How does the alcoholic recover after jailed, fired, and no car?
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How does the alcoholic recover after jailed, fired, and no car?
Fired. Jailed. Felon. Broke. No license. No car.
Even if he does sober up, and even if he does find a new job, how does he get there?
Seems like once you've self destructed, it is ten times harder to carry on a normal life.
One is hamstrung which makes life even harder than before the self-destruction.
How does one escape the vortex? Take the bus?
Even if he does sober up, and even if he does find a new job, how does he get there?
Seems like once you've self destructed, it is ten times harder to carry on a normal life.
One is hamstrung which makes life even harder than before the self-destruction.
How does one escape the vortex? Take the bus?
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Not easy, but I take the bus everywhere. Maybe 10 times harder but not self'destruction....
By looking to a simpler life,less troublesome friends,and new and better pursuits you may well find peace.
By looking to a simpler life,less troublesome friends,and new and better pursuits you may well find peace.
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Originally Posted by KnowAFew 
Not trying to help anyone. Only he can help himself. On the path of total self-destruction. I know to steer clear.
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Originally Posted by KnowAFew
Fired. Jailed. Felon. Broke. No license. No car.
Even if he does sober up, and even if he does find a new job, how does he get there?
Seems like once you've self destructed, it is ten times harder to carry on a normal life.
One is hamstrung which makes life even harder than before the self-destruction.
How does one escape the vortex? Take the bus?
Even if he does sober up, and even if he does find a new job, how does he get there?
Seems like once you've self destructed, it is ten times harder to carry on a normal life.
One is hamstrung which makes life even harder than before the self-destruction.
How does one escape the vortex? Take the bus?
But I would imagine rebuilding your life is much more productive sober. After all abusing alcohol is what got them there right? Pretty unlikely staying in active addiction would get them out of it, logically speaking. Sober life isn't rainbows and butterflies-anyone can attest to that but at least recovery decreases the likelihood of digging themselves deeper in problems.
And yes, bus, taxi, uber for example is how they could get transportation.
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KAF......I respectfully suggest that your questions might have a more personal basis than mere random curiosity.
Of course, I am not against curiosity.....since it is one thing that propels our species forward, lol.
But, most people come to this forum because of someone in their life that they deeply care about that is causing pain in their life due to an alcohol use disorder. It feels personal, in that context.
All of us have been there, in the belly of that beast, in one way or another. We are familiar with that pain,,,,that kind or worry....that kind of concern.
I'm just saying.
Of course, I am not against curiosity.....since it is one thing that propels our species forward, lol.
But, most people come to this forum because of someone in their life that they deeply care about that is causing pain in their life due to an alcohol use disorder. It feels personal, in that context.
All of us have been there, in the belly of that beast, in one way or another. We are familiar with that pain,,,,that kind or worry....that kind of concern.
I'm just saying.
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Perhaps your Brother?
Anyway, to answer your questions, find work where no reference or police check will be done and take the bus. Many people do this, I have read their stories in the other forum. They figure they got themselves in to this and now they will rebuild and they do and it's hard but they do it anyway.
Anyway, to answer your questions, find work where no reference or police check will be done and take the bus. Many people do this, I have read their stories in the other forum. They figure they got themselves in to this and now they will rebuild and they do and it's hard but they do it anyway.
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There are some amazing stories amongst recovering alcoholics who do indeed come back from very bad situations. Each story is probably a bit different. I wish these stories were more common as many never do make it back to a normal life. Very sad.
Also some amazing stories here of people who manage to untangle themselves from someone they love who is choosing to destroy their own life.
Also some amazing stories here of people who manage to untangle themselves from someone they love who is choosing to destroy their own life.
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connected to recovery lifelines where support, care and
understanding is mostly available to put a halt to the insanity
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First of all, not all jail time is for felonious crimes...many more are probably misdemeanors.
That said, overcoming transportation issues will be much easier than overcoming a record of being convicted of a felony. Both of those are probably easier than staying sober.
I had a colleague who had received alternative sentencing for her drug conviction. She ended up in our city because "that was the halfway house [she] was sent to after rehab." Some years later, she admitted she was using -again- while working with us. None of us had any idea. She was even sponsoring another person in AA.
That said, overcoming transportation issues will be much easier than overcoming a record of being convicted of a felony. Both of those are probably easier than staying sober.
I had a colleague who had received alternative sentencing for her drug conviction. She ended up in our city because "that was the halfway house [she] was sent to after rehab." Some years later, she admitted she was using -again- while working with us. None of us had any idea. She was even sponsoring another person in AA.
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When feeding their addiction, addicts can be the most resourceful people on the planet. The more obstacles between them and their drug of choice, the more resourceful and creative they can get.
Hopefully, they can apply that same level of resourcefulness and creativity to sorting their issues out (both practical and emotional) in recovery.
Hopefully, they can apply that same level of resourcefulness and creativity to sorting their issues out (both practical and emotional) in recovery.
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