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Aquiana 04-14-2005 08:25 PM

Speaking of songs....
 
I was listenin' to tunes tonight and on came this one. Man this sounds like exactly what I feel sometimes. Kind of hit the nail right on the head.

Better Man
Waitin’, watchin’ the clock, it’s four o’clock, it’s got to stop
Tell him, take no more, she practices her speech
As he opens the door, she rolls over...
Pretends to sleep as he looks her over
She lies and says she’s in love with him, can’t find a better man...
She dreams in color, she dreams in red, can’t find a better man...
Can’t find a better man (2x)
Ohh...

Talkin’ to herself, there’s no one else who needs to know...
She tells herself, oh...
Memories back when she was bold and strong
And waiting for the world to come along...
Swears she knew it, now she swears he’s gone
She lies and says she’s in love with him, can’t find a better man...
She dreams in color, she dreams in red, can’t find a better man...
She lies and says she still loves him, can’t find a better man...
She dreams in color, she dreams in red, can’t find a better man...
Can’t find a better man (2x)
Yeah...

She loved him, yeah...she don’t want to leave this way
She feeds him, yeah...that’s why she’ll be back again
Can’t find a better man (3x)
Can’t find a better...man...
Ohh...ohh...
Uh huh... (5x)

Pearl Jam
Ohh...

JessicaNAJ 04-15-2005 05:25 AM

I love that song.....but you know what, I never really paid that close attention to the words. Ironically, I've felt that way for many many years. Just going through the motions because of this ring around my finger.

I said I loved him, but it was a maternal type love..... always said I could never find a man better than him, he had me convinced all men were scum but him..... I'd lay in bed wondering if life was better than that......it is so so so much better now.

Thank you for sharing Aquiana....I have a new song to add my list to down load.

Aquiana 04-16-2005 11:15 AM


Originally Posted by Aquiana
Memories back when she was bold and strong
And waiting for the world to come along...


This is the part of the song that's really been bugging me the last few days. Is there anyone else who can't figure out where all the strength and courage that was there at one time went? There was a time in my life not too long ago even that there was't a snowballs chance in he*& that I would have put up with even a fraction of the disrespect that comes out of abf sometimes. I've been wondering seriously what happened, what changed? I can't get my head around why I let it go now. Is it just fear? Insecurity I didn't have then? It's eating my brain.... I need to get that back. That's what I need to do.

JessicaNAJ 04-16-2005 05:52 PM


Originally Posted by Aquiana
Is there anyone else who can't figure out where all the strength and courage that was there at one time went? There was a time in my life not too long ago even that there was't a snowballs chance in he*& that I would have put up with even a fraction of the disrespect that comes out of abf sometimes.

I've thought about this too. I think it has to do with letting go of my boundaries. My AH used to tell me all the time I was psycho. I wanted to do everything I could to make him happy and I wanted to grow old with my highschool sweetheart. I think I was brainwashed. I was made to believe that most of what happened was my fault. And me being the "fixer" that I was, I believed him.

Well.....That fight in me is back. And he will NEVER treat me the way he has ever again. (You guys will help me if I slip, right?)

JT 04-16-2005 06:12 PM

It happens so slowly that we don't even realize it. We go from the idealistic young woman into a relationship. Even a relationship without addiction, illness, or any other life altering circimstance has it's challenges. All is not ever going to be all candlelit dinners and roses into eternity.

It happens so slowly that we don't even realize that we are tolerating things that the idealistic person we used to be would never have dreamed of. Then here come the kids and the neighbors and society's expectations of us. And we find ourselves feeling trapped and feeling guilty for feeling the way we are feeling. It must be something we are doing wrong.

And in a way it is. We can fix it!

((Hugs))
JT

myselfagain 04-17-2005 03:32 PM

how bout this bt nickelback "Someday"
 
how the hell'd we wind up like this
And why weren't we able
To see the signs that we missed
And try to turn the tables
I wish you'd unclench your fists
And unpack your suitcase
Lately there's been too much of this
But don't think it's too late

Nothing's wrong
Just as long as you know that someday I will
Someday, somehow
I''m gonna make it alright
But not right now
I know you're wondering when
You're the only one who knows that
Someday somehow
I'm gonna make it alright
But not right now
I know you're wondering when

Well I'd hope that since we're here anyway
That we could end up saying
Things we've always needed to say
So we could end up staying
Now the story's played out like this
Just like a paperback novel
Let's rewrite an ending that fits
Instead of a Hollywood horror

Nothing's wrong
Just as long as you know that someday I will
Someday, somehow
I''m gonna make it alright
But not right now
I know you're wondering when
You're the only one who knows that
Someday sohmehow
I'm gonna make it alright
But not right now
I know you're wondering when
You're the only one who knows that
I know you're wondering when
You're the only one who knows that
I know you're wondering when


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