JennyK

Your post is breaking my heart.

I have never refered to my husband as A or AH and to make him all the more human and real (as he so clearly is to me) I will now call him James. As that is his name.

Jill, you are in my prayers. Richard is in my prayers.

Sending all the comfort I can do both of you.

Jenny

CarolD

Hugs and Prayers for you and for Richard.

robina

Your post reminds me of the "love" in the term "loving detachment". Even though we must sometimes take action to protect ourselves from this terrible disease, we cannot help but love those people close to us who suffer from alcoholism.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and Richard.

You did everything you could.

Love, Robin

sketscher

Sweety, don't waste a minute on guilt. I have seen relatives die from this disease. The closest being my cousin Cherie. She was 46, a wonderful artist, with a sharp wit and loved by many but could not be saved. One must chose to save themselves. She had chances. She hit many bottoms. There was nothing anyone could do though she knew everyone loved her.

I am so sorry you are going through this. My prayers are with you and Richard.

kellisch

Hy heart is with you tonight, and so are my prayers.

Kasiola

bahookie

Oh my
I've only just read this. I'm so sorry to hear what you're both going through.
What a beautifully written post.

My thoughts are with you

Jane
xxx

Chy

Beautiful post. From one A to your Richard I'll be praying FD. Be strong.

wantneeda

((((never give up hope))))))
you're in my thoughts and prayers
hugs, Wendy

Aquiana

That was really powerful. I'm sorry I haven't been on much but big prayers and big hugs for you and Richard. You made me think, not only about merely classifying abf as an "A" but of all the other nasty things I've said to him lately. It's easy to forget in the frusteration of the disease that he is a person, he does have feelings and some really good attributes too. I still don't think the two of us should be together but I'm going to apologize for what I said. Who am I to judge? My name is Carrie and his is Greg.

Thank you. I'm sending prayers out right now that things turn out alright. Hoping to hear good news.

TexasGirl

Hi FD,
I'm sorry I am so late responding. My computer at home is messed up, so I can only stay in touch on the weekends through my cell phone web access. I can read posts, but I cannot reply. I wanted to say that I thought about you over the weekend, and I wanted so desperately to reply, but I couldn't. You were in my thoughts all weekend, and you continue to be so now.

hopealwayz

My thoughts and prayers are with you and Richard.

brdlvr2

I just read this. Very moving and powerful. Thanks for sharing. Prayers to you and Richard. Don't give up hope and know you did all you could do and from personal experience, they do feel your presence and I do believe he knows you love him.

LovingMom

My name is Lisa and the alcoholics in my life are my two sons..Sean and Ryan. Bless you for bringing them back to being human whom I love.

FormerDoormat

Bump

embraced2000

altho richards outcome was ultimately his death, this post helped me so much in understanding the human side of addiction.

you have taught me so much fd, through your compassion, empathy, and your intelligent way of explaining the ways of the alcoholic in a dignified way.

thank you for your sharing and teaching me so well.

Bjen

You were an inspiration to me too FD. My hearts breaks again. Thankfully, my Scott is 2 years sober. He belongs to another gal now but that is OK. He and I are safe and happy now.