Originally Posted by Zevin (Post 7569128)

Have a discussion first but...yeah.... I think it’s a bit much

Originally Posted by dandylion (Post 7563798)

SeekingHelp......lol--back to semantics again. Do you, perhaps, mean that you prefer relationships that are mostly peaceful and fairly free of major conflicts and disturbance----rather than just "simple".
In my view, we humans are complex and the dynamics of any relationship are multifactoral----so, I feel like the word "simple" doesn't quite cover it.
I am remembering when I met my last and wonderful husband. There was so little conflict within myself and, apparently, not with him, either. It just felt comfortable and safe--down deep. It felt nourishing and inspiring. I am not to say that there weren't a lot of challenges---as we were both going through a lot of hurdles from external circumstances, at the time. We did do a lot of talking, from the beginning---more like discussions about these hurdles and how we would, as a team, approach and deal with them. We both vowed to always keep our cards on the table---always be honest with each other---open and honest. Yes, sometimes things were hard---omg, very hard----but, mostly, we were at peace with each other. (in case you are wondering---yes, he was hot.hot, hot,---and I was very attracted to him in the biologic way)

Could this be what you are talking about?