Books suggestions?
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Books suggestions?
I was thinking of getting some more books..my SO is leaving tomorrow, but seeing as I am ACoA and I dont want this kind of realtionship again, I dont see the harm right?
These are the books I heard about and thought would be good...anyone read them or have any other suggestions?
Thanks
The Dilemna of an Alcoholic Marriage
Games Alcoholics Play
These are the books I heard about and thought would be good...anyone read them or have any other suggestions?
Thanks
The Dilemna of an Alcoholic Marriage
Games Alcoholics Play
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Another good book is:
How much of me do I have to give up to be loved by you!
Just typing the title gives me pause for thought. What do I need to do for my growth today? Am I trying to be something I am not just to please someone in my life? Where and what would my H.P. have me do to become the person He created me to be?
How much of me do I have to give up to be loved by you!
Just typing the title gives me pause for thought. What do I need to do for my growth today? Am I trying to be something I am not just to please someone in my life? Where and what would my H.P. have me do to become the person He created me to be?
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Al-Anon's book From Survival To Recovery deals specifically with ACoA issues, and their daily reader Hope For Today does as well.
In my own experience, books only took me so far and kept me in my head a bit too much.
For my own ACoA issues, Al-Anon has been the saving grace and has taught me how to get healthy and enjoy healthy relationships. I shudder to think where I'd be today had I not become an active member of the fellowship these past years. I'd prob'ly be surrounded by quite a collection of half-read self-help books (more than I have already, heh, heh...) stacked from floor to ceiling, acting as doorstops and paperweights...
"Self-help" is what got me in trouble in the first place: I helped myself to whatever I could get from others (and chose others who'd do the same to me). The mutual help offered through 12-Step recovery is what finally worked!
In my own experience, books only took me so far and kept me in my head a bit too much.
For my own ACoA issues, Al-Anon has been the saving grace and has taught me how to get healthy and enjoy healthy relationships. I shudder to think where I'd be today had I not become an active member of the fellowship these past years. I'd prob'ly be surrounded by quite a collection of half-read self-help books (more than I have already, heh, heh...) stacked from floor to ceiling, acting as doorstops and paperweights...
"Self-help" is what got me in trouble in the first place: I helped myself to whatever I could get from others (and chose others who'd do the same to me). The mutual help offered through 12-Step recovery is what finally worked!
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Dilema of the Alcoholic Marriage has a lot of good ways to improve communication. I found that when I was working through it, I was able to change a lot of the ways I communicated with Mr Magic. It improved our relationship even before he got back into recovery. I agree with nocell on the to recommendations. I have read many books that aren't Al-Anon, but I study, learn, and try to live the 12 step recovery. Hugs, Magic
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"Boundaries" has helped me a lot. It not only discusses setting boundaries, but one chapter delves back into your childhood and gives examples of ACOA and others and explains WHY we are the way we ARE. And one chapter gives descriptions of adults who are "codie" and why they are that way. Then, why we need to work on changing some of those behaviors. It is a Christian book.
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These are what I ordered and I cant wait from them to get here
Marriage On The Rocks : Learning to Live with Yourself and an
Alcoholic...
"The Glass Castle : A Memoir"
Jeannette Walls;
"An Adult Child's Guide to What's Normal"
John C. Friel Ph.D.;
"Boundaries and Relationships"
Charles Whitfield;
"When Misery Is Company: Ending Self-Sabotage and Misery Addiction"
Anne Katherine;
Marriage On The Rocks : Learning to Live with Yourself and an
Alcoholic...
"The Glass Castle : A Memoir"
Jeannette Walls;
"An Adult Child's Guide to What's Normal"
John C. Friel Ph.D.;
"Boundaries and Relationships"
Charles Whitfield;
"When Misery Is Company: Ending Self-Sabotage and Misery Addiction"
Anne Katherine;
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I recall reading this one a while back:
Adult Children of Alcoholics, by Janet Woititz
Here's the Amazon link
As you can see on the page, she's written quite a bit on the subject.
Claudia Black's good, too.
...and there's always Bradshaw...
Hope you find what you need!
Adult Children of Alcoholics, by Janet Woititz
Here's the Amazon link
As you can see on the page, she's written quite a bit on the subject.
Claudia Black's good, too.
...and there's always Bradshaw...
Hope you find what you need!
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