pack some of my clothe.
The first year without a x-mas tree was hard, hell I got a tree when I was single.
I spent thanks giving alone, while she went off gambling for a couple
of days, this year. I don't look forward to x-max or new years,again.
My mother is burrying my gradmother at the moment
Yet, there was a time in my life when I thought everyday was x-max.
Well...she's off to the casino again. I'm not in the best of moods
at the moment. My brain is just going off and my emotions are rampid.
I found myself begging her not to go again.
I'm hoping this would be my bottom, again.
I promised myself that I would no longer live through another year
of this insanity when the same thing happened last year.
I'm so numb at the moment and I'm not even the one doing the addiction.
I'm so dsyfuntional. I walk off my job of 13 years around 90 days ago.
I could no longer function as a human-being or as a worker. The constant
chaos into the moring hours every night, after night.
I have not a dime to my name. I have no where to go.
Yet I feel like vomitting sitting home alone.
She slashed the tires to my car.
I have so much stuff (things). I don't know what i'm going to
do with it.
God...i pray so hard. I don't know what to do anymore.
God, please just help me pack.
I havn't even the power to pack some of my clothe.
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Nutz, the best advice I have ever heard for when things get overwhelming is this..."you need a 90 day plan".
Figure out where you want to be in 90 days and each day, do something to make that happen.
Doing one thing each day whittles that list down to something managable.
When things seem like more than you can handle, the only way to tackle them is one small step at a time.
You sound like you're running a little low on faith right now, so I'll have some for you, okay?
Figure out where you want to be in 90 days and each day, do something to make that happen.
Doing one thing each day whittles that list down to something managable.
When things seem like more than you can handle, the only way to tackle them is one small step at a time.
You sound like you're running a little low on faith right now, so I'll have some for you, okay?
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Wait a minute, Gabe and Minnie. I put my tree up the weekend before Thanksgiving and leave it up until the middle of January! I love the lights so much that half the time I even sleep on the couch leaving all the Christmas lights on. It is soooooo cool!!!!!!!!!!!! I have very strong Christmas decoration spirit and I absolutely refuse to let you guys bring me down. Hahahaha!
Happy holidays to all no matter how long that season may be for you.
Jo
Happy holidays to all no matter how long that season may be for you.
Jo
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