My Valentine
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My Valentine
My son had a Valentine's Day party at school. They all exchanged cards, gave candy and pencils and stickers. (remember...lol)
Anyway, when I picked him up, he gave me his bag and said, "here, this is for you." "What do you mean, for me?" He said, "You didnt' get anything and it's your Valentines day too." He made my heart melt. My little angel. I let him take the day off from homework for being so unselfish. He was thrilled.
My AH got me 3 red roses.
How was your day?
Anyway, when I picked him up, he gave me his bag and said, "here, this is for you." "What do you mean, for me?" He said, "You didnt' get anything and it's your Valentines day too." He made my heart melt. My little angel. I let him take the day off from homework for being so unselfish. He was thrilled.
My AH got me 3 red roses.
How was your day?
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I posted briefly about my day in another post. But I'll share a little bit of it here too.
I have always hated Valentine's Day. I always veiwed it as a day that marketers/business's could make some money and it was a day that loved ones acted the way they should all year long. I hated the whole commercialism of it all!
That being said.....you all realize that I haven't ever acknowledged Valentine's Day other than it being just another day.
Today I took the day off work and I spent it with someone. Nothing major, just shopping and hanging out together. The point is, I gave the gift of my time which he deserves more of. And he gave me what he always does - his love.
It was weird in many ways. But what I noticed is that like I said, he gave me what he always does. So this day wasn't a "suck up" day as I always thought of Valentine's Day before. It was just "our" day to spend time together. And it was nice.
He also gave me a few things (which honestly made me mad - I am so not into material things) but the card he gave me was sooooooooooo freakin' sweet! And as I read it, it was weird because it was filled with the things that he tells me all the time. The things he shows me all the time. And I realized that I have a Valentine everyday.
I did remember at one point in my day how my AH only ever acknowledged Valentine's Day when I was mad at him for one of his episodes. How sad that our marriage was as it was.
But I'm still trying to move forward and let the past be behind me so I didn't think long about it.
And as I posted in another thread, I heard this song today. I'd heard it before, but today the words hit me like a ton of bricks!!! It describes me so well, from the way I used to feel to my acting like a codie, to hitting my rock bottom, to where I am now and where I'm going. And it's my new theme song! LOL.
So for those of you that hurt and feel like today was a sad day...I give you hope....as well as the song I've been singing all day......
Amazing**- Aerosmith
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I kept the right ones out
And let the wrong ones in
Had an angel of mercy to see me through all my sins
There were times in my life
When I was goin' insane
Tryin' to walk through
The pain
When I lost my grip
And I hit the floor
Yeah, I thought I could leave, but couldn't get out the door
I was so sick and tired
Of a livin' a lie
I was wishin' that I
Would die
It's amazing
With the blink of an eye, you finally see the light
It's amazing
When the moment arrives that you know you'll be alright
It's amazing
And I'm sayin' a prayer for the desperate hearts tonight
That one last shot's a permanent vacation
And how high can you fly with broken wings?
Life's a journey, not a destination
And I just can't tell just what tomorrow brings
You have to learn to crawl
Before you learn to walk
But I just couldn't listen to all that righteous talk
I was out on the street,
Just tryin' to survive
Scratchin? to stay
Alive
It's amazing
With the blink of an eye, you finally see the light
It's amazing
When the moment arrives that you know you'll be alright
It's amazing
And I'm sayin' a prayer for the desperate hearts tonight
Sorry for rambling so much! You should know better than to get me started! LOL
I have always hated Valentine's Day. I always veiwed it as a day that marketers/business's could make some money and it was a day that loved ones acted the way they should all year long. I hated the whole commercialism of it all!
That being said.....you all realize that I haven't ever acknowledged Valentine's Day other than it being just another day.
Today I took the day off work and I spent it with someone. Nothing major, just shopping and hanging out together. The point is, I gave the gift of my time which he deserves more of. And he gave me what he always does - his love.
It was weird in many ways. But what I noticed is that like I said, he gave me what he always does. So this day wasn't a "suck up" day as I always thought of Valentine's Day before. It was just "our" day to spend time together. And it was nice.
He also gave me a few things (which honestly made me mad - I am so not into material things) but the card he gave me was sooooooooooo freakin' sweet! And as I read it, it was weird because it was filled with the things that he tells me all the time. The things he shows me all the time. And I realized that I have a Valentine everyday.
I did remember at one point in my day how my AH only ever acknowledged Valentine's Day when I was mad at him for one of his episodes. How sad that our marriage was as it was.
But I'm still trying to move forward and let the past be behind me so I didn't think long about it.
And as I posted in another thread, I heard this song today. I'd heard it before, but today the words hit me like a ton of bricks!!! It describes me so well, from the way I used to feel to my acting like a codie, to hitting my rock bottom, to where I am now and where I'm going. And it's my new theme song! LOL.
So for those of you that hurt and feel like today was a sad day...I give you hope....as well as the song I've been singing all day......
