Macyc

I got a text today from one of ah friends asking me if I would return the dog, bring the dog home. If I didn’t then ah was going to file a police report.

I didn’t reply and just blocked him. There was a day this would have caused me anxiety. It didn’t. I see just another tactic. One that isn’t working.

call them, it’s a civil matter. So sue me. Find me first though. And that’s all I have to say about that. Return our dog? Nah. Do notice not asking about me or the kids, just our dog. It isn’t the kids dog and my dog to be real but suddenly he’s going to act like it’s his. Blah blah blah.

trailmix

You know, he's not really very good at this manipulation stuff. That completely works in your favour.

"Hi, I want to file a report against my wife for stealing our dog"

Really? Yes, the police will take that seriously.

And this "friend" sending the text must either be scared of your AH or just not very - in tune.

I'm so glad that you are able to manage this calmly though, for your sake.

Macyc

I meant the dog is the kids and mine. Not isn’t. Like ah takes care of anything..... he doesn’t.

yes, I won’t be budging. Or panicking over that one. Find another button ah. That ones fixed 🤣

dandylion

Macy....I am glad that you are not intimidated by this.

silentrun

Is it inappropriate to laugh at that? Its funny but its also sad that a grown man would threaten to call the police over the family dog being with the kids.

Macyc

I assume it’s a control thing. Like “I won’t act like I want her back, or the kids, I’ll make it about MY dog, she will be afraid and bring him back, then I can intimidate her into coming back.”

the “honeymoon” phase of the abuse cycle no longer involves any attempt at an apology anymore. It hasn’t for years. It involves making me sorry to him and he “forgives” he after he’s tortured me to his satisfaction.

i cannot.

Caramel

Macyc, has he tried the one where a friend of his advises you he's been in an accident and needs you to fly to his hospital bedside? That one may come.

All the best to you.

Macyc

Ha. Not yet but before he tried a crisis. So yes. I assume that’ll be at some point. He’s also before made cryptic remarks that lead to the idea he’s going to Kill himself. Or some medical emergency for someone else even. Ugh. I’m not going to reply to those either.

Ariesagain

Your ex shouldn’t be allowed within a hundred yards of a dog. Any dog.

Oh, there’s another one I’ve heard here…he will suddenly announce he has cancer. IIRC, someone here was actually driving their ex to their doctor appointments for a fictional disease.

Stand tough, good woman. You’re doing great!

LLLisa

Oh my goodness yes! I've had the fake cancer crises too.

velma929

Is it wrong of me to imagine this going on "The People's Court?" Your self-righteous soon-to-be-Ex who sends these weird texts, and who when his family leaves, only asks for the DOG?

Bekindalways

This really is kind of hilarious.

Also I didn't know a fake cancer crisis was a thing. Sigh . . . . alcoholics are so weird.

Ariesagain

Macy, how are you?

Seren

Oh, yes...my AS (alcoholic stepson) has alluded to cancer or some other mysterious disease. Has commented that he could just throw himself off the bridge while walking to his j-o-b (like it was a 4-letter word). Even now, his "I should be dead" act doesn't play well with anyone. *sigh* It's all an unfortunate part of the active addiction that sometimes lingers even after the drinking/drugging has stopped.

Eauchiche

Reminds me of the guy who killed both his parents, then threw himself on the mercy of the court because he was an orphan.

PeacefulWater12

Wow, someone in my family pulled the fake cancer stunt too. Was a big ol' manipulation to get something or other.

Staggering really. How on earth do they come up with this stuff?

Eauchiche

Elementary school. They just never outgrew it.

PeacefulWater12

lol!