Forevertoolong

Thank-you I will take a look at it.

It will be helpful to get some further insights.

Drinks will always win won't they!

The reality is we haven't been in love for a long time, I don't want a loveless marriage - drinking or no drinking.

Am focusing on co-parenting as best we can and hoping that with his long-awaited "freedom" he will be less likely to be grumpy/intolerant with the kids and will therefore lash out less.

Time will tell.

We had a session today with the psych to run through how to tell the kids which was really helpful.

DesertEyes

SR forum on Adult Children of Alcoholics:

https://www.soberrecovery.com/forums...holic-parents/

Mike

trailmix

Hey FTL, how are you doing?

Forevertoolong

I am good thanks trailmix, although up and down.

we told the kids a few days ago which was the worst day of my life. Even worse than I expected! They cried pleaded sobbed and begged. It was truly awful.

I feel strong. AH is on best behaviour. A couple of drinks here and there but certainly no benders.

I have to remember how often he chose it over us though and how I am breaking a cycle. Also the love has been eroded to a point that im
not sure could be revived even in an ideal world.

it’s scary to be at this point knowing that soon I’ll be on my own. I’m taking a day at a time!

trailmix

That's good you are feeling strong (you sound strong too), yes it's hard, but you know what you know.

I'm sorry telling the kids was even harder than you imagined, I do hope that things have settled a bit now. Hang in there and remember to look after yourself!