4th drunk driving 30 days
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4th drunk driving 30 days
My husband who is an alcoholic and left me for another woman just was sentenced today for his 4th drunk driving which was pleaded to a second offense misdemeanor. He only was sentenced to 30 days work release...What is wrong with our system that because he can pay big bucks for an attorney he gets off? Now I sit here with the kids while he is celebrating with his girlfriend and have to deal with the last 10 years of being tormented. It doesn't seem fair!
((sugartopper)) while it seems like he is not suffering an consequences now if he continues to drink since it is a prgressive disease it will eventually rob him of everything - keep your focus on you on you!
hugs & prayers to you - christie
hugs & prayers to you - christie
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I hope you can stop wasting your time thinking about what is fair it's only going to make you bitter...
You are the fortunate one you have the kids which in itself is a huge blessing and also you are not a drunk. You can look out for yourself get an attorney and find out what your options are.
Feeling resentment is only going to hurt you. The best revenge is to live well...
I hope you can stop wasting your time thinking about what is fair it's only going to make you bitter...
You are the fortunate one you have the kids which in itself is a huge blessing and also you are not a drunk. You can look out for yourself get an attorney and find out what your options are.
Feeling resentment is only going to hurt you. The best revenge is to live well...
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thank you for all the words of wisdom...as it was well put tomorrow is the first day of the rest of MY life! Good night to all and god bless you all for being here for all of each other.
You are the fortunate one
Go do something for YOU! It's your time now!
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you are the one that "got off"
that's for sure... my xabf, left in Mar and i'm sure he was involved with a woman then... But since then, I think there have been at least 2 women and at least those two already Wised Up...
that's for sure... my xabf, left in Mar and i'm sure he was involved with a woman then... But since then, I think there have been at least 2 women and at least those two already Wised Up...
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Feeling resentment is only going to hurt you. The best revenge is to live well...
You are a WISE lady, Splendra!
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It is morning and I went to bed feeling sad and I woke up being sad! I don't want to be sad anymore! How do I just move on...We had a family we had a blended family and he has just ripped that to shreds. His 16 year old daughter came over last night and spent some time with me and she said you don't want him back you are too good for him, but I still love him..how can I still love someone who has hurt me so much?
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But he has stopped drinking is in counceling and is trying to get healthy, but he blames me for his drinking. He says he wasn't happy with me for a long time, but still came back and told me he loved me. He has a 32 year old girlfriend who seems to be what he wants right now I don't know I just know my life as I knew it is over and I need to move on, but the moving on part is hard.
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I know I try and look at the "bright side" of things I am very lucky I have a great job, great kids, I can affordto support myself...I have a roof over myself and I know that someday this will feel better, but right now I am hurt, jealous, and mad at him for destroying all that we had (or I thought we had)
"A codependent person Is one who has let another person’s behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person’s behavior."
I read this last night and several other paragraphs that hit home for me-okay so I know this now-how do I break the co-dependancy without getting into another situation? It seems that all my relationships have been "dramatic" this one just came with deep love...I still feel we are soulmates and belong together, but you can't make someone love you.
"A codependent person Is one who has let another person’s behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person’s behavior."
I read this last night and several other paragraphs that hit home for me-okay so I know this now-how do I break the co-dependancy without getting into another situation? It seems that all my relationships have been "dramatic" this one just came with deep love...I still feel we are soulmates and belong together, but you can't make someone love you.
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Hi Sugartopper,
"But he has stopped drinking is in counceling and is trying to get healthy, but he blames me for his drinking."
If he is saying stuff like this, he is definitely not working the program, and is still in a little bit of denial about his problem. I know that you know you are not responsible for his drinking, and I'm sure deep down he knows it too. It is just an easy copout and excuse to make himself feel better to blame you. Then he is blameless in his own head.
I'm sorry you are hurting. I am in the same position in many ways. Have you tried meditating? Any time my head is flooded with thoughts of my H, I try to just focus on letting the thoughts go, and keeping my head clear. Not sure if that even makes sense, but somehow it works.
Marg
"But he has stopped drinking is in counceling and is trying to get healthy, but he blames me for his drinking."
If he is saying stuff like this, he is definitely not working the program, and is still in a little bit of denial about his problem. I know that you know you are not responsible for his drinking, and I'm sure deep down he knows it too. It is just an easy copout and excuse to make himself feel better to blame you. Then he is blameless in his own head.
I'm sorry you are hurting. I am in the same position in many ways. Have you tried meditating? Any time my head is flooded with thoughts of my H, I try to just focus on letting the thoughts go, and keeping my head clear. Not sure if that even makes sense, but somehow it works.
Marg
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Hi Marg. I am sitting here after a great day at golf and feeling sorry for my self..why is this happening to me? Why has my life just changed so much? I love my husband! I was a good wife, Mother, where did I go wrong. Why did he leave me for a 32 year old bimbo? It just doesn't make sense..what happened? I feel like a failure.
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Originally Posted by sugartopper
Hi Marg. I am sitting here after a great day at golf and feeling sorry for my self..why is this happening to me? Why has my life just changed so much? I love my husband! I was a good wife, Mother, where did I go wrong. Why did he leave me for a 32 year old bimbo? It just doesn't make sense..what happened? I feel like a failure.
I feel the same way this week.............like 30 years were wasted . I try to Let go and let God every time these thoughts flood me..........I know I have to, but sometimes I feel so low and beat down by it all.........it just isn't right. Sending you a hug........I just feel so unwanted; so alone, forgotten...................enough of this; this thinking will only fuel those feelings.
Hope tomorrow is a better day for you; for us all! I know I can only keep trudging along until my feelings catch up.
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Well here it is tomorrow and I am going to try and put a smile on my face and enjoy life. It is hard I want Bill to hold me and tell me he loves me, but that is never going to happen again he is with someone else..he loves someone else. I have to move on! thank you for the hug picka name here is one back I know it is hard but we have to go on.
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Thanks,ST..........here is hoping today is a better one for both of us! Hope you do at least one thing YOU enjoy! I'll be thinking of you, and try to take the same advice that I might give to you! haha
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I've been following your journey and one thing stands out: you put your husband in the driver's seat literally and figureatively.
It is fine to put him in the driver's seat "literally" as he chose to drive under the influence. He chose to put his marriage, family and life at risk. Let him face the full consequences of his actions whatever they turn out to be. It is beyond your control.
Figureatively, do you really want him to "drive" your life?
You are more important than you think.
You can decide where you want to go.
Do you want to revolve around his insane world?
Until he is sober and faces the full consequences of his actions he is poison to you and your life.
My thoughts are with you.
It is fine to put him in the driver's seat "literally" as he chose to drive under the influence. He chose to put his marriage, family and life at risk. Let him face the full consequences of his actions whatever they turn out to be. It is beyond your control.
Figureatively, do you really want him to "drive" your life?
You are more important than you think.
You can decide where you want to go.
Do you want to revolve around his insane world?
Until he is sober and faces the full consequences of his actions he is poison to you and your life.
My thoughts are with you.
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