He's talking the talk, AGAIN!
Caring for the 3 little bears
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Join Date: Nov 2004
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He's talking the talk, AGAIN!
got to work this am and he had left a message. He met a recovered A in jail who is there serving an old warrant. He has helped AH start working steps again, on step 3. He now knows, "I've been to recovery", "I've worked the program" "I've been to jail" "The next place to go is my grave"
"Please don't file divorce papers - I know this is it"
Heard it all before.
Talking the talk. AGAIN.
"Please don't file divorce papers - I know this is it"
Heard it all before.
Talking the talk. AGAIN.
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Let him walk the walk. Not just talk the talk. Whatever you decide has no reflection on his decisions. Unless, you want to wait and hope it gets better. If it flops, it's time lost. Think hard.
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Stay strong - Words are just that, words.... Actions are much louder.
I'm dealing with the same thing with my AH. He is not talking .... seems to be taking action .... but is still not seeking a recovery program. His ego is to good for that.... hmmm???
Hang in there - you are doing wonderfully.
((((((WRAY))))))
I'm dealing with the same thing with my AH. He is not talking .... seems to be taking action .... but is still not seeking a recovery program. His ego is to good for that.... hmmm???
Hang in there - you are doing wonderfully.
((((((WRAY))))))
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He may be talking the talk, Wray, but you don't have to listen. Remember what we did when we were kids and we didn't want to hear some garbage our friends had to say? We covered our years and said "la la la" so loudly that we couldn't hear a word they were saying.
Another method is to think of the lines your husband is feeding you like the children on the Charlie Brown cartoons heard the adults when they spoke: "wa-wa-wa, wa-wa-wa."
Or think of it this way: Garbage in, garbage out.
You get the idea. Stay strong, Wray. Don't fall for this BS. He's doing some pretty good manipulation there. He's afraid he's losing his codie. What he hasn't figured out yet is that he lost his codie a long time ago.
Another method is to think of the lines your husband is feeding you like the children on the Charlie Brown cartoons heard the adults when they spoke: "wa-wa-wa, wa-wa-wa."
Or think of it this way: Garbage in, garbage out.
You get the idea. Stay strong, Wray. Don't fall for this BS. He's doing some pretty good manipulation there. He's afraid he's losing his codie. What he hasn't figured out yet is that he lost his codie a long time ago.
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Words alone are nowhere near the same things as actions. I seem to remember you being clear that you still love him (apologies if I have that wrong) but you can love him, hope for him and keep your boundaries.
Thinking of you...
Thinking of you...
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