He’s drinking again
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Originally Posted by London85 
You was all right. I was trying to see the good.
Ive reached out to friends and family I isolated before to ask for help getting me out of here.
Staying with a friend tomorrow and looking for somewhere to live.
I need to leave before my spirit gets broken.
Ive reached out to friends and family I isolated before to ask for help getting me out of here.
Staying with a friend tomorrow and looking for somewhere to live.
I need to leave before my spirit gets broken.
Good work in seeing through it, it is very difficult and painful to accept reality. We get so trauma bonded and wrapped up in them.
Take care.
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Originally Posted by advbike
Sorry to hear, but not a surprise really, after I went back and read your posts from earlier this month. It's really hard for alcoholics to quit for long. Once they begin to feel better physically and mentally, the AV (Addictive Voice) begins whispering in their ear that they can handle "a couple" drinks again. It's really just the primitive brain wanting more. The same brain that wants air and food and sex. Especially during times of increased emotions, because alcohol was used to dampen them.
If you read in the Newcomers section here you will see a half dozen posts about it at any given time. People wondering what happened. Thinking they could return to moderate drinking. Unfortunately it never works. Once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic. There is a great book about it called Alcohol Explained by William Porter, if you want to learn how it works from a physiological and psychological standpoint. Easy to read, not preachy at all.
If you read in the Newcomers section here you will see a half dozen posts about it at any given time. People wondering what happened. Thinking they could return to moderate drinking. Unfortunately it never works. Once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic. There is a great book about it called Alcohol Explained by William Porter, if you want to learn how it works from a physiological and psychological standpoint. Easy to read, not preachy at all.
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Originally Posted by London85
You was all right. I was trying to see the good.
Ive reached out to friends and family I isolated before to ask for help getting me out of here.
Staying with a friend tomorrow and looking for somewhere to live.
I need to leave before my spirit gets broken.
Ive reached out to friends and family I isolated before to ask for help getting me out of here.
Staying with a friend tomorrow and looking for somewhere to live.
I need to leave before my spirit gets broken.
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Join Date: Sep 2021
Posts: 142
The people giving you good advice here, many of them have lived through what you are going through. Alcoholism is the same. Your alcoholic is not unique. It is hard to learn from other people, but it hurts us less than making our own mistakes. Let this man follow his own path. Maybe he gets sober and returns to you a better man. But you have to take care of yourself and let him take care of himself. You can not fix him.
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