case762

Definition of Codependency: "Excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically one who requires support on account of an illness or addiction"

Clearly, I am a codependent! Maybe we should start a sub-group of the Friends and Family section called "Codependents Anonymous." 😂. All joking aside, at least the first step is admitting the problem. Sounds a lot like something else closely related here. But the next steps and actions are always harder than the words.

dandylion

There are many definitions of co-dependency around. My favorite one is this one----"Co-dependency is not so much about relationships with others as it is about the LACK of relationship with one's own self".

enaiddes

Please dont sign up for more suffering by returning to this horribly unhealthy person and situation. Stay safe, stay away.

I didnt stay away and I’ll regret it forever.

Leftinthedust

Case, how is your life working out now? Maybe it’s posted in another thread I have not found. Going through a similar hell with an AW in rehab but she’s gone totally silent on we’ve hit month 4. I suspect she’s found her “next high or buzz” inside with someone else, but am just grasping at straws since I don’t hear anything.

I hope you’ve been able to detach, to step back and do what’s best for your kids. I hope your father didn’t have to deal with her when she got out. I hope you are stateside and safe. I used to make my living on the ocean, gone for months at a time. I understand the helpless feeling of not being able to be “present” physically. I hope you are doing well. Peace to you!