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Old 02-09-2020, 10:29 AM
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Heís drinking again. Lol. Go figure. 🤷*♀️. He got in touch with me because his sisters wanted him to talk to his elderly father to move in with them. None of my business but later on he got in touch again and he was drunk. Just canít handle any emotional pressure. Lol. He thinks heís got a handle on it. But, I have no worries about this now, Iím free of it.
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Old 02-09-2020, 10:44 AM
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DandCÖÖ.while it is disappointing...it is never surprising when an alcoholic relapses....
Aren't you sooo grateful to be detached from the situation?!
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Old 02-09-2020, 10:45 AM
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Originally Posted by dandylion View Post
DandCÖÖ.while it is disappointing...it is never surprising when an alcoholic relapses....
Aren't you sooo grateful to be detached from the situation?!
yes, yes and yes! Of course he denied he had been drinking but this time I could care less!
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Old 02-09-2020, 10:58 AM
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That is a shame but without any kind of support this will probably continue. It's very difficult to change without that support.

I'm glad you are doing pretty well and I'm really glad you aren't having to deal with that anymore dazed!


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Old 02-09-2020, 11:04 AM
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That is a shame but without any kind of support this will probably continue. It's very difficult to change without that support.

I'm glad you are doing pretty well and I'm really glad you aren't on that ride anymore dazed!
oh my gosh, yes trail. Remember the horror of last summer? Breaking windows, walking out the door naked, bottles, verbal abuse, police, hospitals??? Surprising he has kept it together this long...
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Old 02-09-2020, 11:05 AM
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That is a shame but without any kind of support this will probably continue. It's very difficult to change without that support.

I'm glad you are doing pretty well and I'm really glad you aren't having to deal with that anymore dazed!


love this image...love it!
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Old 02-09-2020, 11:21 AM
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Most surprising to me is the way I feel. When he was around drinking, I actually physically hurt! He would drink, Iíd get sick. Not feeling that now. 👍👑🤗
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So proud of you Dazed. See how far you have come!! Not your circus, not your monkeys!!! Celebrate your freedom!!
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Old 02-09-2020, 01:36 PM
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Originally Posted by maia1234 View Post
So proud of you Dazed. See how far you have come!! Not your circus, not your monkeys!!! Celebrate your freedom!!
it comes and goes but yes! Not my circus not my monkey!
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Old 02-09-2020, 06:40 PM
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See, it wasnít your marriage but his addiction.

Iím really glad you are having a healthy response to thisóthe hard recovery work youíve done and are still doing is really shining through DC
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Old 02-09-2020, 11:15 PM
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Originally Posted by Hawkeye13 View Post
See, it wasnít your marriage but his addiction.

Iím really glad you are having a healthy response to thisóthe hard recovery work youíve done and are still doing is really shining through DC
youíre right! Any recovery work I exhibit is because I have the best of the best supporting me and held me up ( in your case in real time!) during the worst of it. Mass respect hawk. ❤️
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From what I read above I dont think you are either dazed or confused anymore.

I am still hard lessons but thats a different story,

Glad your doing ok D&C
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Thanks DC--it's truly a team effort here and I learn so much everyday from our collective experience and hope.

I agree with HL that you are neither dazed nor confused any longer, and maybe you might think about a new "handle" for yourself on the list.

You're excellent with language--any ideas?
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Old 02-11-2020, 07:17 AM
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From what I read above I dont think you are either dazed or confused anymore.

I am still hard lessons but thats a different story,

Glad your doing ok D&C
means a lot hL. Thanks for checking in. I remember one response from you that made me think, now there is a REAL man. All the best, d&c
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Old 02-11-2020, 07:18 AM
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Thanks DC--it's truly a team effort here and I learn so much everyday from our collective experience and hope.

I agree with HL that you are neither dazed nor confused any longer, and maybe you might think about a new "handle" for yourself on the list.

You're excellent with language--any ideas?
hmmm. Gonna think in this...❤️👍💯👑
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Old 02-11-2020, 07:22 AM
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hmmm. Gonna think in this...❤️👍💯👑
Iím leaning towards Queen of a lot...lol
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Queen OfaLot

By the way, is he still calling you for emotional rescue or has he realized that's above your pay grade now?
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Originally Posted by Dazedandconfus View Post
Most surprising to me is the way I feel. When he was around drinking, I actually physically hurt! He would drink, Iíd get sick. Not feeling that now. 👍👑🤗
It's funny, I get that feeling too, even if I'm at work away, I mentally feel a "fog" come over me...
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Hawk, he tries to pull me into his drama, but I make it short and sweet. As I stated previously, we were always good friends, and far be it from me, to make his life harder than it is. Simply put: I choose not to be drawn into it...
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Well done on your part for both of you!

I hope he chooses to get back on the wagon and just deal with life on life's terms again.

Meanwhile, keep packing for that lovely farm.
Did you finally choose a place yet?
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