To clean, or not to clean.
Cookie......a combination that you might find more helpful would be to get a counselor for yourself---for issues that feel more specific to your personal situation---and attend an alanon group that feel more suitable for you. As is often said, on this site---that alanon groups come in many "flavors". I have noted that many members do have an alanon group Plus their individual counselor.
You know that you've found the right group when you leave feeling better - and you look forward to going back.
Also, just clarifying that AlAnon is not a support group, it's a program - a multi-level, full life approach to thinking differently and thereby having a better life.
These are my numbers according to my experience - We spend about 1% of the program talking and about 9% doing service. 90% of the program is listening and reflecting. This is by design. So what may at first feel formal and not like a support group is actually structured listening. This is by design. This is the program at work. We don't focus on sympathizing with others' problems, we don't tell others what to do or how to feel. Primarily, we listen and reflect - and there's a reason for that. AlAnon groups are not advice giving groups and they are not support groups, although they certainly can foster wonderfully supportive communities and friendships. AlAnon is a program in which we learn how to quiet down, become aware, think differently and thereby live differently.
These are my numbers according to my experience - We spend about 1% of the program talking and about 9% doing service. 90% of the program is listening and reflecting. This is by design. So what may at first feel formal and not like a support group is actually structured listening. This is by design. This is the program at work. We don't focus on sympathizing with others' problems, we don't tell others what to do or how to feel. Primarily, we listen and reflect - and there's a reason for that. AlAnon groups are not advice giving groups and they are not support groups, although they certainly can foster wonderfully supportive communities and friendships. AlAnon is a program in which we learn how to quiet down, become aware, think differently and thereby live differently.
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