My Mom died last Monday from alcohol.

Old 09-27-2005, 08:39 PM
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My Mom died last Monday from alcohol.

I haven't been on in about a week or two but I wanted to give an update on my situation. I joined a few weeks ago when I needed help understanding my Mom's condition so that I would know how to help. I recieved some wonderful advice and great insights as well so thanks a bunch to everyone! Unfortunately, I was too late to help my mom. She passed away very suddenly on 09/19/05. She was admitted into the hospital on 09/16/05 and deteriorated that quick. Within 24 hours she had went into complete liver and kidney failure caused from the cirrhosis. My mom had no signs of this disease until 2 weeks prior to her death and then it was like dominos. Everything just hit at once and just kept getting worse. I have never felt the pain and emptiness I am feeling right now and it makes me so angry to think that my mom will never be able to see her first grandchild because of alcohol!! I turned 29 this Saturday and had to celebrate without my mom (not much celebrating at all) I am so confused as to how this could all happen so fast. My mom had only been drinking for 7-8 years and it took her this quick. It seems so unfair, I just want to scream over and over. Well, I will quit rambling. I just wanted to say thanks to everyone for the support and please if you have someone that is now in my mom's recent situation, don't wait and hope it gets better. Find help now, before it is too late because you never know how much your body can take! God bless everyone and please keep me in your prayers.
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Lisa, I'm terribly sorry to hear about your mom.

You are in my thoughts tonight.
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Old 09-27-2005, 09:11 PM
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Oh Lisa, I'm so sorry to hear that your mother passed away. I know what that feels like. My father passed away on August 14th after a two-week illness. He died of an esophageal varice (hemorrhage) caused by cancer of the esophagus. He, too, deterioriated rapidly, and I hardly had a chance to adjust to the news or to say goodbye. But I'm grateful I was able to be at his side when he passed away.

Alcoholism is an insidious disease that claims many victims, and many non-drinkers like you become victims of the disease, too. I'm so sorry for your losss and I'm so sorry that your birthday was marked by such a sad occasion.

Sending prayers your way.
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Old 09-27-2005, 09:25 PM
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Hugs and Prayers for you and comfort to all who loved your Mother.
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Old 09-27-2005, 09:43 PM
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lisa - my prayers are with you. i just lost my AH 3 weeks ago to the disease so i truly know the pain you are going thru at this time. the anger you feel is natural. please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you at this time!!

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Lisa, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss...

Please go and try some Al-Anon meetings so you can begin to heal from the devastating effects of this horrible, heartbreaking disease. You're not alone, and you need not go through this alone...
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Old 09-27-2005, 11:08 PM
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Lisa...It is so hard, we never want to part with our loved ones. My heart breaks for you.
You do know there is a Grief and loss site here on SR also.??
Try to find a local group too.
Grief takes the 3 T's, Tears, tears and more tears, Talk, talk and more talk, Time, time and more time. LOVE YOU , AND HUGS
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(((Lisa)))

I am so sorry for your loss. Lean on us if you need to - there are many who understand.
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I'm so sorry for your loss...
Prayers for your well being...
Shalom!
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Lisa, so sorry for your loss. My mother died from the same disease (cirrhosis). I'll keep you in my prayers.
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I'm so sorry Lisa, I missed some of the earlier posts and went back to read them. You gave your Mum such incredible support and I'm sure that made a huge difference to her.
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Lisa, I'm very sorry that you lost your Mom to this disease.
Prayers out for you and your family.
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Lisa, I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers go out to you and your family.
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Old 09-28-2005, 04:43 AM
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((Lisa)) I am so very sorry about your mother..I will keep you in my prayers.
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Old 09-28-2005, 05:41 AM
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Hi -

I am deeply sorry for your loss. This disease is so unbelievably devistating and unfortunately LETHAL! And what makes it even scarier is how unpredictable it is - ending lives for some much sooner then others. I just don't understand any of it.

My new husband who is 39 has cirhossis - I did not realize this when we married 10 months ago. He has been hospitalized for bleeding esophageal varicies twice. Yet someone else could drink like him and live for years. It is terrifying.

I will keep you in my prayers and again so sorry for your loss.

Please keep coming back for support.

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Sending my sincere,condolences,and prayers to you and all your family.
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(((((((Lisa)))))))))

My thoughts and prayers go out to you. I'm sorry for your loss.
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Sending you *hugs* and my prayers for you and your family
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OMG Lisa, I'm so sorry...
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I'm sorry to hear of the loss of your mom. Such sadness this disease causes.
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