Amazing**- Aerosmith
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I kept the right ones out
And let the wrong ones in
Had an angel of mercy to see me through all my sins
There were times in my life
When I was goin' insane
Tryin' to walk through
The pain
When I lost my grip
And I hit the floor
Yeah, I thought I could leave, but couldn't get out the door
I was so sick and tired
Of a livin' a lie
I was wishin' that I
Would die
It's amazing
With the blink of an eye, you finally see the light
It's amazing
When the moment arrives that you know you'll be alright
It's amazing
And I'm sayin' a prayer for the desperate hearts tonight
That one last shot's a permanent vacation
And how high can you fly with broken wings?
Life's a journey, not a destination
And I just can't tell just what tomorrow brings
You have to learn to crawl
Before you learn to walk
But I just couldn't listen to all that righteous talk
I was out on the street,
Just tryin' to survive
Scratchin? to stay
Alive
It's amazing
With the blink of an eye, you finally see the light
It's amazing
When the moment arrives that you know you'll be alright
It's amazing
And I'm sayin' a prayer for the desperate hearts tonight
Sorry for rambling so much! You should know better than to get me started! LOL
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My first Valentine's Day without my AH, who I had been with for almost 6 years.
For all those years Valentine's Day was disappointing.
My AH did what he felt he had to, he never seemed to want to.
How many times did he say "I guess I have to get you something, right?"
For him the best part of getting me anything was telling and showing as many people as possible to get the praise and credit.
This year it was wonderful.
I am dating a new guy, nice and patient and... emotionally healthy.
He had been my friend (past coworker) for a few years, and now we have been dating for 8 months, going out about once a week.
He knows all my issues, and tells me I am worth the rollercoaster it can be for him to be dating me while I keep him at arms length and focus on me.
He came with flowers, and a gift bag for my daughter with a pretty stuffed unicorn.
He made reservations at an historic restaurant (est.1772) on a charming main street of an historic town, and our table was in front of a fireplace.
A bottle of white zinfandel, fabulous food, sinful dessert.
They gave each woman a rose.
He made me feel beautiful the entire evening.
We laughed and talked and had the comfort of friends.
He smiled and was attentive and charming, clear that his interest is more than friendship alone.
It was a dreamy evening, and he never made me feel uncomfortable about my limited timeframe because I had to get my daughter back before 9pm.
Today at my office a dozen long-stemmed roses were delivered.
So this is how it is supposed to be.
What took me so long?
I only wish I weren't so numb inside.
I am keeping him at arms length because somehow none of the passion is there that I felt for my AH.
I am working on me, to hopefully learn to appreciate this nice and gentle man. My addiction to the 'bad boy' is unhealthy, and I am not going to make any rush decisions and miss an opportunity to develop deeper feelings for this incredibly good person.
For all those years Valentine's Day was disappointing.
My AH did what he felt he had to, he never seemed to want to.
How many times did he say "I guess I have to get you something, right?"
For him the best part of getting me anything was telling and showing as many people as possible to get the praise and credit.
This year it was wonderful.
I am dating a new guy, nice and patient and... emotionally healthy.
He had been my friend (past coworker) for a few years, and now we have been dating for 8 months, going out about once a week.
He knows all my issues, and tells me I am worth the rollercoaster it can be for him to be dating me while I keep him at arms length and focus on me.
He came with flowers, and a gift bag for my daughter with a pretty stuffed unicorn.
He made reservations at an historic restaurant (est.1772) on a charming main street of an historic town, and our table was in front of a fireplace.
A bottle of white zinfandel, fabulous food, sinful dessert.
They gave each woman a rose.
He made me feel beautiful the entire evening.
We laughed and talked and had the comfort of friends.
He smiled and was attentive and charming, clear that his interest is more than friendship alone.
It was a dreamy evening, and he never made me feel uncomfortable about my limited timeframe because I had to get my daughter back before 9pm.
Today at my office a dozen long-stemmed roses were delivered.
So this is how it is supposed to be.
What took me so long?
I only wish I weren't so numb inside.
I am keeping him at arms length because somehow none of the passion is there that I felt for my AH.
I am working on me, to hopefully learn to appreciate this nice and gentle man. My addiction to the 'bad boy' is unhealthy, and I am not going to make any rush decisions and miss an opportunity to develop deeper feelings for this incredibly good person.
Wipe your paws elsewhere!
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Jess, that is the loveliest, most heartfelt Valentine's Day gift I've ever heard of. You're one lucky woman. And three roses, ain't bad either. Sounds like you had a nice day.
And StandingStrong, what a uplifting post. I'll consider your song my Valentine's Day gift. Just what I needed.
I don't know what I'd do without you all.
And StandingStrong, what a uplifting post. I'll consider your song my Valentine's Day gift. Just what I needed.
I don't know what I'd do without you all.
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My valentines day was spent with you good folks here. I got a few laughs, heard some stories, and I think I may have been a little bit of inspiration to someone haveing a hard time. My AH went back to work yesterday and to tell you the truth if he had been here my day would not have been as good as it was. I had a good day.
Hugs to all
Zoe
Hugs to all
Zoe
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I got hugs and kisses from my children and they gave me some of their candy. 
My husband told me he thought of getting flowers, but knew that we did not have money...he is right. He did tell me that he loved me and he thanked me for being his best friend.
I knit him a hat.
Jenny
My husband told me he thought of getting flowers, but knew that we did not have money...he is right. He did tell me that he loved me and he thanked me for being his best friend.
I knit him a hat.
Jenny
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